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Hello everyone. Not sure where to start or how to start... My boyfriend mentioned the other day that he would love seeing me with another girl. The more we discussed the more information I was getting. And he seems to be quite into threesomes...which from my perspective is soft swinging. I started feeling really weird and could not continue the conversation. Then I actually got mad because I felt that he should have told me this from the beginning and give me a fair chance at deciding if I want to start a relationship with someone that has this particular sexual preference. I am not a judgemental person but I am a very emotional person. I also like to think of myself as being open minded. But if I can't figure out how to separate love from sex then there's definitely some connections in my brain that need rewiring...right? Funny thing is...I actually always fancied the idea of a threesome. And not because I am attracted to girls or because I am not satisfied with my boyfriend. Our sex life is great. Best I've ever been with!!! But because I can actually imagine what an amazing overload would be on my sensory system. This is how far I can go though... I can actually picture him with someone else but the thought of actually seeing him touch someone else in reality really scares the life out of me. So...how do I do it? How do I separate love from sex? How do I not fall into the jealousy trap??!?

We had a strong relationship from our first couple. No large groups, no strangers. Then we decided to go o the Party House in Point Loma. We were used to nudists, having been seduced by our first nudist couple years earlier. But military transfers had that foursome split up thousands of miles apart. We didn't know how to meet swingers except through the old magazines and PO Box with Poloroids. That seemed the more difficult path. We found the clubs ad in the San Diego paper personals. We contacted them and met at a business office where we were required to complete an application and a short medical history. Behavior and social manners expected by the club and patrons were provided. it was all couched in an method that tacitly made us feel that we were on thin ice during our first visit. We were assured that the patrons attending the club were pre-screened as already experienced in swinging. That they have key host and hostesses to cover all areas of the property to ensure we had a pleasant and safe time. The fee was not refundable and was as we recall well north of $150 just for membership. Each visit would have a donation at the door to cover the foods, maintenance, and mixers. it was BYOB. We were real rubes. Up to then, we were the result of two vanilla couples that had courted each other over nearly a year before engaging in some of the best sex ever. Now, on this first night at a well organized house party, we were going with the premises that we would be fucking strangers, albeit fellow club members.... but strangers. We had valet parking and had brought a small bottle of peppermint schnapps that I like and nervously felt an immediate need. A naked short girl with huge tits scampered up to us and one other new couple that walked in with us. She announced her name and said she was one of the volunteer guides to show us around. She complimented me on my petite size and really perky tits asking if she could touch my titties in such a way that made sense if I objected, I would be overreacting. I agreed and asked to lay mine up beside hers for comparison jokingly. The guide embraced me and squatted down to my height laying her tittiess against mine. She suggested that she wished her titties were smaller like mine, especially when getting fucked doggie style resting on all fours. I immediate became relaxed around her and it was very clear that my hubby and the other couple's hubby were enjoying the show as their hardons were at full attention. Suddenly, our guide took hold of both men's cocks calling for a naked fellow standing across their room to come meet the new members. He glided over to us to meet the two new couples now split apart with our guide standing between my hubby and the other newly all the while holding and softy stroking their cocks. This is my husband, she nodded with her head, never letting her grasp on my husband and the other newbie. Her husband, Jack, had the young Tom Selleck movie star looks with a disarming smile and a gentle touch. He walked between we two newbies to form the chorus line mimicking his bride's alignment with our husbands. He welcomed us and said you will find the facilities and ambiance conducive to guaranteeing that we should find multiple opportunities to fuck our brains out tonight is over. He also said that several folks stay over a have brunch the next day with some afternoon delight. He reached out with his left hand to my newbie companion for her right hand, then the opposite reach for my left hand. He pulled us close so as to touch our sides with his the he pulled our hands down to his growing cock asking we girls to take hold so we could begin the tour in the same manner that our husbands were being lead by his wife. He then put his arms around our shoulders guiding us on the tour. His cock was enormous and our two hands were not large enough to cover the length of his shaft. it felt really kinky to be lead into the main meeting area that way so I decided to stop our little chorus line asking to check something. My hand was at the base of his cock and hers was next in line. I stopped the parade and reached out with my right hand to place above hers on the giant pole. We girls looked at each other as ther was still plenty of pole left. The other girl added her free hand which finally close the gap of the shaft and was able to cover the head of this dick. We looked at each other and both apologized that we don't think we could fuck him and amazed hat his wife could. He was gracious and said that if wanted to enjoy him that he would take extra care to make the experience pleasurable. I looked Down the hallway as his wife was taking the husbands by their cock onto their tour. We saw the balance of the tour ending up at the indoor pool. My newbie buddy had started a conversation having found one of her girl friends from work leaving me with Jack. I didn't notice that I was still holding and stroking Jack's cock until he turned to face me and I felt it lay up almost to my