Are there many voyeur/exhibitionist couples?

[Watchhercum4u 8]

I've been noticing that full-swap play seems to be what is most common in this community. I'm not surprised by that but a little worried maybe.

 

My husband and I have been talking more and more about actually making my longstanding voyeur/exhibitionist fantasies come true. For me, it's mostly about watching and being watched. Though we have discussed some grey areas where fondling/stroking and mutual masturbation would be enjoyable, full swapping just isn't the plan for us.

 

Would we be rather unpopular at clubs?

 

Do the folks that enjoy the full experience ignore anything less?

 

Surely it'd be assumed we were there for the full swap; what kind of reaction could we expect once we let on what our interests are?

[NC_Seniors 492]

This is solely my — male half — opinion and I’ll probably be told by the longtime members here that I’m dead wrong… but here goes!   ;-D   I don’t think you’d necessarily be UNpopular at clubs. Even though most of the “veteran” couples are looking for some level of swap, some of them have a soft spot in their hearts for newbies — because they remember when they were new — and will play “down” to your comfort level one time anyway. There will also likely be other newbies there whenever you go and perhaps they’re looking to dip just a single toe into the water by sharing a bed with another couple.

 

All that said, I’ll give you this piece of advice that I’m pretty sure the other members here will back me up on. Namely, when you make your first visit to a club, go with *NO* expectations other than to have a great time with each other. If that means you don’t do any more than get a playroom and have sex, take it as a positive. (That’s all we did on our first several club visits.) There’s something really exciting about having sex with the sounds of the music thumping and people milling around just outside the playroom door no doubt wondering just who’s in that room and what they’re doing in there. So don’t put any artificial pressure on yourselves to full swap, soft swap, or even share a bed with anybody else. And if you really want to put on a show while others watch, just leave the playroom door open. Trust me, you’ll draw a crowd!

[bbarnsworth 2,536]

NC_Seniors, you're dead ....right

 

Seriously Watchhercum4u, what NC_Seniors said

 

One aspect of this though if you're at a club; if you're in a playroom having sex with each other and you leave the door open, some people might take that as an invitation to come in. That might be ok for you or not; respectful people will ask, or at least ask if you would like them to be involved. We've been to one club where every playroom had a window with curtains, so you could have the door closed  but the curtains open. It was rather fun to walk down the hallway where these rooms were and be a voyeur looking in on the rooms with the curtains open, also knowing the people inside WANTED to be watched. Good for them, good for me If you found a club with playrooms like that, it would probably be perfect for you.

[NC_Seniors 492]

Thank you, bbarnsworth … appreciate the kind words.   🙂

 

The club we were members of before COVID caused us to stop going had a plastic chain attached to each playroom door frame. If you wanted complete privacy, you closed the door. If you wanted to put on a show but keep people out, you left the door open and put the chain up. If you didn’t mind people coming into the room, you left the door open and the chain down. MOST people knew that an “invitation” to come in didn’t mean they were invited to jump into bed with you, but you might have to make that clear to the pushy ones.

[GoldCoCouple 4,014]

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Would we be rather unpopular at clubs?

 

No, not at all.

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Do the folks that enjoy the full experience ignore anything less?

 

No.

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Surely it'd be assumed we were there for the full swap; what kind of reaction could we expect once we let on what our interests are?

Most couples (but not necessarily all) will ask what your interests and limits are before doing anything else. Those that don't ask will usually honor your requests if you tell them that you are not interested or to stop. The very few that may not listen at all should be reported to the club owner and escorted out of the club (very rare, but still a possibility). Don't let someone 'get away' with something you two are not interested in just because they force themselves in (that's what they are hoping you will do...nothing).

[cplnuswing 4,711]

All the above is spot on!  Just be up front with people about what you are interested in and what your boundaries are and I think you will pleasantly surprised.  We have been a full swap couple from pretty much the beginning, and we have had sex just about every club visit we have made... the majority of which have just been with each other.

[robaval 217]

We moved from exhibitionism/voyeurism to soft to full swing and 3 years ago back to only exhibitionism and  voyeurism..  In our situation, very good and close friends had serious issues with HPV side effects.....  Soooo, three years ago, we went on a 6 month physical schedule with the start of covid..... We seem to have dodged problems.    In 2007, I (Julie) got the Gardasil vaccine on my doctor's recommendation when I was 21 years old just before graduating as that probably has helped me avoid HPV issues.    But, we have stopped all soft and hard swing and enjoy voyeur and exhibitionist activities when the venue is appropriate.  J&R

[Watchhercum4u 8]

Hello folks. I didn't know I was receiving any replies to our question because I didn't get an email notice. I'll have to check my settings.

