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Saw it and distributed to our circle of lifestyle friends. Thanks, interesting and non-judgmental article!

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I am curious as to what happens at Hedo, I have only heard stories. This article gave me insight to what is going on there in the pandemic era. 

I don’t consider myself an exhibitionist nor a voyeur. I have never been to a club either. I’m not sure of my comfort of playing with a stranger at a resort yet I have played with strangers at parties. Think it was the knowledge that someone I know invited that person. I have played in front of others but the excitement came from the person I was with not the fact that people were watching. 

Prior to the new rules what kind of resort other than the obvious is Hedo. Is it upscale or just Holiday Inn quality. When things return to normal, whenever and whatever that might be, we might want to go to a resort where clothing is optional and public is not mandatory. If we went with others we know it might be exciting playing outdoors though a playroom doesn’t seem to interest me. 

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We have been to Desire Riviera Maya, Desire Pearl and Hedo 2. We preferred the Desires. Riviera Maya has a younger vibe, Pearl was older and quieter. Hedo 2 allows single males, which can change the balance. We also take Bliss cruises. 

We have met people at these resorts and have stayed friends for years.

 

People are loyal to each of them. I would go back to any. Looking forward to post pandemic. 

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Desire has outdoor beds that are fun and a little more private than a playroom.


Sometimes I find the sights and sounds of a playroom distracting, so we have invited people to our room. 

 

Sometimes we have not played with others. If it is your choice not to, that’s fine .

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20 hours ago, PSULioness said:

I am curious as to what happens at Hedo, I have only heard stories. This article gave me insight to what is going on there in the pandemic era. 

I don’t consider myself an exhibitionist nor a voyeur. I have never been to a club either. I’m not sure of my comfort of playing with a stranger at a resort yet I have played with strangers at parties. Think it was the knowledge that someone I know invited that person. I have played in front of others but the excitement came from the person I was with not the fact that people were watching. 

Prior to the new rules what kind of resort other than the obvious is Hedo. Is it upscale or just Holiday Inn quality. When things return to normal, whenever and whatever that might be, we might want to go to a resort where clothing is optional and public is not mandatory. If we went with others we know it might be exciting playing outdoors though a playroom doesn’t seem to interest me. 

If you want upscale, you should consider Desire. Other than at select times, the two Desire resorts are couples only. Hedo allows singles and locals (which is fine) but it has more of a frat party/ spring break vibe.  Desire is sexy and sensual and not quite so 'on the nose'. Not all who attend are lifestylers. Some are nudists, some are vanilla looking for a thrill, and some are there as exhibitionists/ voyeurs. All seem to coexist just fine as long as you are respectful of each other. There is zero pressure - to get nude, to play, etc. The staff is great. The playmakers (activity instigators) are also fantastic. The general consensus is RM is younger and bigger party but that can depend upon the crowd that particular week. We have friends that like one or the other or both. Frankly, it's hard to go wrong with either. Often, there are takeovers (full or partial) where podcasters or swinger sites host a week for their people.  As far as play goes, many folks go to their rooms. Beach beds are nice as well.

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On 8/17/2020 at 1:45 PM, Fundamental Law said:

I thought this was an excellent piece of journalism and quite unlike most of what I see. Usually it’s kind of “walk on the wild side” approach and often with a slightly “looking down the nose at these pervs” tone. “I was surprised at how otherwise normal these (freaks) seemed otherwise.

 

What I really appreciated about this piece is that it was written from the implicit perspective that the fairly wide range of behaviors that go on at this resort are well within the normal span of human activities. And the really interesting thing is how in the current pandemic are the folks who operate these resorts able to ensure a reasonable degree of safety for customers and staff. 

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5 hours ago, Fitlakecouple said:

If you want upscale, you should consider Desire. Other than at select times, the two Desire resorts are couples only.

I don’t think we are going anytime soon. After posting, I checked TripAdvisor for reviews. It said Hedo was dated and the reviews agreed with what you said. Pricing shows that the Desire clubs are pricier, not always an indicator. I never asked friends who have gone to similar getaways much more than a few questions. I think my pre-lifestyle life was pretty much privileged and not making excuses, I just always liked the idea of better resorts. Yes I was spoiled. 

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We are a bit spoiled and used to the finer things in life. You would not be roughing it at either of the Desire resorts. We stay at top notch places worldwide. The facilities at Desire are very nice. 
 

 But do note that the crowd at DRM is younger than Pearl. We have stayed at both. And get an erotic couples massage. 

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33 minutes ago, PSULioness said:

I don’t think we are going anytime soon. After posting, I checked TripAdvisor for reviews. It said Hedo was dated and the reviews agreed with what you said. Pricing shows that the Desire clubs are pricier, not always an indicator. I never asked friends who have gone to similar getaways much more than a few questions. I think my pre-lifestyle life was pretty much privileged and not making excuses, I just always liked the idea of better resorts. Yes I was spoiled. 

Desire is the "best" but it is not a 5-star hotel. If you find a 5-star lifestyle place please tell us - we are spoiled too! We are waiting for this storm to pass before heading back as well.

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4 hours ago, Fitlakecouple said:

Desire is the "best" but it is not a 5-star hotel. If you find a 5-star lifestyle place please tell us - we are spoiled too! We are waiting for this storm to pass before heading back as well.

We did an LS cruise last summer that was like being in a 5 star hotel. Alas cruising needs to wait a bit, as do most social activities. 

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We were on a Crystal cruise that was a lifestyle takeover to Alaska in 2018, also top tier. So they exist. 

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Just now, njbm said:

We were on a Crystal cruise that was a lifestyle takeover to Alaska in 2018, also top tier. So they exist. 

Yes, ours was a Crystal river cruise. It was absolutely top notch in every respect. We are distressed for the Crystal Cruise line that their superb staff have been furloughed. Hard to assemble and sustain that level of talent. 

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3 hours ago, Fundamental Law said:

Yes, ours was a Crystal river cruise. It was absolutely top notch in every respect. We are distressed for the Crystal Cruise line that their superb staff have been furloughed. Hard to assemble and sustain that level of talent. 

Danube? We took a vanilla Danube cruise, really great. Is the river cruise ship big enough to allow for play? I recall our room was a suite, but still tiny. 

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Our Crystal river cruise was indeed Budapest->Vienna. Yes, there are play options. Yes, venues and options more limited than on an ocean going vessel.

 

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On 8/17/2020 at 8:48 PM, PSULioness said:

I am curious as to what happens at Hedo, I have only heard stories. This article gave me insight to what is going on there in the pandemic era. 

I don’t consider myself an exhibitionist nor a voyeur. I have never been to a club either. I’m not sure of my comfort of playing with a stranger at a resort yet I have played with strangers at parties. Think it was the knowledge that someone I know invited that person. I have played in front of others but the excitement came from the person I was with not the fact that people were watching. 

Prior to the new rules what kind of resort other than the obvious is Hedo. Is it upscale or just Holiday Inn quality. When things return to normal, whenever and whatever that might be, we might want to go to a resort where clothing is optional and public is not mandatory. If we went with others we know it might be exciting playing outdoors though a playroom doesn’t seem to interest me. 

It is hard to describe what happens there, because every day is different, different groups will change the activity. No matter what you want to do you can make it. It is a fun place.

 

We have been 18 times

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