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We have the same situation. She says she is just happy with me,and swinging never comes into her mind. There was a point where she approached an ex and spoke with him about it but he wasn't interested. Folks said even that situation was a bad idea. He was interested in a one on one with her but not a 3 way. She declined him. Sometimes ya just need to fantasize and that as far as it will ever go. So as in our situation just be grateful you have her for who she is and run with it.

I have been married 17 years to the same woman...the woman you are talking about. Her problems started when she had fibroid surgery and took medicines for he hormones. Later she had a hysterectomy and it got worse. While she was never the sex kitten she would always hide in the dark while dressing and feel ashamed if she had on anything sexy, after the surgery she just lost all interest in sex, being sexy or sexual intimacy. Your wifes issues might be hormonal or emotional. If neither of these are the problem then you may be faced with a difficult decision. First try to see if there is a biological, psychological or medical issue before you write her off.

Hi Harold, It sounds like Ann is just a bit nervous. Also, keep in mind that Ann may really want to do this and seeing you with another person is just one of those nasty roadblocks she may have to overcome. Someone also mentioned that swinging may not be her forte and that's OK. Sometimes it's better left as a fantasy type of idea. In our case, my husband was the one that got the talks going and it took me several months to even want to think about him with another person. For us, it took a LOT of talking. You can't even imagine how much talking it took. Of course, my first thought, when he brought up the idea of swinging, was that he was looking for a replacement. I'm not sure if Ann is having this same idea, but just thought. Like I said, it took a lot of talking to my husband about exactly what he was wanting. Of course, I was the one that did a lot of research. I found this board and read just about everything I could get my eyes on. You might have Ann read the threads in here and there is even a search button up above and she can search for the topics of her choice. As it turns out for us, we've never had a MFM or FMF, but one of these days, we will. For now, we enjoy the couples we play with and when we played with our very first couple, it was so weird that there was absolutely NO jealousy among anyone. It's been that way ever since. Since the very first time, I've always known that he's always going to come home with me. Maybe Ann needs some reassurance that no matter what, you're going home with her. Good Luck!