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Who ever said geography was boring? Here's a geographic breakdown of who prefers boobs, butts, legs, etc. broken down by location. It starts off looking at that pressing questions worldwide, then gets into a state by state breakdown in the U.S. I've seen this summarized on several popular media outlets, but linked right to the source so you can delve deep into the data and draw your own conclusion Pornhub insights: boobs vs butts

A couple years ago we met up for coffee with a supposed single male. He was wearing a wedding ring so I asked if he was married and if she knew of his playing. Yes to being married and GOD NO to her knowing. He went on to explain that we deserved the truth because without it there could not be any trust between us. We left shortly after that. It still amazes me that people think a total stranger deserves more honesty than their spouse.

Thanks for this, Lionheart. Truthfully, I was a little nervous to post it, so really, thank you. Both parties play their part. If we feel satisfied that the people we play with are in a good place (maritally), we would play with them. This doesn't have to involve a polygraph and a background check; you get pretty good at sussing out the liars in a hurry. But if you find out the twats lied to you and are actually two cheaters pretending to be a married couple, then for us, that's up there with finding out they just knowingly gave you gonorrhea. Because we know how this would make us feel, we tend to avoid random encounters and group play where you have no idea who you're fucking; we like to get to know our partners a bit first (not that we know their last names!). I don't judge anyone for getting involved in random encounters if they enjoy it; the blame still lies squarely on the people doing the cheating, and they shouldn't be there. But cheaters, being what they are, feel no qualms whatsoever lying to whomever they need to to get what they want. If your comfort level allows you to play with that level of risk, that's up to you and again, no judgment. I just know it's outside our comfort zone. You can't keep people from lying to you, and it's not your fault if they make you believe them - some people are extremely skilled liars. I just don't feel it's okay to turn a blind eye when your bullshit detector is going off. And it's definitely not okay (for us anyway) to get involved when they are being honest with you about their dishonesty.

Don't know if this is going to be lost in translation, but: When my wife is teasing my cock, pointed at her firm breasts and right at the point when I'm ready to explode, she whispers 'I'm washable'. Kaboom.

There are several theories about why some (in my experience more men have the fantasy than will acknowledge it). You may identify with one, two or all of them. The first is voyeurism. Some men really get-off on watching others have sex. Porn is a great example of this. Some men like to watch their porn live. Watching your wife sleep with another man is watching her have sex from the third person perspective, something you don't get when you are having sex with her. She's already your favorite porn star, watching her with other men is just an extension of that. This brings us to another theory: sperm wars. Men's reptilian brain works in such a way as to make him compete with other men for impregnating a woman. Women who have just had sex can cause greater arousal in men, or more attention from, than a woman who hasn't. Studies have shown that men produce more sperm when watching MFM porn. So it may be your reptilian brain prodding you to "reclaim" your mate or "beat-out" any other guys DNA. Lastly, you may just like to see your wife fully satisfied and well fucked, just laying there like a wobbly little spunk bomb. I know personally I'd feel more aroused when my wife had just had sex with another man. We would have incredible sex after she returned from visiting a playmate, we'd just had a MFM or swapped with another couple. I also liked to see her completely satisfied and worn-out and in that floaty, after sex space where she was barely aware of anything going on around her. That said, I have a good friend that is a true cuckold and gets-off through his wife being fucked by "superior" men and even withholding from him unless her bull says it's okay for her to fuck him. Some men, especially those in positions of power in their everyday life, love the idea of being sexually submissive and inferior to other men in their playtime. So there you go. You may even have other reasons. I hope in the couple years since you started this thread you've realized your fantasy and why it does turn you on so much. LS

this concept (her with another guy), and her eventual acceptance of that, is what got us started in Hotwifing. when it's good, it sure is hot! watching & hearing (and joining in), is very hot!!!

I have a huge fantasy to let me wife have sex with other people, men or women. I'm not a possessive kind of guy and I can see the potential my wife has sexually. She can squirt and is multi orgasmic. I would love to see her take a BBC or just other guys in general. She had some experiences with another girl as a kid, and I'm sure she would enjoy playing with another woman now too, if she could break down some inhibitions and stretch herself just a bit. My ultimate fantasy is to watch another guy take her hard from behind, making her climax all over him several times. This could be a threesome or even a couple swap experience. I think it would be really amazing. My wife looks good, a woman with a good body and lots of sexual potential should be shared! Sharing is caring :-)

My fantasy is to see my wife sucking a nice hard dick, then sticking it in my mouth and slowly jacking him off. Next he sticks that hard wet cock in her pussy and as he pumps her I am there licking her clit and his cock. Next I want her to pull him out and he stick that meat stick in my ass and I look at her as she is watching me get pounded. Finally I want her to jack him off into my mouth and load me up with hot sticky jizz!!! Thats my fantasy!

