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As a couple who has apparently quit, I would venture to say the the lifestyle quit us...it wasn't a conscious decision. Over the years that we were actively involved, our favourite clubs closed and our couple friends split up (all of them). Aside from getting a "black widow" complex, it became discouraging to meet new people. The thought of meet new couples became tiresome and the overall appeal was reduced to a chore. Thats not to say that presented with the opportunity it would not be seized, just not sought after. I do not believe that if the lifestyle was a positive experience, you ever leave it. The evolution and thought processes that were experienced along the way become a part of who you are and in turn I believe change your outlook on many things. Annette

Thank-you. I can understand some people's worries or misunderstandings about a "single-guy" in the lifestyle... there's a LOT of bad characters out there who're just thinking this is a cheap/easy way to score. And it really does almost become the "job" of every single guy to prove that he's not "THAT GUY" when talking to folk in the lifestyle. There's no need to apologize. Yes, I too really hope to find that loving partner to share everything with - in the lifestyle or in a polyamorous situation or a monogamous one. Hopefully, it'll be something the two of us can openly talk about and come to a point of mutual happiness in.