titties. It was apparent that I was going to try to get that monster in me, but I need more schnapps to relax. Jack suggested we slip into the heated pool to relax, enjoy a drink, and allow him to provide Jack-Style foreplay where he would do all of the work. At only 4'10" to his nearly 6' frame, I was worried. Jack took his time, caressing and gracing me with my cocktails, lovely and tantalizing soft compliments, and expressions of how fuckable I was. Several small floats were in the pool. Jack had me floating on my back holding onto the small float against my chest. He spun me around and slipped my legs over his shoulders pulling my pussy to his talented mouth. Several couples were in the pool, many were performing the same dance and a few were actually fucking below the surface. Jack was very talented and managed to rock my world four times before I pulled my legs off his shoulders. I was ready to get fucked by that monster that this gentle soul offered. I told him I wanted to mount him so I could control the insertion easier and that we need a dry place to fuck. We left the pool area and walked down to a bedroom that had several walls created by sheets whose floors held twin size mattresses, a table with breat mints, kubes, and rubbers. It was the late seventies and up to now, we had never used rubbers. I picked one up for Jack and he made a short laugh saying, they don't have one that I don't break just trying to put it on. I grabbed a bottle of lube and laid him on his back. I put the giant cock head in my mouth trying to stroke my head up and down to enjoy his precum. At the same time, I began to stroke his shaft with layers and layers of lube. I wanted him as hard as possible when I would mount him. Jack cooed sweet encouragement to me as he was finger fucking me. I squeezed a handful of lube in that hand asking him to keep adding fingers to get me wet and spread me out. Jack had me on the edge of cumming and I had him nearly ready to shoot. I wanted to feel that monster in me so I stood up and straddled over his cock. I was shaking with excitement and weakened. Jack reached up and braced my outstretched hads to help me control the descent over his rock hard cock. Try as we might, we could get alignment of his cock with my pussy when suddenly a ladies hand took hold of his cock expertly placing it in my pussy. It was Jack's wife. She told us that she had left my hubby with two ladies that were enjoying him greatly and them come looking for us. She wagged her finger at Jack and informed him that she knew he couldn't resist fucking another short girl like her and she was going to make it pleasurable for me. She was used to fuckin this monster dick and acted almost like a birthing coach helping me to allow my pussy to fill with this giant. It was the most that I had ever felt and I could feel myself stretching out. She kept rubbing my clit and pouring on the lube. Her suckling of my nipples caused contractions that helped me pull more of him into me. Jack remained hard and made no thrusts allowing me to control the comfort I need to attain before we could stroke. Finally I bottomed out with my pubic bone touching his. I could feel him up against the top of my cervix. But it was the girth that gave the greatest sense of pleasure. Jack told me he would not push until asked and that I should go ahead and fuck him. His wife then straddled him sitting her pussy on Jack's face offer to help me leverage against the top of her shoulders for the up stroke. I began to ride this snake. I really could get much of a piston move but I was getting in-out traction by rocking like I was riding a slow motion brahma bull at the rodeo. His wife was screaming with joy at her husbands stimulation of her clit. She grabbed me and deepthroated her tongue with me responding in kind. As I rocked back I felt strong arms reach under my arms helping me to gain height and start achieving a piston stroke on Jack's very hard cock. A face came around kissing my neck throwing me into a greater urgency to fuck that cock. It was my husband and he was encouraging me to fuck him, fuck Jack good. I was on overload and began shouting to Jack to unleash that cock and fill me with spunk and fill me now. I was hearing myself to tell him to start pumping that cock in me. My husband lifted me a little higher as I struggled to use my spent legs. The result was to give Jack a longer stroke tunnel without topping out against my cervix. He was sliding three inches in and out which was becoming faster. I suddenly felt that monster begin to expand in its girth. My pussy was so tight that his expansion seemed enormous. My clit was on fire from his wife stroking me, I couldn't hold any longer. My screams of delight attracted several onlookers that made it there in time to see Jack arch his back as his balls pumped several times to overfill me. His wife rolled off Jack's face and I collasped onto his chest with that long snake still quite hard gently pumping more seed. I was on my kness with my head near Jack's nipple when I felt lube down my ass and my rosebud being penetrated by one the two, then three fingers. It was Jack's wife. I heard the rubber snap onto a hard cock with my husband announcing that I was going to achieve a fantasy of having two guys at the same time. My ass was ready and he gently began to push past the sphincter. I tensed for a moment then allowed his cock to enter. Jack's wife slipped her hands around my clit and stuck two lubed fingers up into my husbands rosebud search for his prostate. I was sucking Jack's nipples when I felt him returning to a harden state. That snake was going to deliver again, as the motion from my husband against Jack's dick was reviving it. I groaned and said I wish I had one more cock to fill my mouth. Suddenly several cocks were offered including one black delicious trophy. I sucked on all of them sharing them with Jack's wife. Eventually we all came again with Jack's wife not receiving a single cock that night. She and I laid there for some time while I ate her out and finger fucked her ass. We only went back there one more time the following weekend where we met another couple that became decades of a foursome for us. I fucked Jack several more times, but we noticed that his wife never fucked, she only did oral. Oh and the black dude gentle giant? He was a great fuck the one time I got a chance. I guess our first step at an organized party house was memorable.

