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Well, since you insist : recently, we have had a great lunch in one of the best hotels in town with the other couple (our first and only). And right from the first moment there was that click again, like we are friends for years. MsDiscover took a seat next to the man and I next to the wife, close but very natural. Touching and laughing. It felt really good to be in each others company and nothing of the strong emotions after our first date in November was left. We complimented each other with the looks. Being able to say to another woman she is very hot and I was looking forward to have sex with her again, at the same table where her husband (and my wife) was listening to our conversation, was one of the hot little things I like in swinging so much. It is not only the bigger events and emotions, it's also these little happy things. At one point we asked each other if everyone was in for another hotel date and everyone agreed. So in a few weeks time, depending on the menstrual cycle of both ladies, we will have a wonderful weekend away in a romantic hotel somewhere in the Netherlands. So it seems this fairy tale got its happy ending.

I once walked out of a rather fun party for no reason but my gut feeling that I should. I say trust your instincts. They are there for a reason. If you want a bigger answer, remember that your brain is observing and analyzing tons of complex data every second without you being consciously aware of it. They say that catching a ball in flight involves preforming a so much hideously complex math that, if we had to think about it, most of us would never be able to do at all much less do it in the fraction of a second we need to catch the ball. But we do it anyway. By the same token, your brain is observing and analyzing these women and reaching conclusions about them, almost instantly and without conscious thought. If you took the time to "do the math" you would get the same result. It would just take longer and be a lot harder. So, again I say, trust your instincts.

Feelings: excitement, nervousness, giddy Expectations: only to have a good time with Mr. Sun, check out the atmosphere, and enjoy each others company

I don't know that positive is a prerequisite for productive, in fact, the opposite is sometimes true, and whether or not it's valuable is up to you to decide. I would just point out that you get what you give. Any swinging encounter that is by design meant to be one-sided probably isn't going to be all that great for either side. So, if you are wanting something for her, but yet at the same time are setting it up to fail, then that seems like something that is just best left undone to start with. Too, I don't think it's really fair to draw someone into a situation that you know up front you are very likely to have issues with. Fantasies are often best left as fantasies, and I think this may one of those cases. You obviously have strong feelings on this, and I think that is going to be very difficult if not impossible to work through.

I saw this comic and thought about this thread.

The important thing to remember during these low periods and it happens to all of us for different reasons is that you will come out the other side. If you are trying and so is she then the sun will shine soon.

Yes, good luck! And remember to have fun while meeting, do not only focus on the goal of a possible date. If it doesn't turn out to be as you hope for, at least you had a great dinner/drink/laugh etc.

So interesting, I heard that term used recently for the first time too! I had bareback sex with my special friend a few weeks back and he said "isn't it so much better taking me raw?" I know what he meant and I didn't think much of it. He was in his late 20's, so that would qualify as the younger crowd? I think it's just a new slang term. I haven't heard it used among playmates my age in the late 30's.

I wouldn't worry (if you are) about her being obsessed about the idea of a gang bang. It's a fantasy she wants to live, and that's wonderful. If she does get to have one or more gang bangs, some of the edge of the fantasy may come off of it. Certainly after having a dozen or more, it will become a lot less fantasy and a lot more reality. This would most likely result in her being less obsessed about it. Not wanting it less necessarily, but less obsessed. Let us know how things progress (or not!).