Do you like sex with strangers?

[michael_lynn197 15]

Re: Do you like sex with strangers?

 

Absolutely! That's the MOST, but NOT only, really exciting kind. It's just the most erotic and exciting kind. It is exactly the SAME question I just found, and replied to, in Julie's question of "Would you participate in a dark room orgy?", to which I also said the following:

 

"I am a single mature male, and being in a dark room orgy is a fantasy I have had for ten years now...I want to be seduced by a mix of males AND females, with more than three couples for small groups, and in a larger group, by as many

as a fifty to a hundred persons, ALL taking their turns on making love to me, either by themselves or as couples, for

at least an hour, and more if I can take it."

 

I agree with Julie, that guys should NOT say the idea turns you off because another guy could be touching you/sucking you and and you wouldn't know it. And don't give me that "I'd know if it was a guy" line, either. A VERY BIG part of the swinging lifestyle DOES involve some "bi-activity" by both male and females...otherwise you cannot really be swinging at all...AND it should involve male bi-activity... So...YES..I would LOVE to be in a dark room orgy...I just hope a group here in the Dallas-Fort Worth area are willing to do this... for and WITH me....Michael"

 

BUT...I had forgotten 'till a few minutes ago to talk about about the Anne Rice novel she wrote called "The Erotic Adventures of Sleeping Beauty", where her prince uses her sex to break her will down. In this, "Sleeping Beauty" is taken to the inside of the castle where she is immediately placed on a platform, totally and completely naked high in the air and above the crowd of people gathered there, and forced to lay face-down, her hands bound behind her, and her legs are held open by the people in masks in spread-eagle style to allow the crowd of aristocrats to fondle and have sex with her WITHOUT her knowing who they were that were making love to her. This scene goes on for hours until everyone has fondled and had sex with Sleeping Beauty and she has been truly, completely, and totally seduced by the mass of people in the castle, all in dim candle-light, without Sleeping Beauty ever knowing who, at anytime, they were. ALL making love to her.

 

It was the most erotic thing I have ever read, and the picture it gave my mind was just as seductive for me as the fictional erotic Sleeping Beauty! This was a true and most exciting example of how to have sex with strangers!

 

And YES, again, I most certainly would have a LOT of sex with strangers!

 

Michael

 

 

PS: I still would like to experience this kind of seduction myself, as I said I wanted in my answer to Julie's "Would you participate in a dark room orgy?"...It's just that Sleeping Beauty's seduction was in very dim lighting, but the effect was the same.

[tittietwister 126]

I find it very, very exciting for her to do....

[nhcpl1968 18]

We have found that we have better time with folks we get to know then complete strangers

[Hot Raleigh Cpl 164]

We often have sex with strangers. It is exciting, the sex is great. You also avoid the overhead of "courtship" with your partners. Downside is, you don't get the libido build-up that you do during the courtship.

[NandDinDayton 26]

We find a certain allure to it. It's very exciting but we've never done "just anybody". We do have to take time and talk with them first and see if there's a vibe and go from there. Plus its nice to at least have a first name.

[luvscum1 17]

Yes, I get turned on when Bob calls me and says he is bringing home a couple newbies for me to please.

[mmsweetf 18]

Additude said:

Well you're a single male also. I think all single males, well most of them anyway, are like that.

 

On second thought, that just might be true for most males in general

 

I agree! My wife is a hot, sexually active chick who loves sex many ways (in all holes, and outside any holes too), and I have no shortage at home, BUT... when I catch a glimpse of an attractive woman I feel like getting between her legs - or mouth - (with my cock or my tongue) pronto and giving her my best effort. I feel like I *have* to taste her, or explode inside her, just for the satisfaction of seeing how she reacts to sex (with me) Maybe it's hard-coded into the effect of testosterone. It's an instantaneous reaction. It dies down usually and I can talk in a civilized non-threatening way to the object of my lust (or just ignore her as we pass by each other in the street)

 

My wife is the opposite (mostly) - the longer she knows a guy the more she wants to fuck or suck him. Even if she doesn't find him particularly 'attractive' (she wants to suck those guys off). And being wanted makes her want to fuck the wanter too, sometimes, if he is not creepy. Very occasionally she's get the urge to fuck a guy right at first glance, bu that's very rare.

