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Welcome to the Board! I think your honesty is to be commended, and within lies the answer. If you feel like you may be resentful, then probably best to just plan on making it a night for socializing. Avoiding things that you feel in your gut are likely to be a problem is always better than flirting with them with the hope that it will be ok. Since there will be other times, why push it this time would be my approach.

You've gotten excellent advice here. You really do need to bring it up with them or they won't be your friends much longer. Decide what you want and then clear the air as Fundamental Law suggested. if you can't come to a decision, you can tell them that. Ask them to knock off the pressure and be mentors to you in your decision making. We'd all love to hear what happens.

I've been in a similar situation with friends. Actually, that's how I came to find out more about swinging. They were very experienced swingers, so there was none of the physical stuff. They hinted, and then the wife approached my wife. I researched it and talked about it, and decided it wasn't for us. (I liked and enjoyed the folks here so much I stayed on the forum.) We remained fast friends with them. I think it's important to interpret their attempts as being naive, rather than anything malicious. Something that remains unsaid can be a problem in any relationship. Maybe just get the idea out on the table: "Are y'all swingers?" Just make sure to project that you're cool with their lifestyle choice, and that could open the door to ending the uncomfortable innuendos.

I know that there are several female and male forum members that feel similarly to how you feel so you aren't alone. Personally, I think men have the harder time (pun not intended) while swinging. They can't force an erection just to have a "test fuck". They have to deal with performance anxiety, the ability to cum or not with new partners, getting used to the idea that their wife might be more sought out than he will...if men need an extra boost I'm not going to fault them. I'm just saying I'm grateful to be a female in the LS.

In our experience no. But January is the slowest month for MnG in our opinion. People are broke from the holidays and the weather is grey and cruddy. We have been in the LS for over 10 years and the "worst" parties are always at the start of the year. Try again in the spring when the temps warm up and people get out of their winter funks.