The way your husband feels is exactly how I feel about that, though my wife and I have not done anything yet, just talk. The visual, and as you describe teasing your man! That is what is so sexy about it! I fantasize about my wife fucking other people all the time, especially other men. The only way I think I would get jealous is if I thought I could possibly lose her to the other person, like they started becoming really good friends or something like that.

Wow, that kind of surprises me that this fantasy is so common that the sex therapist says it is considered normal sexual fantasy behavior! I guess it's not the kind of thing most guys bring up to there best buds over beers! It stands to reason...it is not so much socially acceptable to say that is your fantasy as compared to saying you want to share your wife with another girl, or that you want to fuck 2 girls at the same time, which I have several friends, if not all my friends, say to me throughout my life!

Believe it not there is a lot of men that share the same fantasy of seeing their wife get fucked by another man while they watch as well as seeing the other guy cum inside his wife!! These info came from a Sex Therapist that I spoke to. The Sex therapist also mention that men that fantasize about sharing their wife with another guy falls within normal sexual fantasy behavior!

I don't know either but it is an overwhelming turn on ... the thought of playing with her and others is always at the root of orgasm.. I'll do some research on this sexual phenomena ...

I agree, I think it is just plain ol swinging...

I feel the same way, I bring it up almost every week when we are having sex! I try to shut up about it sometimes, but I am still thinking about it in my head even though I am not saying anything to her! I don't want to have to rely on this thought to be turned on with her though, so sometimes I force myself to stop thinking about it and just focus on us having sex.

Some years back, I spent quite some time trying to figure out why I so enjoyed watching my wife having sex with someone else. I couldn't really figured it out. Clues, yes, but nothing definitive to say "this is why:". I gave up. I do know I thoroughly enjoy it. I love seeing it, hearing about it, and thinking about it. I'm not obsessed with it, but it's definitely an active and immediate turn on. I can't explain it. All I know is that it is very, very erotic to me. For her part, she loves doing it, and my enjoyment of it makes it all the better for her. She loves that I love it, and vice versa.

The cuckhold description doesn't sound like you so why identify with it? Can't you be the alpha male sharing his female with his (lower placed) pack? Cuckhold also has a lot of elements of humiliation for the beta male in it and again it doesn't sound like you. My advice is fuck often and enjoy it. Forget about the labels. It's just sex.... nobody is going to tattoo it on your forehead!

I agree I feel the same.

I wanted to watch my wife as we fucked from a different perspective. As if I'm out of my body standing across the room. She refused to let me take videos. The more I dreamed about it I began to imagine other guys having sex with my wife. I'm not into the cuckold fantasy either but I'll admit that I dreamed about other guys seducing my wife in front of me and her submitting to them. It took me a long time to talk her into trying it and when she did she loved it and I loved watching it! I'm hooked for life! The first time we were all in the bed together. Then I started getting off the bed and sitting in a chair in the corner of the room and watching from there.

Two comments... First, the most difficult thing I ever tried to explain to my wife was why I enjoy watching her with other men. Second, the word 'cuckold' is so often missued. This has nothing to do with being cuckold.

good to hear.. thanks. I / we have a few M's she's played with but I haven't attempted to get a few of them together at the same time. that's the next step

You know, in the many times my wife and I have done this, I have never felt either of us being judged as weak or a slut. In fact, as a rule, each guy will afterward walk up to me, shake my hand, thank me for sharing her with them and express significant praise of her fine qualities and/or comment upon my good fortune at having such a wonderful wife.

we started the same way (MFM) and have enjoyed that many times. She would love to be the subject of several guys but so far I haven't found: 1: a small group of guys that I think deserve her talents (as in 3-5 guys) 2: a small group of guys that are "up to it".. the whole homophobic thing 3: had the willingness to "open up" to some guys and be subject to her or I being "judged" as weak or a slut.. It'll happen withing 2013, but it's a matter, to me, of finding a few of her fave MFM playmates and see if they are onboard with being part of a bit larger group than MFM