 

We've talked about this plenty between us, it's a real difference. Both our neighbors (the m components) figure in her fantasies, so do some of my colleagues & friends (the ones we ask over to our house). And the guy three houses down, retired, into his pets. For me it's the sexy babe (no particular age implied) walking up the steps in front of me - I can barely restrain feeling her up under her swaying skirt!

[GPHTallCouple 69]

As a single girl, oh absofrickinglutely loved a good one night stand. Most guys seemed to like having one night stands too but could not date a woman who could. When the question about one night stands being honest about liking to have them became a relationship killer. MrGPH is one of the few men in my life that hasn't given me grief about it. Perhaps because he was already a swinger when he met me.

 

I never thought of one night stands as stranger sex though. I had to think it through, get a feel for the person before I feel comfortable being alone and naked with them. Sometimes I'd see a guy and pursue just for the sex with him. He'd be much younger or just in town visiting and I'd let them persuade me into it.

 

I had some one night stands that completely surprised me. I'd be at a club, angry at some guy who stood me up or I had just broken up with. I'd just wanting to drink and be by myself, some men would find that the challenge to make me stop hating men. I'm a lucky girl, I can go into a bar, a few hours after kicking one to the curb and have another one wanting to help me forget about that dirtbag. Some women would see it as men preying on them at their point of weakness, not me, I always thought of it as a pleasant turn of events.

 

Now as part of a couple that swings, we have played with couples we talked with briefly. It surprises me the ease that MrGPH can play but then again he had some experience before he met me. So as a couple we can have sex with strangers (protection is a must). I don't need quite as much lead time leading up to play as I did with one night stands because I have MrGPH with me. I know I can count on him if something starts to go awry.

 

Having sex with people we get to know over time is also very workable for us too. Its different for me, and I couldn't put my finger on why until now. I like the excitement of someone completely new to me when it comes to sex.

[cupl4fun 361]

We weren't exactly sure how to answer this one, we needed a "sometimes" option. In general, we prefer to get to know the people it is much easier for our male half to really relax and enjoy himslef when we know the couple. Having said that though we have been at a couple swing clubs where a couple would just point to us and point to the privat playroom and if we were attracted in abut five minutes we would be having all kinds of fun and we never even got names and probably will never see the people again.

[shootermcgavin6 3]

When it comes to 1 on 1 sex, nothing beats some good "strange"! It's like how you feel faster when you put on a new pair of sneakers or that awesome new car smell. Any guy who says otherwise is full of shit or in denial. That moment when the head of your dick is just starting to part her lips for the very first time before sliding has a uniqueness that makes life worth living.

[Jeffrewd 17]

Love it! The whole idea is that kinky dirty naughty factor that makes it almost, almost taboo. The thought of reaching over and playing with someone I have never seen before is totally hot!

[Tina and Bob 236]

The fact of the matter is that I, Tina, would like to say that I would like to know someone before having sex. When Bob and I started swinging it was mainly clubs and and he encouraged me to experiment because I had had limited sexual experiences. For those that know about San Francisco clubs some can be fairly open/wild to say the least.

 

Bob introduced me to swinging, I have to admit that sexually i was very conservative, like 5 guys before Bob and that includes the ex.

Anyway a few SF clubs, lots of naked big cock guys, that Bob personally would want me to do, I would wear a mask and lay on the bed, so no face images.

 

I was terrified and my knees trembled literally,almost peed, think I did a little in beginning, but then I relaxed and was able to somewhat enjoy experience; actually was able to orgasm a few times.

 

Fact is after that I was able to realize that sex is more than just something that you do with your lover; it can be just for your own bodies personal satisfaction. Sometimes i think that Bob has opened up a side of me (wildside) that maybe should have been caged. Any one else feel that way?

