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Julie we are talking about what experiences we wold like to have but it will be some time before we are ready. Right now I just need information and an idea of what to expect. We have not discussed our boundriies yet. We are trying to make sure our marriage is strong enough to do this.

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Julie we are talking about what experiences we wold like to have but it will be some time before we are ready. Right now I just need information and an idea of what to expect. We have not discussed our boundriies yet. We are trying to make sure our marriage is strong enough to do this.

 

The only downfall is if you are not as one in your interests and have a firm base to start with ;) If you both are happy with it then go for it without being jellous. :welcome2:

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My husband and I are totally new and we aren't planning an experience for a little while. My husband has only ever had sex with me, so this will be completely new. We are working through our expectations and desires until we venture in.

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We are new to this. The only thing we have ever done that involved someone other than us, was a threesome with a friend a few months ago.

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this is allll new to me. My hubby and I are together 8 years, and love each other. We both were thinking it would be cool to try a threesome with a female, or maybe swing a little...again alllllllll very new to both of us...and advise ??? we dont want to go with people we know fear of embarrassment

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man we just had the time of our lives last night. we brought our friends and met a couple at the club last night and it went down so perfect me and my girl never eat pussy so sweet the couple was so nice. we had a little bit of a hard time getting our female friend 2 loosen up but it did not matter we were all going at it like rabbits :). i drank a little too much though an was so dehydrated i had a bit of a hard time getting hard but once i did omg. i love it .It was one of the best times i ever had swinging!!!

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we are experienced yet, do not do full swap? go to a party or club, meet some people and just mingle, look around as a couple, if you are approached let them know you are newbies, if you decide to go further have a safe word!! If you use it you BOTH leave!! we use the phrase " I think I need a Drink" if I say or she does, we leave and head to the bar or public area. I am Bi and most of our experience is me girl girl with him just enjoying the show, we now have some good friends we travel with and flirt with. full swap will happen, we are just not going to rush it!! good luck and have fun!! Oh and the last person of the evening you have sex with is your mate!! It must be the grand event of the evening!!

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Do you already have experience with swinging? Or is this a new idea for you? If you are experienced share your experience. If you aren't tell us what experiences you'd like to have.

I'm not totally new but new 2 this part of site taking a step deeper into the lifestyle want have some fun meet some new people

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me and hubby are new.We had tried a soft swap with a couple once and injoyed it very much.Were not sure to go about finding other couple in the area because we like to click first any help

 

There are many web sites out there that are for Swingers trying to find the person or persons to connect with. Sort of like Internet dating but You skip the movies. The one We like is Swing Life Style. Try google on that and register.

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Do you already have experience with swinging? Or is this a new idea for you? If you are experienced share your experience. If you aren't tell us what experiences you'd like to have.

 

We are new in swinging. We are very clean couple and love sex without condoms. Now we see only porno sites where peole make money. It is not interesting for us. We will be looking for real partners for ourself with our principles.

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We had a brief relationship with another couple many years ago, but for reasons unrelated to sex or swinging it didn't work out.

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No experience with swinging per say, but we have brought another female into our bedroom once.

 

We enjoyed it and have talked about it a few times, but we think it would be safer for us to enjoy intimate times with another couple.

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We're the same, no experience at all except for a single MFM encounter many years ago with a good friend.

 

Would love to have another few more encounters now that we have both matured.

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We're the same, no experience at all except for a single MFM encounter many years ago with a good friend.

 

Would love to have another few more encounters now that we have both matured.

 

Same here... We have been talking about some more MFM & FMF before we attempt full couple swaps.

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we are sort of veterans in swinging after starting quite young .. travel a lot .. so, look us up folks

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We are new to it as a couple. She had a almost-but-stopped-short-due-to-nerves MFM experience once, while I have had one FMF where I was the "3rd" in a female couple. We get no end of enjoyment of playing together at a local club but have not brought anyone else into the mix yet. Part of being on here is figuring out if it's right for us to try - and if so what "flavors" will work for us.

