Women only - Have you ever had a virgin?

[couplers 4,140]

The thought occurred to me, I have never had sex with a virgin.  Have you?  If so, tell us about it.  It never crossed my mind before because I don't see any benefit.

[PeterJ 826]

My high-school girlfriend and I were barely 15 and virgins the first time we had intercourse. That experience — we were outdoors in Western New York in late November, stripped from our waists down and freezing — was quick and pretty much awful. Afterwards, walking back into our little village, she asked me to promise i would marry her when we were older. I found myself instead thinking intercourse was highly over-rated and masturbation was probably better, though I didn’t voice those sentiments. I didn’t make that promise and we never did come close to marrying. We did however take another try at fucking — still outdoors but sheltered and at least in a sleeping bag — and that time it was pretty good. And it just got better over the scores of times we did it over the next two years. Even after we broke up before senior year (she cheated while I was out of town, providing the perfect excuse to end a sexually hot but otherwise unwise relationship) we continued to have episodic sex for at least the next two decades. 
 

I believe the sex became so good for both us because we kind of imprinted sexually on one another. While I can be attracted to a wide variety of female bodies, to this day I’m particularly turned on to petite redheads with very pale skin. Oh, and particularly if they are a little crazy. She was just short of unhinged at times, and while I would never get into a committed relationship with that sort of women, I find that a little crazy in a partner turns up the sexual heat.

[shy_couple 448]

2 hours ago, PeterJ said:I find that a little crazy in a partner turns up the sexual heat.

I’ve always heard, “ Crazy in the head, crazy in the bed.”

[MidLifeFun 143]

Weren’t we all virgins?

[ROCKlandCpl 436]

Yes I did. I wasn’t much removed from being virgin myself  when a new boyfriend from school walked me home and started kissing me.

I’m having a mind flash of that poor guy fumbling with opening a condom and trying to get in on before he went off. I am only guessing it was the first time,  it  seemed like it. My memory is I just stayed still as he fumbled don’t think I touched him as he had his finger in me. 

[couplers 4,140]

On 9/21/2021 at 2:44 PM, PeterJ said:

she asked me to promise i would marry her when we were older.

 

On 9/21/2021 at 2:44 PM, PeterJ said:

she cheated while I was out of town

Interesting. 

 

On 9/21/2021 at 2:44 PM, PeterJ said:

we continued to have episodic sex for at least the next two decades. 

Interesting also.

[couplers 4,140]

9 hours ago, MidLifeFun said:

Weren’t we all virgins?

Yes, but I've never had sex with a virgin, male or female. 

[MidLifeFun 143]

1 hour ago, couplers said:

Yes, but I've never had sex with a virgin, male or female. 

Maybe you are lucky. Do you remember your first time? 

[couplers 4,140]

Yeah.  It was pretty good, I got oral for a long time but the main event was over too quickly.  My boyfriend orgasmed a little too quickly.  I came and was working on my second O.

[TricianMike 732]

4 hours ago, couplers said:

Yeah.  It was pretty good, I got oral for a long time but the main event was over too quickly.  My boyfriend orgasmed a little too quickly.  I came and was working on my second O.

Most of us on here if truthful will say the first time was not great physically  and orgasms were not to be. My first was awkward and fumbly and painful. I also worried about getting pregnant after he had problems with the condom. I was ready to do it, wanted to do it, was scared to do it. I was told it could hurt and bleed and went as far as having an old towel under me. I really liked him, had been with him a few times and had first played through clothes. Oral was only one way don’t think he knew. We had stopped the time before because of pain from his using his hand. Finally I told him to do it and not stop, I most likely was biting my lip then screamed, he stopped but had already came and then realized the condom came off. Young love we dated a few months. We did it a number of times when we found his or my parents weren’t home. I don’t remember having a real orgasm with him even though we both enjoyed the making out. 

[couplers 4,140]

10 hours ago, TricianMike said:

Most of us on here if truthful will say the first time was not great physically  and orgasms were not to be.

Thanks for posting your story.  None of the emojis seemed appropriate.

 

My first intercourse experience wasn't painful because athletic activities broke my hymen young (I remember the quick pain and blood).  Fiingers, my own and others, further opened the way physically and neurologically, so I knew what an orgasm was early on and how to get there.

[cplnluv1 804]

I’m going to agree with Tricia that the real first time was painful and I expected it to be. My second time was a little better still painful. At the time I kept it to myself and wondered if I had a problem. 
 

To answer the OP I was with a virgin who I liked a lot. The first time was very fast not that he ever lasted long. Both of young and neither of us knew much. 
 

I wonder about what happened with him. 
Does anybody search for their first boyfriends? 

[couplers 4,140]

On 7/26/2022 at 7:10 PM, TricianMike said:

I also worried about getting pregnant after he had problems with the condom.

I've never had sex with a guy using a condom (but I've also never really been a swinger, just poly).

 

I did lots of oral, both giving and receiving from an early age with the guys who I dated.  Also some bum sex if I really liked him, he licked and fingered my pussy well, and he was pleading to go in.

 

Pretty much as soon as I was old enough to drive, I went to Planned Parenthood with a girlfriend.  My parents weren't suspicious because I was a good student and other than the sex, which they didn't know about, I was well behaved.  My friend wasn't planning on it, but she got a script for The Pill as well.

 

After that, I found that straight ahead p-in-v sex is my favorite.  That is until I found my Lesbian side and wanted both.

Edited July 28, 2022 by couplers

[MidLifeFun 143]

8 hours ago, couplers said:

I've never had sex with a guy using a condom (but I've also never really been a swinger, just poly).