[mrfixit 15]

Tina and Bob said:

The fact of the matter is that I, Tina, would like to say that I would like to know someone before having sex. When Bob and I started swinging it was mainly clubs and and he encouraged me to experiment because I had had limited sexual experiences. For those that know about San Francisco clubs some can be fairly open/wild to say the least.

 

Bob introduced me to swinging, I have to admit that sexually i was very conservative, like 5 guys before Bob and that includes the ex.

Anyway a few SF clubs, lots of naked big cock guys, that Bob personally would want me to do, I would wear a mask and lay on the bed, so no face images.

 

I was terrified and my knees trembled literally,almost peed, think I did a little in beginning, but then I relaxed and was able to somewhat enjoy experience; actually was able to orgasm a few times.

 

Fact is after that I was able to realize that sex is more than just something that you do with your lover; it can be just for your own bodies personal satisfaction. Sometimes I think that Bob has opened up a side of me (wildside) that maybe should have been caged. Any one else feel that way?

The situations are reversed for us, this is the story of our swing life.

 

We met 9 years ago, both on vacation separated from the ex's.

 

The Second day we went to a vanilla get together party, hung out got more aquatinted and ending up in a bath house, up against the wall and on the bench doing everything i could dream of happening.

 

I had been married for 25 years, waited out the kids turning 18, before getting my divorce, (she wanted and ask for for 3-4 years), after I made sure they finished school and had skills to succeed. Dealing with her and them and child support would have been a nightmare anyway with her.

 

Now the kicker,I married at 19 to a hs sweetheart, with one other experience in my young life, a 36 year old woman, and man I mean WOMAN,

The ex and my sex life was boring, to be nice, as an example she did not swallow, or spit, she just stopped. one time in 25 years I came in her mouth, and she made such a big deal I swore never again. She was controlling and hard to deal with, man was I Glad to get those kids grown, yes i was frustrated for a few years, (Ok, I guess 24 of them, for the most past), but stayed to see my sons grow, and that I will never regret.

 

The present wife, I met in 2002 at camp, and We found ourselves to be so right for each other. Both mostly, grown kids, 2 each, both separated for months and filed for our divorces.mid fortis, strong sex drives, ready to make ourselves happy for once. So she made it easy to talk her up and we ended up together the rest of the time she was there. When I return home SC a couple of months or later, I packed my stuff and moved to California to be near her, living with a friend, that lasted 3-4 weeks and I was moved in with her, and the rest is the real adventure. Super Bonus, she loves a blow job to finish and her ex did not, stupid dude another proof.

 

She ask me about swinging, I needed education for sure, she had dabbled in it with her ex, but he could not follow rules and cheated, so they got out.

 

She said that she was so comfortable with me , she knew I was a different kind of person, Horney but loyal and honest.

 

We got on the Swing Lifestyle board, found a few California friends, chatted and cammed a little, met some locals and a great group in the high desert.

 

From there it was one adventure after another. Got invited to a meet and greet, with the group, hit it off and talked with the host couple and other,

 

we were invited to a house party the next weekend.

 

Ok, Imagine a Southern Gentleman from the Bible Belt in this environment, what a change and fun experience. I passed a lot of new barriers that night and and other parties. Later started going out with couples one on one sometimes but not as successful. Man this woman has really opened up my world and life.

 

Now to the question,

We like meeting couples and single females at local clubs here in the Carolinas now, mostly after chatting before the party, but not always, it is the most effective way to meet, we think.

If we meet someone we like and feel good about, the game could be on for us both if the others are on board.

 

Playing with existing friends is great, but maybe as exciting as unplanned encounters can be. Safer for sure. But if the desires are there the build up and be fun.

 

I think everyday about the woman that was put in my life, to make me happy, complete and loved, and feel so blessed.

 

Now her health is failing some and she has had to slow down some, but still has her heart in having fun and making us both happy.

