Does a woman get turned on seeing her man with a man?

[lia6972 15]

I understand a woman being bi as I love women and everything to do with them. And seeing two women, or even better, being with them ,is every man's dream. Is it the same the other way around? Do women get turned on, turned off, or are indifferent by seeing their man with another man?

[TeamSoBe 36]

My woman loves it. She mostly just likes to see two guys making out, or maybe sucking each other. Watching two guys have anal sex isn't something that she gets real into, but then neither of us really get into watching girls get screwed in the poop chute either.

 

Unfortunately for her (and me) not all of the guys that we play with are into that. It's still mostly a fantasy for her. You should see her stare at the screen when we're watching "Queer As Folk" and there is a sex scene though, it's like porn for her. She gets exactly she same kind of charge out of that as a lot of guys get out of watching two girls make out.

[Quin 17]

It does turn me on to see two men (or even more) involved in a sexual situation with each other. What's even more of a turn on to me is putting a woman in the picture also. Three people (or more) who aren't inhibited by what society dictates and don't have the *built in since birth homophobic tendencies*...and just doing what feels good and natural at the moment is a huge turn-on.

[DragonsLair 24]

It can be a turnon. I certainly don't find it offensive. I've watched some videos that show bi activity and the guys are getting it on as much as the girls.

 

I've always thought same sex activity made a lot of sense. Who can satisfy a man better than another man? Just like a woman can satisfy another woman better. Usually. There are always some things the opposite sex can do better. But someone of the same sex knows exactly how it feels when something is done to another. Seems logical.

[JustAskJulie 2,588]

Ya know it's funny, seeing my hubby with another woman really does nothing for me. I mean I enjoy it because I know he is enjoying it but I don't really get off on watching him. Now he loves to see me with other men, but unlike most guys could care less about seeing me with other women unless he is in the middle of it.

 

As for the idea of seeing two guys together, that is one of my biggest fantasies.... one that I know will most likely NOT be fulfilled with my hubby

[TeamSoBe 36]

Haha, that's funny Julie, you two are a lot like us. I have seen so many girls crawling all over each other that it does nothing for me. I mean, I like hot girls, and I like to see two hot girls twice as much as I like to see one, but there isn't any particular charge out of seeing them suck on each other. Seeing a male and a female going at it in front of me though, that's heavy, I love that, espeically when the girl is my wife.

 

My wife, on the other hand, enjoys watching me with a girl because she knows that I love it, but it doesn't do anything for her. If the guy involved wasn't me then she wouldn't even bother to watch. Two hot guys, though, and she gets hypnotized and her whole body flushes.

 

...so I guess you two are not as unusual as you think. We thought that we were strange too.

[Beatrice 15]

My first post and a topic I am so interested in. I love to see my husband enjoying himself with another man. I thought I was the only woman that this applied to but apparently not. He likes me to be involved too and that makes it all the more interesting.

[Blacklightphantasy 15]

Only for the pleasure of it, you know? Not that I want him to be gay. I just like the idea of him getting into the experience of it so much that he just lets go, understanding that pleasure is pleasure for it's own sake...and surrenders to the taboo of it. I would like to see a guy sucking him more than anything else.

 

I could never see him as anything but manly, but to see a guy blowing him would totally turn me on....

[RnKin Fla 15]

I would love to see R with another guy - kissing, getting a blowjob. But, alas, that will never happen.

 

He's just a little phobic about that. We've talked about it and just thinking about it makes him VERY nervous.

 

oh well.

[RussErin 17]

We are fairly new to this lifestyle, but I have discovered that the one thing that turns me on more than anything is seeing my husband with another guy. Luckily for me, he enjoys it too! In the few experiences we have had, things haven't progressed beyond him giving and receiving blow jobs, but he is very interested in exploring this new bi side of himself and I am very eager to assist him

[Magnolia 15]

This is a very interesting topic. For all of the women who's husband has found the path to sexual freedom. Did you have to convince them that it was okay or did they just bring it up to you?

 

I too find the idea of two men highly erotic. My husband just recently brought it up to me, but still tends to have phobic moments. Did anyone else experience this?

[Magnum97 15]

Just how common is it that women want to see other men going at it? Although I've done both, I thought women found it disgusting.