How common is is for men in this lifestyle to arrange watching the wife getting fucked by another guy (or 2,3)...I fantasize about it not as a classic cuckold type, but as her master who brings in the guys to do her under my supervision, then leave promptly for me to fuck her. We tried it once so far (in a private, discreet setting) and i still get-off just looking at the pix i took!!! Any comments on it's popularity or advice is appreciated!!!! TY

Back in the early 60's, I was in the service as a photographer. My first assignment was to a base in Japan. I was just out of high school and this turned out to be a real education. I learned more about life in those 2 years than I did in the 19 before. One thing that I found out about was men sharing their wives. In those days, copy machines didn't exist and everything had to be photostated if you wanted a copy. Well, in the base photo lab that was one of many duties. I can not remember how many times I copied files about men on base who had a friend or other man fuck his wife. I am sure there were many many more that were never found out. How these were discovered still puzzles me, because I would think that no one would complain or rat them out. Reading these reports was really great stuff. As I say, I learned a lot.

We're an older couple -- I'm 59, she's 57 -- who have been full-swap swingers for about 3 years, although we don't play more than about 3 or 4 times a year. It took a long time to get to this point, as we were in a 'traditional' marriage for the first 35 years together. But the idea of watching her fuck somebody else started way back in 1971, when we were contemplating marriage. We were have a soul-baring pre-nuptial discussion, where the subject of previous lovers came up. For me, it was easy: I'd never gone beyond groping and petting with my girlfriends. She was a little hesitant to reveal her experience, but confessed that she'd been with about 3 guys, one of whom was a longtime, somewhat older boyfriend, who fucked her regularly for a couple of years or more. (I didn't learn about the frequency until several years later...) She was afraid that I'd be hurt or jealous that she had not 'saved' her virginity for me. Outwardly, I revealed little emotion at all, acting casually and with understanding, accepting her experience as something that occurred before we met, and not as a personal affront. Inwardly, I had a strange mixture of thoughts and feelings. There was a minor bit of jealousy and hurt that I wasn't her 'first and only.' But there was more than a little excitement and curiosity, thinking of her being taken by those young boys, and liking it. I didn't disclose these feelings at the time, and we didn't discuss it further. Life carried on -- we married and enjoyed a torrid sex life from the beginning and continuing on for the next 3 decades. As we got to know each other better, we would occasionally reveal fantasies that we both had, which served to stoke the fire of our sexual relationship. There were various kinks that we briefly discussed, but that we didn't act on. We maintained the ideal of a total and complete fidelity to one another and our sex, while frequent, was basically vanilla. At some point during about the first 10 years, we must have discussed voyeurism. My wife commented to someone that if she were to have sex with someone else, I 'would probably want to watch.' (I wasn't there to hear this -- she told me about it later.) My reaction to her comment was something like, "Mmmmmm....", but I didn't enthusiastically endorse the idea right then and there. Inside, however, it was a turn-on that she even talked that way! Eventually, I broached the discussion with her, stating that I thought it was time that she enjoyed a 'fresh' cock after all those years of being with just me. While the idea did seem appealing, she was having confidence and self-esteem issues about her age and weight, and replied 'Not at this time.' That was about 8 years ago, and I didn't press the issue any further. I retired 3 years ago and we embarked upon a sexual reawakening, confessing to each other our deepest and most personal fantasies. And we made it a point to gift each other by actualizing those fantasies that were within both of our value systems and that were possible to bring to life. The result has brought us even closer together that we'd ever been. Part of that has been that we've become swingers. Given my age and reduced level of sexual prowess, we don't play with couples as much as we do with other males, either in an MFM situation, or with my simply watching as my wife enjoys sex with another man. I love everything about it, but my favorite is watching the initial contact up to penetration. When we're at a party, she is almost always the only one 'dressed up', which is the way I enjoy seeing at women the most. The others will be in pants or jeans, but my wife is always in a dress or skirt with hose. (my big turn-on) I love to watch a man sit down and begin to seduce her, kissing and whispering into her ear, reaching over to fondle her breasts -- his hand eventually disappearing into her blouse or up her skirt. The heat builds in me as it it building in them, and it's not long before they get up to retreat to a bedroom for the 'main event'. Often times, my wife will whisper to the man that I like to watch and/or participate, and they'll ask me to come along. Once in the bedroom, I'll play mostly a passive role and remain almost fully-clothed, at least initially. I'll watch them undress each other, touching and discovering their exposed intimate parts. Often, she'll soon be on her knees, topless, but still in her skirt and hose, sucking the guy's cock. Then, I know it won't be long before she's on her back in bed, with her legs open, preparing to be entered. That's my absolute favorite part! I love watching her face as a 'new' cock slides into her for the first time! I love to her her soft moans as she tells us how good it feels. Even though I'm straight, I also enjoy the occasional experience of guiding a hard, erect dick into her pussy, when the other guy is not uptight about male-to-male contact of this sort. When I do participate, often times I'll be holding her legs in the air while she's being fucked, sometimes sucking her toes through her nylons. Inevitably, I'll wind up on the bed next to her so that she can suck my cock while the other guy is in her pussy. We've both loved it from the first time we tried it -- no jealousy, regrets, second thoughts or guilt. It's only sex, and it's great fun. Our marriage has never been stronger or more fun!

