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We've found ourselves in this situation recently. Mrs. NM had suspected a co-worker was a swinger, which was confirmed when we ran into he and his wife at a local swing club. Mrs. NM is concerned about the "Never at work" rule, but seems genuinely interested in socializing with them. The challenge is to keep socializing from becoming sex, and therefore uncomfortable at work. I am less concerned than she because she only interacts infrequently with him at work. The other couple seems very secure and committed to one another, and all four of us got along very well at the club. Though they work at the same place, we live about an hour apart. We've been invited to dinner/boating with them. I'm more inclined to think of the adage "don't s*** where you eat" to apply more to cheating vanilla spouses or romantically involved couples at work. Getting caught or breaking up creates unacceptable drama in the workplace. Our swinging style separates sex from romance, and we always (and only) play as a couple. I'm not seeing the harm in occasional social sex between co-workers in this context.