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I sense that you are getting a bit defensive about the decision to go to the party. I don't want you to feel like you have to justify your actions to anyone here. In the end, you and your husband have to make your own decisions about what is right for you both. I'm sure there have been countless times when crossovers between vanilla life and swing life have worked. We all come here to the Board to get objective outside opinions on things going on in our lives that we might not get from anyone else. We share our experiences, good and bad, to connect and to assist. My own personal choice is not to mix business with personal life because I have witnessed the devastation it can cause in a professional light. Even if you look at monogamous relationships that are work related, they are often problematic. This is MY choice. My choice also happens to be one of being single female who is bisexual and swings. To some people, even on this site perhaps, my opinion wouldn't mean a hill of beans because I'm not part of a swinging couple, and I wouldn't even be considered a "swinger." Everyone is different and everyone's experience is different. That's the beautiful thing about sharing here. You came to share an experience with other like-minded people and asked for opinions. You got very sound opinions but in the end, you have to make your own way.