 

 A quick update is in order. I booked a room on the party floor of an upcoming hotel themed party. I've had so much fun

 

On 6/25/2022 at 2:05 AM, NC_Seniors said:

All that said, I’ll give you this piece of advice that I’m pretty sure the other members here will back me up on. Namely, when you make your first visit to a club, go with *NO* expectations other than to have a great time with each other. If that means you don’t do any more than get a playroom and have sex, take it as a positive. (That’s all we did on our first several club visits.) There’s something really exciting about having sex with the sounds of the music thumping and people milling around just outside the playroom door no doubt wondering just who’s in that room and what they’re doing in there. So don’t put any artificial pressure on yourselves to full swap, soft swap, or even share a bed with anybody else. And if you really want to put on a show while others watch, just leave the playroom door open. Trust me, you’ll draw a crowd!

Thank you for that. This is something that we've actually already talked about. We'll be attending our first event in a couple of weeks and we've decided to go with the idea that we are just going out to have fun like we would any other time. Meet some other fun people, dance and have a few drinks. If I get to show off a little, watch some hot bodies and watch my husband get some pleasure, all the better.

 

On 6/25/2022 at 11:33 PM, bbarnsworth said:

We've been to one club where every playroom had a window with curtains, so you could have the door closed  but the curtains open. It was rather fun to walk down the hallway where these rooms were and be a voyeur looking in on the rooms with the curtains open, also knowing the people inside WANTED to be watched. Good for them, good for me If you found a club with playrooms like that, it would probably be perfect for you.

Oh my god... that makes me hot just thinking about it!

 

On 6/27/2022 at 3:17 PM, GoldCoCouple said:

Don't let someone 'get away' with something you two are not interested in just because they force themselves in (that's what they are hoping you will do...nothing).

We'll keep an eye out for that, thank you.

 

On 6/29/2022 at 12:52 AM, cplnuswing said:

We have been a full swap couple from pretty much the beginning, and we have had sex just about every club visit we have made... the majority of which have just been with each other.

No kidding!! Thank you for that. That really takes the pressure off. We both truly understand the desire for full swap fun but also feel like we'd have more fun with what we have in mind.

 

On 7/8/2022 at 1:03 PM, robaval said:

We moved from exhibitionism/voyeurism to soft to full swing and 3 years ago back to only exhibitionism and  voyeurism..  In our situation, very good and close friends had serious issues with HPV side effects.....  Soooo, three years ago, we went on a 6 month physical schedule with the start of covid..... We seem to have dodged problems.    In 2007, I (Julie) got the Gardasil vaccine on my doctor's recommendation when I was 21 years old just before graduating as that probably has helped me avoid HPV issues.    But, we have stopped all soft and hard swing and enjoy voyeur and exhibitionist activities when the venue is appropriate.  J&R

Thank you Julie for mentioning an issue that I was reluctant to bring up in fear of giving the wrong impression about our decision. While health concerns are not the primary (or even secondary) cause for how we plan to enjoy this fun, it is a back-up reason that helps.

[Watchhercum4u 8]

...A quick update is in order. I booked a room on the party floor of an upcoming themed hotel party. I've had so much fun putting my nasty school girl outfit together and talking to my hubby about what dirty things I want others to watch me doing (there's going to be a Sybian there!). It's less than two weeks away and we've been fucking more than usual just thinking about how much fun we're going to have. We both plan on keeping it watching and touching only but I've admitted that I am hoping for a glory hole opportunity. The anonymity of it is a turn-on.

[cplnuswing 4,711]

Hope you have a great time!!  If you are willing, let us know how it goes.

[Watchhercum4u 8]

13 hours ago, cplnuswing said:

Hope you have a great time!!  If you are willing, let us know how it goes.

Okay, we'll update after the party.

And... update to the update; we're now RSVPed for a Luau house party in Raleigh the following weekend! Now we get to shop for sexy hula skirts.

We both got so hot last night shopping for labia jewelry that I ended up with my hands tied behind my back and spanked for my dirty thoughts.