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I was reluctant to weight in on this one due to my lack of experience and newness to the boards. I've been following this post closely, and some advice from the first lady I played with comes to mind. "The key is for everyone to have the same expectations." That keeps coming to my mind as I read the different replies on the board. If you ask her what her expectations are, they might or might not be the same. I can think of many distant situations where her advice would have saved me from bad circumstances, and I've definitely applied it in many circumstances. Since I learned that, I've been amazed at how often people think they're on the same page, but yet their expectations for outcome are totally different. I've had three couples I know divorce due to swinging-gone-awry, and all of them were because they weren't clear on these things ahead of time. Resentments always arise from violated expectations, and it's easy to violate those when you don't know what they are.