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I think of it like test anxiety. Here you are, ready and willing with the knowledge in hand, and when the test gets handed out you draw a blank. It can cause a circle of negative thinking. He doesn't want to ruin the fun, gets anxious about the situation, things don't work right, he overthinks, trying to 'fix' the problem, (men are fixers) that doesn't work, he doesn't want to ruin the fun, and so on and so forth down the line. Add in your own frustration, and believe me he knows you're frustrated. Perhaps what he needs is more of a connection with the other woman. Someone he feels comfortable with, so he can let go of that anxiety. We all have all kinds of insecurities about our physical selves and performance. Now on the other hand, my most favorite of play partners doesn't do intercourse (normally). What he does do is fingering, and masterfully. (there's a waiting line to play with him) I've not asked him if he got into that because of a past issue with ed, or if he is just very choosy with who he has intercourse with. My point to this is, if your husband can develop a skill beyond straight fucking, it won't matter (for the most part) if he gets hard or not. In fact dh has taken 'lessons' from this friend - I stepped up and they used my body as a teaching tool; the things one will do in the name of education! On occasion dh will have had a sugar low during the day, which affects his erection later on. He still has no problem satisfying his partners, and the stress of 'I can't get it up' has nearly disappeared; he's usually only disappointed that he didn't get to fuck, not that he couldn't fuck.