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I have to ask if instead of falling asleep your wife had then had sex only with you with the SM watching or getting something to drink or whatever would it have been a good experience. I've been in more than a few FMF and some of them as part of "the couple" and rarely are two alike, even with the same people involved. The best advice I can give is go with the flow and enjoy. Maybe the best advice would be to use communication. On the board here, we hear everybody say that a couple has to communicate, communicate, communicate. The same holds true for ALL involved. Non verbal communications are often not noticed, misread, misunderstood. Verbal communications are best. Once, the husband of a couple I swung with pretty regular told me after a play session he thought I had spent too long performing oral sex on his wife at one point that he had wanted to do it too. I told him I was sorry, I was kind of involved and since she was performing oral sex on him at the same time I thought everything was OK. My view was pretty limited so I couldn't see any non verbal cues. I told him next time, tell me. After that he had no problem saying what he wanted to do next so to speak, we all did and it worked great. Was the SM an experienced swinger? I try to "check on" the husband fairly frequently if he's just watching to see if he wants to join in or take over. Sometimes I'll ask for him to join in. If you can't talk to the people you're having sex with or in front of, I'm thinking you shouldn't be having sex with them. Not every SM you swing with is going to be very experienced and not many are going to have swung as a couple and every situation is different. It sounds like more of a lack of communication or a misunderstanding than anything else. I know I was talking to a male half of a couple one time I had played with and I told him he was lucky as his wife was so interested in pleasing him. I talked about how she frequently made sure that he was having fun and a couple of times whispered to me what he liked to see and we should do that etc. There was a moment of silence then "I really needed to hear that right now". Evidently he had a little bit of similar feelings to what the OP did but hadn't realized his wife had been doing what she thought was a turn on for him, what she was doing was trying to please him. It all got sorted out in the end because of verbal communication. Talk, talk, talk, and every now and then talk dirty.

Seriously, I am a medical professional and although this is not an area of expertise, I dont think you are dehydrating and going into shock from squirting. I am curious about the story you related that you passed our after your BF left and a neighbor found you. How much time had gone by? It seems there is likely a big fluid release which can cause some degree of dehydration but wouldn't expect it to be so sudden and sucha great amount to send the body into shock. If anything the orgasm is so intense it overloads the nervous system. I get the "wobbly legs" after a great "O". Would think its more likely related to that than dehydration and shock. That would lead me to think if there is anything amiss it would be more likely neurological. It is something be mindful of. If it gets more frequent, unpredictable, or starts to happen on any level outside the bedroom, you should consider talking to your Dr about it, even if it is uncomfortable.

hey, all depends whats in it I keep asking my sister to bring one filled with morphine home from work!

Having been in more MFM threesomes than we can count, here are our thoughts. Unfortunately, reality will never be as scripted as fantasy. One of the keys is to take those parts and pieces of the reality that were good and emphasize them during the next encounter. When dealing with the second man in a MFM threesome, it's important to relay what it is you're wanting out of the threesome. He is no more a mind reader to your thoughts than you are to his. If at any time during the threesome things aren't going in the direction you want them to, there's nothing wrong with saying so....subtle hints during the heat of the moment most likely won't work here. For us, we always lay out our expectations, what's allowed, what's not allowed, AND we always ask our third what it is they are wanting to get out of the encounter. Communication is not just between the couple. It seems as if you're most upset about not having participated more during the encounter. We're all responsible for our own actions or inactions. If you want to be more involved...get involved. It's not fair to our partners to blame them for having a good time and not acknowledging our presence if we don't make our presence known. There are times in threesomes where all will be involved. There are also those times where only two will be involved...no way is right or wrong, it's just the flow of the situation. There have been numerous times with us where one of us has sat out and watched the other knowing that if/when the urge strikes we can jump right back into the action. One of the main keys to having and enjoying threesomes, for us, is being able to enjoy totally what our partner is doing whether we're directly involved in it or not. Each encounter is a learning experience. It doesn't seem as if your first encounter was all bad. Focus on the good parts and learn from those parts that weren't what you wanted. As to your GF passing out...don't take it personally...there's a fine line to walk when it comes to drinking and playing and with experience it gets easier to define that line. Hell, we've passed out on each other after a play session even when neither of us were drinking. Ted & Teresa