 

With her energy levels sometimes, she prefers looking for a female to share, I have a lot past sexual energy build up still, she tries to spread it around. LOL

 

As to your question , yes she let the Genie out of the bottle, too! LOL

Spike [======>

 

Sorry for the long post, but it has snowed 8 inches or so overnight so what else do I have to do this morning. Could go shovel a path to the Hot Tub.

[Toys4T 15]

I would interested with strangers, but it helps a lot if there's a place that feels safe, you know, in case they are abnormal in a bad way.

[shootermcgavin6 3]

It's night and day for me.. There's nothing that turns me on more but when I'm sober i wouldn't even consider it. When I'm having sex with my husband, all he has to do is tell me how much he wants to see me getting fucked by a group of guys and I'll cum so fast. I hate condoms but unfortunately there a must when I've been a naughty slut. My favorite way to finish is to have them shoot right on my clit. It's incredible how it it's so hot that it almost burns. I was wondering if anyone here has been to the porn awards thing in Vegas? I would never admit it but I love to watch these creampie gangbang videos my husband has. I can't believe these bitch's paid to get tossed around and turned out for a solid hour. If that isn't enough they get to taste and experience all of these beautiful cocks. i get so jealous when they zoom in and show how the cocks throb and pulsate as they cum. These fucking ungrateful sluts just sit there and pretend that they're loving it. My husband thinks that he wants me watch me fuck all the pornstars. I don't know if that's such a good idea because he may not like to see how dirty I can actually get. This is his idea so he better not hold it against me.

[grybear 16]

Yes, I like having sex with strangers - kind of like - let's see if I can make you really feel good - recreational sex- I always try to give the person I am having sex with an adventure to remember. I know I remember every woman I ever had sex with - most of them were onetime events and quite good too.

[cplnuswing 4,711]

On 8/2/2003 at 1:31 AM, windsor4fun2 said:

We have found that the sex is better with people that we know. This is just our preference. Others may feel differently, but each to their own.

 

That's what we have found too. We don't have any opposition in general, and we have played on the first date, but we discovered there is a strong correlation between how comfortable we feel with each other vs. how good the experience is.  That doesn't mean there has to be six dates before the naked fun starts, but the "I don't even know your name" experiences just haven't worked out as well.

 

We want to have fun with them, and just as importantly, we them to have fun with us, and for us anyways, that's more likely when there has been a little syncing up time involved.

[PeterJ 826]

Both ways can work for me. I do enjoy sex with people I know (in the lifestyle); the familiarity of an existing connection is nice.

 

On the other hand at parties I’ve had great fun with women I’ve met just minutes before. I try to remember their names and make sure to use it a couple of times early on in the play session. Unfortunately, over the course of a really strong experience it’s too easy for me sometimes to forget the name when I’m being overwhelmed with how good they fuck or suck. Which is embarrassing when my partner might have just a few minutes before swallowed my load. ? (I do wonder if there have been women who have been cuddling with me in our mutual post-orgasmic bliss and said to themself ‘’Gee, that guy was pretty good. I’m embarrassed I can’t remember his name..." ? )

[Billygoat 405]

Within the lifestyle....open play, group party rooms and various group themed sex play and gangbangs we have had pure unknown sex play and activity.  We have not ever had glory hole, porn booth, stranger pick up or dogging experiences.  Not really interested in pursuing that.  But we also never say never......

[adamgunn 1,456]

I don't think we'd pick up a random person(s) off the street and just head for the bed. But at house parties, both of us have acted on the spur of the moment, it's been great.

[couplers 4,140]

On 8/1/2003 at 8:31 PM, eddypasifa said:

Do you like sex with strangers?

I have lots of sex, but I've only had sex with five men in my life, three of them currently.  Does that answer your question?

[cplnluv1 804]

All people we meet are strangers when we meet and almost all have never been naked in front of others and never had sex with anyone else. We are very cognizant of their nervousness which adds to our excitement. We don’t rush anyone, try to get to know them and understand them. 