I also love to watch my wife with single guys. She also seems to like younger guys, I call her a Cougar now. She was very hesitant when we first started, but now she really gets into it. The only issue is she won't do it in our hometown, we have to be out of town. We also sometimes invite the guy back for the next night.

This past Saturday we were at a house party and I let my husband pick out another guy so we can have our first mfm boy was it great and the sex after wards with my husband was incredible.

I don't know. Seems to me a man cheating on his wife is a jerk. Sorry, but we don't want anything to do with deceitful cretins like that. To the OP; My wife wants me to do all the arranging for swing dates, whether it be with couples or singles. She's always involved in what's going on in setting things up in that I keep her in the loop at all times, but she lets me do all the contacting. So, I guess you could say I'm finding men for her to fuck, but she's really doing the selecting, not me.

They get taken to task here because they are betraying their wife! Deceit, lies and disrespect. It's "strange" that they get a bad rap? That's hard to wrap my head around. I think it's "strange" that anyone would be puzzled by the rap they get. It may be convenient for you and your wife, but there is a cost to other peoples' lives and marriages, that you are part of exacting from them. We can't be responsible for everything they do, but it's sure as hell we don't have to be part of something that is, in most cases, horribly wrong. To the OP: sorry for the thread jack. I think the rest of the posters have it right: there are plenty of husbands out there who very much enjoy watching their wives get fucked by other men. Have at it, everyone have fun, make your recordings, and enjoy them for many years in good health.

Although we often swap with other couples, we have also recently had single males join us. The guys have all been younger men (which Marilyn really enjoys) and are chosen by her. I have always been there also, but I don't join in, but rather I enjoy watching her pleasing them and being pleased. Afterwards it is our time together, and I have to tell you the sex we have after i have watched her with other guys is absolutely fantastic.

My husband can't get enough of watching me with other men. It is a huge turn on for both of us, and it is something we are fortunate enough to enjoy on a fairly regular basis (and many times he will fuck me as the perfect ending). Hubby does not have the 'master' role you refered, but will often suggest someone for me. Although I did not get this at first (a guy watching someone he loves getting fucked by another), I have come to appreciate that this is a common male fantasy (and for many on this board, a reality).

We agree. The last thing we want is a single guy who can become a hanger. Come play, go home. We have found it really strange how much rap married guys get for cheating, etc. We are hardly the morality police and want men to go home after we are done. Besides, every single guy we meet has proven to always have a reason he is single... be it being a jerk, idiot, etc. May not be the case all the time but it has been for us.

We were 35 when we started swinging (it was the wife’s first time with another guy) and we got right into the lifestyle for 10 or so years as family commitments allowed, then we had a spell away from it and when we started back into it the whole scene had changed, you had to be more careful health wise (all our sex with others is bare back sex). We found it difficult to find couples where you could have a commitment and the four of you all got along after the initial lust had worn off, after a couple of let downs we decided that M F M threesomes was the way to go for us, she enjoys the attention of two guys and I love seeing her going with other guys and going silky seconds (and I was getting older and finding it harder to perform with other women all the time)! The one thing that did surprise me was when it came to selecting guys to join us was the preference of my wife to go for married guys who wanted a bit on the side with no complications, almost all the guys we have had threesomes with have been married. We have now been married 47 years and in and out of the lifestyle for 25 + years on and off, we are still very much in love and still have a happy active sex life between ourselves.

