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At some point i found the courage to share some fantasies i had with MsDiscover, the less vanilla kind. To my surprise and relief she was not upset but in fact enjoyed it. And she shared some new fantasies with me. I was very proud on us, on myself, overcoming my introvert me was rewarded with much more openess and a deeper connection with her. The same thing happened with suggesting oral, anal, outdoors. And two years ago with swinging. With every step I was more confident. And not only regarding sex. Or even with MsDiscovr. I'm more confortable with looking people in the eye, starting a conversation, ordering drinks, standing my ground at work, etc. And I firmly believe it goes hand in hand with growing more confidence in my relationship. MrDiscover

We play with a older couple. He is a in shape man and so is she. They are both hot. The woman lost her teeth in a motorcycle accident years ago. Wear a full face helmet please. She hit her face on the handle bars of the bike and lost most of her teeth back in the 80's. She had the rest removed a few years ago because of tmj. When we first started swiging with them I never knew she was wearing dentures. We played and she did it all. She was a good kisser and gave good head. After a couple of years she opened up to me she wore dentures and it took me by suprise.. she whispered in my ear she wanted to give me a gum job without her teeth.. It was great.. it has to be one of the best bj's I had ever had. I would have never known she did not have her own teeth if she had not told me. Which brings me to say that having swinging partners that you are close to is a sweet experience. I hold her in high esteem and would never betray her self image. As I am sure she would do the same for others. I have only one testicle and have never heard a complaint about my scars of absent testi.. There seems to be a mutual admiration of kindness and acceptance found with swingers. The people I have met have taught me so much about accepting others from all walks of life. I have used those lessons in everyday life. My confidence as a man must have doubled when I really knew I could swing and other women really desired me. I can really see that in my wife. The way she carries herself is more confident. I am know that you will be ok and will have fun in what you do.. Because us swingers are good people.

Relationships--especially marriages--change with time. That is part of the joy--and also part of the challenge--of married life. Sex is and remains part of that relationship--a big part for so many of us--that when changes come it destabilizes everyone's world. That destabilization can be wonderful or terrifying depending on the direction of change. Your SLS profile gives additional information, namely your ages. This is a time in life that marital--and yes sexual--roles change. How people see their spouses can change as well. The most important questions probably address the non-sexual domains of your marriage. Put differently, swinging tends to expose fault lines in relationships. Your depression over how she seems to perceive you as a man--and as her man--is understandable. Her happiness is most important to you, yet you sense she is getting that happiness from others far more than from you. These are tough moments in any relationship. They can also be transformative and in a very positive way. You are feeling--and we are using this word deliberately--vulnerable. Have a look at some of Brene' Browns work on vulnerability. https://brenebrown.com/ The conversation you might need to have with yourself and your spouse is not about sex but rather about deeper emotions that are really hard to talk about. We see this challenge about talking about these deeper emotions commonly in clinical practice. Our point is that others have been down this road, there is help, and you are not alone. Not saying that you have any of the following, but situations such as you are describing can lead to feelings of worthlessness, anxiety about being marginalized, and fears of abandonment. If these are in your deep thoughts, it can be very very tough to acknowledge them. Those emotions will terrify anyone--male or female, adult or child. It takes a fair bit of courage to get these feelings into the open first in your own mind and then in conversation--this is the vulnerability piece--but is nevertheless foundational to moving forward.

STOP immediately... Myself and Mr G have a stop, start swing (hobby) and it's a good thing!! We know couples that live the lifestyle 24/7 but for some couples it doesn't have to be like that. If you eat the same sandwich day in day out then its easy to imagine that eating a different filling is more desirable than the norm but taking time out together is what keeps it exciting and thrillig for us and keeps us 'on the same page'. The times when we actually stop and reconnect because there has been stress/ issues/ busy lives/ or just a disconnect are what keeps the intimacy between us. It's not the be all and end all when you take time out, in fact it's the opposite.

That's great to hear Glida

First of all, welcome to the forum, Ashley1987! Second of all, there's nothing wrong with being a "slut". We don't view that word in a derogatory or negative way here. As for you and your husband...perhaps you can see what has created this change in him? Something must have occurred from then to now. If he is religious, it might also play a hand in viewing sex in the manner he does now versus then. For some people, they see marriage as being a time to "tighten up" where the marriage bed has to be kept pure. He might also be stressed out from work, have some family issues that are bothering him, or health issues. Other than this, are there other marital issues? Sex within a marriage can often be dependent on all of the above variables as well as others. Once the marriage and sex is in a healthy and loving place, only then can an exploration into fetishes, fantasies, etc. be done in a healthy way that is good for the relationship. To try fantasies/fetishes/etc. under pressure, ultimatums, or as a last resort to fix a relationship is a recipe for disaster. Make this about him and your marriage and go from there. If you can get him to open up to you on what may be bothering him, support him, communicate, and give him time...then perhaps it will open up a new chapter in the relationship that may lead to fulfilling those fantasies together. Best of luck and I hope you keep us updated!

Cheating---Husband doesn't know. Hotwife---Husband knows and is turned on by it and both parties share the experience either through talking or watching. Cuckolding---there is an element of humiliation toward the husband that also turns him on. It can take many forms. Without the humiliation factor it isn't cuckolding. Otherwise we'd have to classify swingers playing separately as cucks. I wouldn't (and suspect others) like being called that.

Well I do suffer ED due to a combination of things. Diabetes, high blood pressure and over weight. According to my doctor they don't even try to diagnosis the cause anymore they just make sure your healthy enough for sex and then find what works best for each man. Myself it ended up being the trimix injection as none of the pills helped much at all. He told me if the injections stop working then the penile implants would be the next step. I have never had a partner have a problem with me using the injection but I don't use it often as it is inconvenient to use and does seem to last way to long. We love the club scene and pulling a needle out and giving yourself a injection is not always doable. But back to the original question I have not had any complaints about how I get the erection but they need to realize that it isn't going soft for 3 or 4 hrs and I do not expect for them to play that long.

My wife and I know a man who has an implant. She says just as good as the "real thing", so to speak. This man's is not hard all of the time. Just when he wants it to be.

For all people here who commented our introduction: If you have a different view, why you interfere our introduction with your comments ? Did we asked you to comment our view? Did we comment your profile or introduction? Stay in your leagues and do not try to improve world from your limited view. Usually swinger are tolerant people and let everybody to keep his opinion and preferences without trying to teach or criticize other. Obviously we are wrong here