[njbm 2,728]

We like to swing with new couples, but we like to get to know them a bit first and exchange contact information in case someone contracts something very bad. 
 

Our days of boffing randos at clubs and house parties are behind us. 

[TricianMike 732]

Strangers are fun. Tricia has a way to pick up strange men at hotels and bring them up to our room. We got the idea from another post on here and she learned how to approach men after football games and at business conventions. It had become a joke between us that there are times she doesn’t even know the name of a partner. I once asked her what was his name and she shrugged and said I Dunno. Another time Oops, forgot to ask. 

[let's do it again 380]

We enjoy swinging on vacation whenever we are on a nude beach. If we approach another couple or if another couple approaches us, we look to swing. I guess what surprises me is the countries these other swingers are from and the age difference, we are 62 and 52. We always get offers from British couples which we find very sexual! I love the younger ones, seeing myself in them whenever I was a younger swinger.  Nothing better than swinging during vacation. 

[Numex 2,175]

Neither Daniela nor I want sex with strangers.  That's one of the reasons that we are happy in our closed (bareback) group of married couples.  We enjoy the social and emotional connects that we and our spouse has.

[24fun4u 8]

18 hours ago, Numex said:

Neither Daniela nor I want sex with strangers.  That's one of the reasons that we are happy in our closed (bareback) group of married couples.  We enjoy the social and emotional connects that we and our spouse has.

While we have talked about having regular playmates, and we do have some that we have played with for years, the concern we have always had with playing just within a closed group, is we think you would become too "emotionally" involved in there lives. I don't mean not caring about them, but suddenly you become entangled in any "issues" that may be happening between the two members of a couple, or between couples. Over time, people change, relationship changes, priorities changes, etc. We've met a recent couple where the women was complaining that they don't have sex with their lifestyle friends much anymore, because they spend all their time "catching up".

 In the one semi regular group, which is basically the same couple hosting, and most of the people are just invited back, there is some that go bareback and some that require condoms. So, consequently, the bareback only play with the bareback and the condom crowd only plays with the condom crowd (at least for penetration). There's nothing wrong with either decision, (it's a personal choice), but we are seeing is, what once was a sort of everybody plays with everybody situation, to a segregation of partners, which may start to bruise feelings. I understand that you all go bareback, put how do you prevent becoming "involved" in your play partners lives, without seeming to be detached, or too involved?

How do you manage that? For your closed group, is there a sort interview process or something? (Seriously)

[marla&brian 29]

Many years (decades lol) ago after my divorce from my first husband, I got a job that had me traveling often to conventions and seminars. I had some wonder encounters with some strangers. I would simply see a guy at some of the break out sessions or at lunch, just smile at them. And if lucky see them at the hotel bar the final night of the event*. A few times would simply walk up to them and ask if they had time for a fuck. If they said yes I would tell them my room number and I would hear a knock on my door 10-minutes later. Very little talk and some wild sex, rarely would I ever see them again. Most of them gave some lasting memories. 

 

* If I went to a convention that was say Tues-Wed-Thursday, most people had flights home Friday morning.....needless to say a lot of attendee's would "let their hair down" so to speak Thursday night at the hotel bar where most attendees were staying. Many (men and women) would like to have fun before heading back home to their spouses. 

[Numex 2,175]

On 3/29/2023 at 1:30 PM, 24fun4u said:

I understand that you all go bareback, put how do you prevent becoming "involved" in your play partners lives, without seeming to be detached, or too involved?

How do you manage that?

Each of the couple's emotional attachment to each other couple varies considerably.  Actually it isn't couple by couple, each individual's emotional attachment to each of the others is unique.  A particular man and woman, not married to each other, can be very close, care for each other, seek each other out, play alone, while their respective partners may be friendly and have sex, but that's about it.  All of the women are bisexual to a fair degree, and have more romantic relationships among them while the men are not bisexual.