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We are complete newbies only having one experience under our belts as a couple which was a MMF. I've had other experiences prior to having met him but it wasn't a lifestyle choice for me at the time and I could count them on one hand. We'd like to try a FFM and/or couple swap but we are in no hurry. We don't want to just jump into the deep end of the pool head first without at least knowing how to doggy paddle ;)

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Two experiences. One many years ago when we were first married with another couple, friends of ours. Most recently with another couple we met at a non-swinger party. So still very new but having fun and looking for more.

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We're experienced. We've been in the lifestyle for 8 years now. We're not what I'd call "hardcore" as we know people that have been in it far less time, with many more experiences. We started attending club parties when we lived back in NY, and when we moved to NV four years ago, just found new clubs and events. We're regulars at a local swingers bar here in Reno, and also attend an annual swingers couples campout that typically sees 60 or so happy, naked couples. We also are becoming somewhat regular adventurers to Hedo, with our third trip a few months away.

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Well I havnt had any experience before so my partner and I really wanna find a gilr to have a threesome with

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I threw a party and my Wife and I ended up drinking of course. We wound up swapping partners once everyone left. I loved seeing another man inside of her even she still denies he was. She must have drank more then I did because I watched the whole thing and he came inside of her. We know the couple so it was safe. I would love to do it again but can't get her to agree let alone acknowledge another Man was inside of her. What should I do? Give it up?

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We are new as a couple. I, (female counterpart) has had two experiences back in my college days (mfm and fmf)... i found i could take it or leave it, however i feel that was due to inexperienced partners. He has had a previous experience with soft swapping. We both are really interested in trying something together as a couple, whether is was fmf, mfm or with another couple. I certainly would like to give it another go around with someone I care deeply about. We already have a very fulfilling sex life and just want to add to it!!

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Totally new here. We are looking for a full swap with another couple, eventually. Same room sex first though. Do you recommend we start with an experienced couple? Because that is what we are thinking of doing. Can't wait to get started, but we realize we need to take it slow at first.

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We have done a drunken threesome with a male friend. But thats been all for now.. But it left a good taste :)

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We have been together for three years. We have been to lifestyle clubs. We also have been on a date with another couple but nothing happen. We are looking to explorer and have some fun along the way.

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Totaly 100 percent new. Looking forward to exploring myself and seeing what happnes. really not sure where to start. Would love to start meeting people

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Totally new to this but interested in where to go to find groups in my area. Thanks for any help!

Hi lovethong69 If you are on the Dallas area there are many clubs for you to get familiar and get to know people, you can find the links on this site

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We have been in the "lifestyle" for 5 years. We go to couples only clubs and show our passion during the summer vacation in a secret hideway. Still on the soft swap side but but so willing to learn when we might have met the right couple.

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Hi lovethong69 If you are on the Dallas area there are many clubs for you to get familiar and get to know people, you can find the links on this site

 

Thanks for the help. I am near Houston. Where are the links you speak of?

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I'm brand new to the LS and have had a three day weekend of full swap with my SO and another couple. Disappointingly I drank too much and am having trouble remembering a lot of it :( I had my first bi experience and do remember she was fabulous. My wish list included DVP which all three of the others assure me happened, but I can't remember at all! ...Has left me wanting more only this time WITHOUT the alcohol!

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my hubby and I are both new to this LS. :newhere:

we have been talking about it for awhile, about swinging with another couple. The joke kinda became reality when we got online and were signing up on different swingers sites. Not sure if we would take it to the next level but talking about with each other has really heighten our sexcapades :wow:

We are both very curious and would like to see where things go.

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We are new to swinging. She has had one past experience with a MFM threesome, but as a couple we haven't tried anything like that yet.

 

We started talking about it about a year ago, and now we are ready to start taking the "baby steps" that move us beyond the talking stage.

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Im totally new to this my husband and i have thought about it for a long time we have been married for almost six years and we have watched porn and done just about anything besides this and its a big turn on for both of us but we ant really sure whats going to happen after my husband came to me and asked me if i would consider asking my best friend to join us in bed and i have not ask her yet but im pretty sure she would but he says there's nothing more than just sex going to be involved even thou she is my best friend she is very attractive and i would love to have it happen but i have got told not to involve friends just stanger's that way its not complicated what should i do?

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