Lack of sexual intimacy from husband during FMF threesome

[vegas32 15]

I’m coming here for some advice about about something I’m not sure if I’m overthinking...

 

We’ve been kind of dating/seeing a girl who I have yet to have a sexual connection with. I’ve been her only female experience, and we’re still working through lessons. My husband has been head over heels for her since we all met, which caused a lot issues between us then.

 

Things have gotten much better, and I feel more comfortable with everything. I’ve been BI my whole life pretty much, so this patience and teaching is pretty big for me because I don’t get the full experience all the time. One boundary we have is no penetration with the other girl (there’s reasons for that). Anyhow, every time we’re together, whether in bed or not, I feel like a lot of foreplay is with her, I’m just there to have the penis in me, and the fact that he says I’m dry, well no shit, I have to push him for some sexual attention, and that’s a turn-off for me. It’s so frustrating because I’m normally not when I’m sexually aroused. He always opts to touch her, kiss her, and very passionate. I have to force us to kiss, or force his hand to touch me too, I like that stuff too. He’s very much aware of that, I have a soft, and sexy waxed vagina too, that I’m sure I could get a lot of attention and play.

 

It feels like sometimes I’m there as the middle person to gap the bridge between them, and it’s taking a toll on my emotions. I don’t want to cause an argument, but I’m not feeling good about this, but want to make sure if I’m overthinking anything.

[padoc 1,696]

Swinging is a team sport, meaning that both parts of a couple participate in some way in the game. It sounds like you're feeling left out and abandoned sexually by your team mate as demonstrated but the vaginal dryness in the middle of what should be a highly erotic activity.. Its going to damage your marriage and this will NOT end well! I'd suggest that you insist on a swinging moratorium to repair the damage already done. If the husband refuses, your choices are;

1. Continue as is and grow more resentful and angry.

2. Give him a pass to boink the girl but be prepared to be just as unhappy as you are now or more so.

3. Walk away from the marriage.

 

Frankly, I think your husband is an idiot! He has every man's dream, two naked women in bed with him and he's blowing it (and not in a good way)! Good luck Mrs Vegas. Let us know what happens next.

[Jane1902 476]

I have read your other posts written by the husband. I really don’t understand why the two of you keep this going. Yes it’s a great fantasy but it doesn’t sound like an enjoyable reality. Why are you not taking a break from any swinging/open marriage activities and working on your marriage? Just stop.

[GoldCoCouple 4,014]

Frankly, I think your husband is an idiot! He has every man's dream, two naked women in bed with him and he's blowing it (and not in a good way)!

 

Until the two of you are on the same page and you can both talk to each other about this, you need to stop with the other girl. There are always other women in the future, but first your husband needs to wake up and realize how lucky he is. Good luck and let us know how things progress.

[JessicaJamison 842]

On 1/26/2020 at 10:57 AM, vegas32 said:

It feels like sometimes I’m there as the middle person to gap the bridge between them, and it’s taking a toll on my emotions. I don’t want to cause an argument, but I’m not feeling good about this, but want to make sure if I’m overthinking anything.

 

Nope, you are thinking about this id say about the appropriate amount babe.  That is straight up BS.  You know exactly what you need and for him to be ignoring you until he needs a pussy to stick it in is a huge problem.  You are not just a hole, and he is treating you like a hole.  I'd lose my fucking shit on him.  So maybe I should revise my earlier comment, I think you are not over reacting enough.  You are his wife and you are letting him get naked with this other woman and your thanks is being ignored till he wants to violate your body with no warm up.  That is straight up unacceptable.  Men have no clue what we as women give up when we agree to let them violate our person, they are not just in our personal space, they are inside our body, and that is not always an enjoyable experience, which is probably why little miss thing doesn't want him in her.  I'd leave his ass alone a couple times with miss no intercourse to remind him you actually give him the pussy, without the pussy sex is not as satisfying for a guy.  So he can warm you up or not have intercourse.