 

In any case, we all are "involved" in each others lives as typical friends are.  We talk about our relationships as vanilla friends do, some with more detail than others.  There is one big difference and advantage compared to vanilla friends.  I think it was Couplers who said that whenever two of them get into a fight, they each separately go to others in their family arrangement and it smooths things out.  It is somewhat the same for us and our group.

 

There are times when Daniela and I have a fight, not a "fight" fight, but more of a tiff with some loud voices and swearing.  Daniela will leave pissed off and go visit one of her favorite couples in our group.  After a few hours with one or both of them, she comes home happy and all is forgiven and forgotten.  Almost all the time she has had sex, but that's besides the point.  The talk, the anger, the crying, and the sex all come out and things are good again.  The first times, it happened like five or six months apart.  Now it's like every other month and the situation need not be as heated for the process to happen.

 

We have consoled the members of other couples as well.  Daniela's past experience with married men (as well as her lesbian stuff) when she was single has given her great skills  Other people's problems are never as bad to you as it seems to them, and the solutions more obvious.  Having someone to listen and have uncomplicated sex with you while telling you how great your spouse is works to resolve tense situations.

 

It's been the other way around as well.  One time I left the house angry at Daniela and called the husband of a couple in the group asking if I could come over.  He said sure.  He was home, but his wife wasn't.  We talked for around twenty minutes/half an hour as I set out the situation.  His wife then shows up and asks what's up.  Her husband explains my long-ass story in about three sentences.  She cuddles up next to me on the couch and gives me a quick kiss, holds my arm.  She then removes her bra from under her shirt (women can do that trick), tosses it aside, and puts my hand under her shirt on her stomach.  I start to feel her breasts and her husband leaves the room, the house.  After she and I finish, she tells me it's time to go home, and calls her husband to come home.  When I got back, Daniela was happy to see me, the way I am whenever she leaves for a little counselling.

 

On 3/29/2023 at 1:30 PM, 24fun4u said:

For your closed group, is there a sort interview process or something? (Seriously)

Yes, a serious question and one we take seriously.  As posted elsewhere, we were typical swingers at first, but became close with a group of regulars, all of whom were married, one couple just recently.  We found that everyone liked and was attracted to the others, so we planned a get-together of all of us.  It was not only to play, but to talk about us as a group.  It was decided that the advantages of forming a closed group were greater than the loss of not being able to play with others.  So we decided on the setup.  We would only fuck bareback with our wives, only fuck within the group with condoms, and all undergo two rounds of testing.  After several months, we all passed and implemented the final rule: no playing outside the group, even with condoms.  Everyone in the group really preferred playing bareback, and now we could.  If you wanted to play outside the group, you have to leave.  No hard feelings, but we don't want to take chances.  Since we are playing bareback all the time now, but only within the group, the penalty for any violation of our rule is death.  I doubt it will happen.  Everyone gets the quantity and variety of sex they need within our group, including having their kinks satisfied.

 

We've had no one leave our group since it formed, and one other couple join our group since then.  Interestingly, they were not swingers at all but a nice couple who knew many of us, and eventually, what we were up to.  They were told the rules, took the tests, waited, then joined us with great enthusiasm.  Usually not all of us couples get together at one time, but we did have a big event when they joined us for their first time.  They were inexperienced (they did watch our group but only played between themselves), but turned out to be naturals.

[couplers 4,140]

13 hours ago, Numex said:

I think it was Couplers who said that whenever two of them get into a fight, they each separately go to others in their family arrangement and it smooths things out. 

Maybe.

  

On 7/25/2018 at 2:30 PM, couplers said:

Another characteristic of our poly family arrangement is that everyone stays humble and grounded. If two of us fight, the combatants will stomp off into the arms of other family members, who inevitably will both console them and talk sense into them. Being told that you may not be 100% in the right, along with seeing your adversary seeking and being given affection by another family member tends to make arguments short-lived.

 

[24fun4u 8]

14 hours ago, Numex said:

<Quite a bit>

Thank you for the detailed reply, it is most appreciated.

