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In my experience, the median age for swingers is actually fairly high. A lot of folks I've met at clubs are in their 40s or 50s... which I only actually know because their ages are on their online profiles on various sites. Most of the time, I can't tell a 30 year old from a 50 year old and honestly couldn't care less.

First of all, I would like to welcome you to The Swingersboard. I am sixty-four years of age, my wife is one year younger. We are very successful in the lifestyle and are known in more than one swingers' club. We are typically not the oldest people who are in-attendance at a club party. Each different club has a different character and some attract membership of different age groups. Best to just go and see. You'll have fun in any case just doing an investigation. I hope this helps.

You mean that's not allowed? In that case I'm not going. ;-)

I think 'situationally bi' is a good label. We had an mmf last week with a straight guy. I had told him that I am orally bi and would probably have him in my mouth at some time, nothing more. He said he was trying to be comfortable with that and we agreed that we will just go with the flow and feel free to stop any activity that's uncomfortable. OK, so J is blowing him and I'm just stroking her and watching (this is about 1 minute after the clothes came off). He's just watching her as well. She pulls his cock out, grabs my hand and puts it on his cock. About 2 seconds later, he goes for my dick and without thinking, starts to suck me. This was in no way part of the plan. I think that in the beginning, we over think this stuff. You want an mmf, there is going to be some contact, so what. Are you going to puke if this guy blows you? No, you are going to think, damn, dudes give really good head!

Although I consider myself straight in playing with a few couples, I have found I am situationally bi with the right couple. I now look for bi couples with husbands who desire oral bi play. They just seem so much more open, sensual, and sexually turned on.

Hey. I have had some lovers in the swing community that were out of my league. Hell my wife is out of my league and I will say that I married up.. I have lots of good qualities and know my limitations. I am ok with it. We swing with some guys that are bigger, faster, smarter than me. If I Listen to those voices in my head I can go crazy. Watch that inner dialogue dear. It will lie to you.. tell you things that are not true and ruin your day.

I have decided to take the advice I have given other young people at work - if you're afraid of being left out then make yourself indispensable. Why are you afraid to tell your husband how you feel? Why are you insisting on playing games? You say no one is being dishonest, but I return to my original statement: You are being dishonest, by not telling them what you really feel.

This is incredibly subjective. YOU think she's "physically superior" (whatever the heck that is) but are you the final arbiter of that? Nobody is. She is. You are. That's all that counts in this calculation. Your husband finds both of you attractive, and very obviously so. Need it matter any more than that? With all respect, and I mean that, women get seriously wrapped up sometimes in society's heavily pushed idea of 'western beauty'. The closer you look to the cover of Cosmopolitan, the more superior you are. It's a false god, a lie, treachery, and insanely harmful to women young and old alike. YOU are better than that. From your posts here, knowing who you are and what kind of person you are in as much as a person can through eConversation, I would date you in a heartbeat if I could. Get over yourself! You're amazing Don't take this as negative criticism. Please. Understand; the cashier did nothing. I know it hurts, but s/he did nothing. It was entirely your reaction that created the issue. Plenty of people mistake relationships. I have a long term friend who I used to date many, many years ago. Whenever I'm with her and it's just the two of us, people automatically assume we're married. People do that whenever there's two people of opposite sex who are adults and doing something together. It's how our society behaves. DING DING DING DAVID AND PETRA FOR THE WIN! This is _wonderful_!!! I frequently say that logic and emotion have nothing to do with each other, don't speak the same language, and can't convince the other of anything...yet they exist in the same person. Logically, you know David loves you dearly, would never leave you, and is absolutely devoted to you. Emotionally you're going nuts trying to calm fears. You know, when you communicate your deepest fears to a person you love, you gain a greater closeness with that person. You should make it clear you're not expecting or wanting David to back off from Lora or vice versa. I would communicate that you're having a weak moment and need love and support. David proved you do by your reaction to his kissing you and telling you he loves you while he was having sex with Lora.

I make love to other men sometimes. Im just good at trying to not allow my heart to fall for them, which most other people fail and thats when cheating happens. Its easy to make love to my husband as it feels so natural. With other men it only really happens if im incredibly attracted with him and he is amazing in bed then its hard to not make love if ive already had sex with him. So only make love to someone else if you think you can handle it to not fall in love with the other person. I know i can because i know my husband is the only man who would allow me to play with other men without any restrictions, the chances of finding someone else like that is as good as no chance. A lot of single men who claim to be swingers can not handle it even though they say that can, i know because ive dated enough of them.