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I do appreciate your honesty on this issue. I also know we're only getting your side of the story and your perspective, so I'm not basing what I post on the merits of your argument to stay or go, only you know what is best for you and your partner. If what you say lines up with what is mostly true, I think it is only fair for you to leave the relationship. You are not going to be fulfilled and happy in the relationship so resentment will breed and grow. I am glad you were willing to come here and be honest about how you feel now that you know swinging cannot be part of your life if you are with her. I've read many times here and other swinger's boards that if one partner wanted to stop all LS activity it would be ok and the relationship was the top priority. (I'm not saying anyone who has that belief is lying or wrong) I have questioned the reality and validity of that statement at times, because the LS does become a very big part of our lives and our identities even. I'm single so I don't have the life lessons, but I wonder how easy it would be for people to walk away from the LS if their partner decided it wasn't for them and then went even further and said they weren't really into it and did it for the other partner. It would feel like a betrayal it seems. I'm sure for some leaving the LS to preserve the relationship would be a no-brainer, but I don't think that is so for everyone and I don't think it would be easy for most. I think many would struggle with resentment and wanting their freedom back. One thing I read from your posts are that you seem to think you are *enlightened* because you have found the freedom of the LS. This seems a bit arrogant, because it isn't being enlightened, it's just different. I'm sure many *vanilla* couples would feel enlightened compared to swingers if they can say they have a more varied and active, passionate sex life with only one another, neither would be true, just different.