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When you flip a coin, you have a 1 in 2 chance of getting heads. The odds stay 1 in 2 for getting heads no matter how many times you flip the coin. The odds of it not coming up tails at least once every 10 times is low, but the largest factor in that is the 1 in 2 chance for it to come up tails, not the 10 flips. If your chance of contracting an STI is 1 in 1000, it stays a 1 in 1000 chance with every encounter with every partner. That means with each encounter and with every partner, the odds against contracting an STI is 999 to 1, whether you have 10 partners or 1000. Since the actual odds of contracting a fluids transmissible STI when properly using barriers/safer sex practices is actually much lower than 1000-1, the coin flip analogy is even farther from being useful. I get that it doesn't appear to be logical (I did say it was counterintuitive), but odds are not actually a cumulative thing. If they were, people would win at casinos a helluva lot more often than they actually do. But they don't, because the odds remain the same with each play on the slot machine, no matter how many times you play.

Hello everyone, I am X53's wife, I just decided to have my own account on here. I just wanted to say hello and thank you all for the advice as well. We are looking forward to many new experiences!

I think Chicup hit it dead on. This entire post was selfish, all about what *you* wanted. You were even tired of cheating on her! If fucking other people is that big of a deal to you, then get a divorce and do it honestly. Your wife has made no indication that she will ever be comfortable with this, and yet you continue to ask her to do things that will be more and more uncomfortable for her. Grow up. Oh, and make sure you get a full panel STD test, those would be really hard to explain away.

There must be a lot of men whose wives refuse to even consider swinging. Hell, judging from the questions often asked on this board, most men are afraid to even ask their wives what they think of the idea. If a couple can't communicate without fear, it's very unlikely that swinging will ever be a part of their adventures together. Communicate first. Swing later.