I didn't post it earlier but my original guess was that it would take about 2 weeks with no effort to find out what this was all about. It only took 3 fucking days. I went to the places I normally go, and talked to the people I normally talk to, and just 3DAYS later, I know who and what this is about. I've heard the other side, and witness testimony. I'M WITHHOLDING ALL JUDGEMENT OF ALL PARTIES IN THIS SITUATION AT THIS TIME, and I know who all is reading this. IMO this situation isn't beyond repair, but it would take all parties to want it.
This is a testament to the swinger gossip game. Speaking of the game, at this point I have to wonder if this thread was a calculated move in that game, but maybe I'm just more cynical than most people.
This is just one of the reasons I value, and cling desperately to the friendship we have with the two couples we love the most.