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Ultimately I think that labels live and die in the marketplace of ideas. My gut is telling me that since the Lifestyle is tiny and fragmented already, and that the number of those willing to define themselves via someone else's label is likely pretty small, the likelihood of progressive swinging/er joining the mainstream lexicon is slim. Regardless, I don't think as a term it is likely to dangerously confuse anyone, and at worst it would simply spawn a question: "You call yourself are a progressive swinger, what the heck does that mean?" If the Swingset crew think it correctly encapsulates how they feel about their approach to ethical non-monogamy, and gain a sense of empowerment using it as a banner, I have no problem with that.

Ok, I actually just went searching last weekend on my own without seeing this, and I have a few more. My List: Life On The Swingset - Active MRnMSBhaven - Not Active SuperSecretSwinger - Active Swap Fu - Active Swing Life - Not Active SwingerCast - Active This Secret Married Life -Active Other sex podcasts I listen to: BathTalk (Kidder and Jade) Sex is Fun The First 100 Episodes of Sex is Fun Polyamory Weekly Ask Dan and Jennifer I have downloaded what I can of the non-active (as far as I can tell) 'casts and keep them around to listen to again, and All of them have great things to learn and to stay focused on. I won't post RSS Feeds, I don't have any kind of permission to do so (Swinging privacy being what it is), but Itunes store searches or google should show up fairly well. Remember, you can usually subscribe to a feed that it not on your player's native store. For Itunes, this is in (Advanced>Subscribe to Podcast).

Are the single women she used to play with still in the area? Does she still talk/hang out with them? If so, you may have a bit of an advantage - assuming that your gf hasn't spoken to them about her negative feelings towards swinging. It may be a long road, but if you two are sure this is what you want to try and are willing to put in the time/effort/potential disappointment to try to experience it, go for it! Just make sure you've built up enough openness of communication so that if one or both of you start to feel frustrated, regret, or any other negative emotion you can get it out IMMEDIATELY and not let it fester. If she felt forced once by an ex, there's no way you want to compound that by making her feel like you will be horribly disappointed if she changes her mind in the future. Good luck with your journey!

latenight - I'm not sure if I have read any of your other posts. I sometimes pay more attention to the post versus the name of the poster but your gf sounds like she was in a fucked up relationship and swinging was just a small part. If her ex was into humiliating her then it sounds like it was not the swinging that was the issue but the husband being abusive in general. Maybe her encounters were negative because her husband only wanted her to have those types of encounters with little fulfillment to her. His objective, from just this little I read, could easily have all been geared to purposely be unfulfilling. It doesn't sound like swinging at all but more about control, his control over her. That isn't swinging and in most of the healthier couples we have met, the women make the decisions. They decide who you play with, with mutual consent of course. To your specific question/s. I think they were well covered above. While I am probably in the minority here...being with two women is fun but it's a lot of fucking work!!! Careful what you wish for!!! You just might get it!!! The job is never over when you're done, lol, but when they are done.