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This is what tripped us out, this was a Secrets Maroma Beach. Very nice resort with an awesome beach, adults only, but not advertised as a "swingers resort" at all! So what surprised us was how many couples there that seemed to be "down"! I mean I have heard of Desires to the north and told my wife about that one. My wife on the way back from this trip was saying she would be willing to check out Desire's next time, but I shot that down because I told her I feel like at Desire's EVERYONE is there to get down and there is no mystery about that. We both agreed that it was exciting to "prowl" for other couples that were down at a regular adults only resort, kinda made it more exciting and fun because you don't know what will happen if anything. The surprise of it was nice we both agreed. We may check out Desire's at some point but we both fell in love with this resort...the property, the beach the staff, the food, all of it was amazing! We are already planning our next trip back there next year, and for even longer next time! )

Thank you to everyone who replied...I'm really grateful that this community exists, because otherwise it's hard to get perspective sometimes, and perspective is exactly what I needed. The more I've thought about it, and considered what everyone has said, the more comfortable I've felt. The most important thing, as a few people mentioned, is that ultimately she's coming home with me. I do think our relationship is actually stronger because we have the love and trust to explore these kinds of things. Our sex life has actually been super-great since this last encounter, which I was nervous about. And now it's mostly just turning us both on. The thing is, this was always kind of like my ultimate fear in swinging, and now that it's actually happened, I strangely feel much more comfortable in general. Thank you all again. I really can't stress how much everyone's responses--and good points all around--helped dig me out of that insecurity and get my head on straight again...I owe you all!