I enjoy poppers and thought I may have been using them too much. If you inhale about 10 seconds before you come, the orgasm is mind bending and really long lasting. You can see how one may enjoy something like that. I posted a question on the forum of a very sexual site and was waylaid by the amount of negative reaction. Apparently if you do poppers, you will die of a melted brain. So now I am more conservative in my use, opting for the slow death I guess.

Poppers is a slang term given to the chemical class called alkyl nitrites that are inhaled for recreational purposes, especially in preparation for sex.[1] Today, poppers are mainly sold in cap vials. Most widely sold concentrated products include the original compound amyl nitrite (isoamyl nitrite, isopentyl nitrite), cyclohexyl nitrite, isobutyl nitrite (2-methylpropyl nitrite), and isopropyl nitrite (2-propyl nitrite). Isopropyl nitrite became popular due to a ban on isobutyl nitrite in the EU in 2007. More rarely sold is the compound butyl nitrite. They were part of the club culture from the 1970's disco scene to the 1980's, and the 1990's rave scene made their use popular Found this from wikipedia

Welcome to the forum, prinmattus! I wasn't going to respond because you have already gotten quality responses from others but I figured I'd ring in since we started swinging 3 years ago in our late 20s and now we're in our early 30s (well, I am anyways). 1. When we first started swinging, we would exchange both numbers if we were comfortable, whether we met them before or not. However, just as funcoupledayton eloquently explained, it's not a good idea if you haven't met them yet. Picture attraction is one thing, in person is another. Pictures can be fake. Pictures can be old. They could be photoshopped, good lighting, etc. You don't really know 100% if there's an attraction until you meet them in person and chat with them. Sometimes, people can be great texters but not much fun in person. Sexting before actually meeting them in person is a lot of teasing and expectation that you can't take back if you find that you aren't really attracted to them once you see them in person. It's best to just avoid that type of situation by not engaging in sexting until after you have met them and 100% sure you want to play (or have played) with them. 2. Whenever we meet another couple, whether it's at a party or one-on-one, it's not necessarily a "pairing up" but everyone is involved in the conversation. Sometimes, the men will chat and the women will listen. Sometimes vice versa. Sometimes it's mixed and everyone is contributing. It really depends on what is being said and the personalities of those involved. Some people are quieter than others while some are more outgoing. As for permission, definitely make sure everyone is okay with the situation. During our first experience, I can not be more grateful in how our first couple asked for permission every step of the way to show that they respected us as a couple. Just imagine if you weren't okay with the other male starting to having sex with your wife and he doesn't ask permission. Would you create a scene? Would you keep it inside but then blow up about it at your wife once you guys are home? Wouldn't you much rather avoid either of those options and prefer that the other male asks first? In other words, be the respectful male that you would like your wife to swing with. 3. Once you know a couple and have played with them, sexting differs from couple to couple. Some couples want to keep swinging separate from the rest of their lives and don't want texts/sexts from couples during non-swinging times. Other couples don't mind mingling the two. Then there are couples who only do sexting with couples they are really comfortable with. And, yes, you will find that some couples only want the men to text with the male half and females with female. 4. Again, this depends on the couple and it could just be a case-by-case thing for them as well. We have done one-and-done with some couples and multiple times with others. Sometimes you will find that after playing with a couple, you don't really want a repeat. There are couples that want quantity and others that want quality. Some like both or perhaps go in phases. It can be easy for new swingers to go toward quantity because everything is exciting but then change into wanting quality. 5. If you go strictly with the online profile process, you will find a lot more flakes/fakes. If you don't want to deal with a lot of that, then I would highly recommend doing swinger clubs, parties, and maybe some meet and greets. Those who go to clubs/parties/M&Gs are much more serious and aren't just hiding behind their computer screen. Will you still come across couples who aren't into swinging but there to watch? Yes, but that's just how it is. They might just be testing the waters and be new to swinging--taking a slower approach. For example, the first few times we went to a swinger club, we didn't swap with anyone and only engaged in exhibitionism. Did that mean that we weren't serious about swinging? No, we were just going slowly and making sure we both were comfortable with the environment and having sex with others around us before going any further (not to mention we were a bit shy about interacting with others).