No offense meant

Why are you the most prolific poster on a swinger page if you are not a swinger? (your words) I don’t understand your always sexual answers. 
My understanding is Poly is multiple loves whilst Swinging is having recreational sex. 

Edited July 28, 2022 by MidLifeFun

[MidwestHoneys 334]

8 hours ago, MidLifeFun said:

My understanding is Poly is multiple loves whilst Swinging is having recreational sex. 

Sex is always recreational. As a couple we swing with others only recreationally with no love for them just like for them. Isn’t poly similar to marriage with more than two people? 

[couplers 4,140]

On 7/28/2022 at 5:19 AM, MidLifeFun said:

No offense meant

None taken at all.  I'm not offended or hurt by anyone taking issue with anything I post.  I quite enjoy the back-and-forth.

 

On 7/28/2022 at 5:19 AM, MidLifeFun said:

Why are you the most prolific poster on a swinger page if you are not a swinger? (your words)

I've not compared my prolificness with others, but my sense of it is that my postings are sporadic.  I will post often, then be absent for a while; it depends both on how busy I am and my mood.  I also checked the categories of postings provided on this site and there still includes "Some Swingers Do - Poly, BDSM, & Nudism".  I believe there used to be a category for just Poly, but I may be mistaken.  We have done some limited swinging in the past with friends, and currently Lora, Clair, and I share a non-romantic, just sex boyfriend for when David and Red can't keep up with our needs.  Besides, there are plenty of posters here that have never engaged in swinging at all who post, and lead meaningful discussions.

 

On 7/28/2022 at 5:19 AM, MidLifeFun said:

I don’t understand your always sexual answers.

Again, in my mind, my postings oscillate between the straight ahead, explicit sexual and the somewhat dry relationship advice depending on the thread and my state-of-mind.  My explicit answers are sometimes a response to a thread where all of the posts are strictly from the males point-of-view.

 

On 7/28/2022 at 5:19 AM, MidLifeFun said:

My understanding is Poly is multiple loves whilst Swinging is having recreational sex. 

That is my understanding as well.  As I said above, we had and still have some no-strings-attached sexual relations with others, but we are primarily poly and increasingly have sex only within the members of our family.  To me poly is a step beyond swinging.  For example, it was a challenge and a thrill to know then later to see hubby have sex with other women.  It was another level entirely to see my husband and Red develop an emotional attachments to Clair and Lora, and not just see them as play partners.  Then have them move in with us and have children with hubby and Red.

 

Everyone has a story and I enjoy reading nearly all of them. 

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On 7/28/2022 at 1:38 PM, MidwestHoneys said:

Isn’t poly similar to marriage with more than two people? 

That is our view in our poly family, especially now that we all live in one large house and share children among us.  In some ways it is a lot more work than a two person marriage, in other ways much easier, and not just in an economies-of-scale way.  The disagreements among us are few and not very intense, the main reason being that the those having a disagreement have others to turn to for solace.  The others never take sides, but provide comfort and it's quickly over.  Two things that have cemented the overall relationship is the Lesbian attraction we women have for each other and having children with the same men together at about the same time.  The children are all of our children and the children consider each of us adults their parents.

 

What our arrangement does require are lawyers, accountants, insurance people, etc. to make sure that the children will be well provided for through college regardless of what happens.  At first, a top concern was one or more breakups, but that doesn't seem like it is anywhere near happening; amazing considering that there are five strong-willed people involved.  We have found a five-way match and have really bonded.  The main concern now is the usual death or disability of one of us adults.

Edited July 31, 2022 by couplers

[couplers 4,140]

On 5/17/2023 at 5:52 AM, generouswife said:

I suspect a few, especially when I was younger.

Was it a better experience? 

[Tomy Nikki 52]

I have been with 2 virgin guys in my life and one of them is my husband.

[couplers 4,140]

19 hours ago, Tomy Nikki said:

I have been with 2 virgin guys in my life and one of them is my husband.

Were you and your husband both virgins together, or were you already the experienced one teaching him?

[Tomy Nikki 52]

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3 hours ago, couplers said:

Were you and your husband both virgins together, or were you already the experienced one teaching him?

As i said I and my husband met when we were in our teens, and we became gf and bf for years but we never explored sex as we were so feared of it then. slowly and gradually we explored and it happened. 
 

It was both of us teaching each other what we hear or saw then.

[couplers 4,140]

On 5/17/2023 at 5:52 AM, generouswife said:

I suspect a few, especially when I was younger.

 

On 5/19/2023 at 5:52 AM, couplers said:

Was it a better experience? 

 

2 hours ago, generouswife said:

Nope.

Not surprising.  Nothing else in life is better doing it with someone who has less experience rather than more.

[AdamGunn2 187]

Would you rather have a server on his first night on the job at a restaurant, or one with five years experience . . .

[lcmim 1,008]

OR

 

Would you rather have someone excited and trying very hard to please or someone jaded for whom it is just same old same old?

[couplers 4,140]

11 hours ago, lcmim said:

OR

 

Would you rather have someone excited and trying very hard to please or someone jaded for whom it is just same old same old?

Someone who is excited AND experienced aren't mutually exclusive.  So you can have both.  It's more likely that someone who is experienced with sex would also be excited about it.

[lcmim 1,008]

I was just prodding adamgunn2 

 

I agree with your point.

[ExploringOptions 179]

Most likely a few, one I am positive I was his first because he told me. At least two I would swear were not experienced or just had no clue.