 Our friends usually throw a Spring and Fall party, and the last few times, it has been the same "core" of people with 1 or 2 "outside" couples. It is obvious that we are all growing comfortable with each other, based on the fact that play time happens much more quickly now. There is less of the "getting to know you" process. Those conversations happen afterward when things are more relaxed, so its more enjoyable.

I think we are a long way from this group becoming a "closed" group and adhere to any type of agreement, but it is food for thought. Most of the people are only about 10-20 miles from each other and the hosts, while ourselves and another "core" member of this group are roughly 100 miles away, so there isn't much opportunity for us to be consoled by other members.

How many members are there in your group, and do you "rotate" the hosting of "mass" gatherings, or does one or two couples, due to location or the arrangement (size, location, etc) of their homes tend to have the gatherings? I'm curious because as stated, traveling to the hosts house, or another one of the group members would be the same for us. Far is far. But the host house is almost built for swinger parties. Our house has potential for such a party but we doubt that several of the couples would be willing to travel the 100 miles to us.

[Numex 2,175]

On 4/2/2023 at 9:38 AM, 24fun4u said:

I think we are a long way from this group becoming a "closed" group and adhere to any type of agreement, but it is food for thought.

We think it’s better.  The disadvantage is when you’d like to play with others outside the group – you can’t.  This is a frustration when you’re out of town, especially on vacation.  The big advantages are safety and convenience.  We know all of these people well, both by reputation within the group and our own experiences with them.  Every member of our group has played alone with at least several other members.  Arranging a quick one during the week happens frequently because of trust.  My wife can go to another couple’s house when the wife isn’t there and we don’t worry about safety.  The other aspect of the set-up of the group and of trust is the ability to go bareback.

On 4/2/2023 at 9:38 AM, 24fun4u said:

How many members are there in your group

We started with six couples (including us) who all knew each other, some better than others, from previous swinging encounters.  It so happened that we were all together just to swing one weekend and the talk started about making a closed group.  A lot of emails went around for two weeks then the same couples got together again to specifically agree on the rules and process.

 

Another, young couple who weren’t previous swingers wanted to join.  They spent a fair amount of time socially with people within the group, did some very soft play with various members, fucked just between themselves in front of group members, and we unanimously decided to let them join.  They went through the testing process, accepted the rules, and joined us.  Their first full-on playing with people in the group was a real party.  After they joined us, we now have seven couples, 14 people, in our closed group.

On 4/2/2023 at 9:38 AM, 24fun4u said:

do you "rotate" the hosting of "mass" gatherings, or does one or two couples, due to location or the arrangement (size, location, etc) of their homes tend to have the gatherings?

Most of the play within the group is less than the full group.  During the week it is alone play, threesomes, an occasional full couples swap.  Kids and jobs take priority, so we switch off babysitting duties.  Daniela will visit her favorite nearby couple for her preferred FFM threesome while I watch the kids, then the other wife and I will get together to play while my wife and her husband take the kids.  Other people in the group do likewise.  There is another couple nearby with whom we also have impromptu play. 

 

Most weekends are multiple couples, but not necessarily the full group.  Sometimes two groups will coalesce in separate gatherings at different homes in different areas, but those subgroups aren’t fixed, people decide by their preferred partners, who has the same kinks, and geography.  It’s not unknown for spouses to split between two different subgroups.  We all get together (maybe minus one couple) about every six weeks.  To me it seems that all the homes can accommodate everyone with a little effort.  The most distant couples live less than 40 miles apart, most of us are 10 miles or so apart, some less.  We are about in the middle and join whichever attracts us at the time.  We too have separated on rare occasions.  (The emails fly during the week of who will host and who is going where.  Choices are made.)  Some degree of consolidated babysitting arrangements are the greatest complications, but the kids enjoy getting together and having the parents spend money for them to be treated.

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Thank you so much for your detailed answers, Numex. We appreciate you taking the time, and making the effort to answer our questions.  Good luck to you and your group!