I really injoy watching my wife with other men and Funds I'm like you we create our own little dvd's .

yes, we have done the full swap and that was great, but i as well enjoy focusing on my wife being pleased...i seem to fantasize about that more than any other fantasy. she likes me to play the role of her master as i "make" her get fucked by another guy and i then make her tell me how she is enjoying it...we have done it only once, but WOW!!! she came 2 times quite loudly w/ him, then twice again with me after he left. i also took pix, and have jacked off just looking at them!!! next time video!!!

We have had lots (probably 30 or 40%) of MFM threesomes, as opposed to foursomes of MFMF or separate. That way I get to watch, which I really enjoy. Maybe it does not qualify as my "arranging" because she always chose the partner and then invited me to come along or not!

We have a similar interest although she chooses our playmates. It was something we had discussed for several years before we decided to give it a try. We have made connections through swingers sites and have had many MFM's over the course of the past couple of years. For us it is not a cuckold thing either, it is about her pleasure and my voyeuristic enjoyment. It is a turn on to see her with other men and to be actively involved.

yes, this is HER fantasy...a secondary one for me, knowing she gets off on it...and she is mult-o, so goes a long time....BUT i am there to make sure she calls time when she is done. TY for the comment!!!!

On a scale of one to ten, gauging commonality, its about a 5.. the key to all of this is, while it may be a source of constant excitement for you, is/was it for her? Mini gangbangs, and full fledged gangbangs can be fun, but can also be extremely difficult, due to the amount of exertion involved..

We would party now and then with a friend of ours who had about 10 - 11" cock, it isn't overly thick but just nicely proportioned. I love watching Molly fuck him. He does it very well and never really hammers it, but she likes the feel of getting as much as she wants, and sometimes its a lot more than other times. His g/f likes my cock, which is 6 - 7" because she can suck it easier. We all have fun when we get together, but in terms of watching, I enjoy seeing him fuck Molly. I don't think your fantasy is at all strange, pretty normal in fact.

Mrs Chemistry has had the opportunity to experience 10 full inches and came away unimpressed. We met with a couple in Atlanta several years ago and he was so endowed. His lady, of course, was used to his size (and him) and seemed quite happy. MY Princess, on the other hand, found him to be gruff and essentially non-sensual. It was as if he felt that "I have 10 inches so you should be very pleased!" Bottom line, when morning came, both ladies were in bed with ME, and he was more than a little upset.

Thanks for the responses everyone, I honestly expected to be told I was crazy. Sorry but my wife laughed at that since it was pretty much her response as well. Just wanted to pass that along.

So I read this and all I can think about is OUCH OUCH OUCH...but for the sake of curiosity I asked hubby if he ever thought about it and to my shock he said he thought about that just last week If I liked the guy enough I'd give it a try but he would have to know how to use it (in other words probably hold back and not hurt me )

It's possible for me to cause Mrs. GT pain with mine if I use improper technique, so I can't imagine her taking a bigger one. I don't think I could possibly enjoy it as I would be worrying the whole time he was going to hurt her.

Mrs doesn't really care either way, as long as it's not small. But I do fantasize about seeing her take an extra large cock; probably more than I fantasize about anything else. It has to be big, but also nice looking, smooth, shaved...not just any big old log. I am good size, about 8"+ long and average width, so it's definitely not an issue of what I don't have - moreso I think it's just plain wanting to see her gobble down a huge one...it's a hot thought and it makes her seem nasty and slutty, but experienced and willing to be bad. It really turns me on.

My wife had one in the 9-10" range and said it was far too painful. However, she would still like to try a guy with one the size of a Coke can.

WOW I guess that fantasy is a tad more common than I thought. 10" would be wonderful, I would love to see what she would do sucking it. I keep imagining we find a couple and get no prior clue as to measurements and Barb pulls his pants down and nearly gets scared to death. I just think it would be funny.

DITTO here too! That's one of my fantasies and I'd say that my reasons for it are the same. I'm of average or a little above average size, but I'd love to see Lyn play with a REAL BIG one. We're not actively searching, but it would be a nice surprise.

I would love to watch Cassy get off by a 9-10 incher. I may not posses one but why shouldn't she experience one? I like to watch her no matter what she does, but new stuff is all the better and a 10-inch cock would be new. But that would be up to her. I wouldn't want her organs to get kabobed by that thing though.