[annmikeus 15]

I love to do my man's ass with toys. But I am not interested in seeing him do a guy in any way. I am not homophobic. Just don't want to share my pleasure with a man. And that includes blowjobs.

[Perseus 16]

I know that it has been talked about in other threads, but I think it applies in this thread as well. There are so many Bi women in the lifestyle, and it is so accepted, but the reverse is so... "taboo" in a way that I know bi men in the scene (myself included for a long time) that hesitated to even bring up that fact that they are open to a little soft bi play. Of course the reason is buried in the whole "macho male psyche" thing (along with a whole list of other related misconceptions and fears, but it still amazes me that in a lifestyle that is all about open feelings and breaking "taboo's", that this part of sexuality still hold the stigma it does in the community.

 

On a side note, being a bi man, I don’t get into watching two men together (at least I don’t seek it out), but I love to watch two women together.

 

Diversity, it makes the world go round!

[Beatrice 15]

For the question of how I got my man to be into bi play. We have been married a long time and I knew this was a fantasy and finally met someone I trusted enough to swing with both of us. My husband loved it (maybe too much)!!! I was surprised at how turned on I got by watching US. Not just watching the two men but the way we all three had such a good time. We have met about three times and distance keeps us apart or we would meet more. It has just been so interesting. The men (neither) want to be thought of as gay and they both enjoy my part and include me the whole time too so it is just very interesting. One man will give a blow job and receive anal but the other will not give a blow job or receive anal but takes the blow job and gives anal. Does that make sense?

[TeamSoBe 36]

It doesn't have to make sense as long as everybody is having fun.

[uberkraker 15]

Originally posted by Beatrice

The men (neither) want to be thought of as gay and they both enjoy my part and include me the whole time too so it is just very interesting. One man will give a blow job and receive anal but the other will not give a blow job or receive anal but takes the blow job and gives anal. Does that make sense?

 

I'm not at all surprised, and it makes perfect sense to me.

 

Actually.... (Hold on to your hats, boys and girls - better have a seat and another drink for this one. A VERY controversial statement is forthcoming).... In my own personal experience most men who seek and fantasize about MFM situations do so because they harbor some bi-curiousity or homo-erotic fantasies of their own; not just because they want to see their woman receive pleasure from another man, although this is a part of it.

 

The sexual revolution came and went, and the funny part is that the men got left out. Sure, there's the stud paridigm ,and you might ask youself what did men ever need to be liberated from to begin with, but I think you hit it with the statement "Neither want to be thought of as gay."

 

I have seen the most testosterone posessed male masturbate himself in front of me while in MFM scenes. Does this make him "gay?" I think not.

 

In fact, perhaps the most difficult aftermath of the MFM to deal with is when your friend approaches you on the golf course Sunday morning, and says something to the effect of "you know, the other night, when my hand (lips, tongue) accidentally brushed your... well... you know... your.... uhh...." To which you cooly reply "yeah dude - no problem, I know what you're trying to say." "Uh... thanks man!"

 

MFM just gives these types a marginal "socially acceptable" environment in which to explore their own curiousity (thanks to the porn merchants out in Simi Valley - MFM is now "mainstream").

 

I'd even go so far as to say that if you (as a male) feel the need to surpress the urge to vomit at the thought of touching another man's genitals then you probably have no business exploring MFM play scenes to begin with (but feel free to see for yourself).

 

If you feel that such activities make a man "gay" or "bi" then live that way. I don't, and I won't...

 

[Guest Lakota]

Just my humble opinion, but being bi in the lifestyle has opened a lot of erotic horizons I’d normally not have experienced, but that’s just me. I think there’s a lot more “social programming” that men get subjected to in their formative years that moderates their decisions and boundaries with regards to intimacies with other men. Women, on the other hand, seem to be encouraged to be emotionally approachable by members of the same sex. I think that translates well into a better comfort-level with sexual experimentation as adults

[BradAndJanet 69]

I've asked J about this before and she is kind of ambivalent about it. She says it wouldn't bother her, but it's not particularly one of her fantasies. I'm sure it's not uncommon for women to be aroused by male-male play however.

 

Lakota, what about your partner? What does she think?

[Guest Lakota]

She was actually the first to bring it up. Since i'm out on a ship we "cyber" a lot. We were in a "thread" and it just came up. She knew I was bi when we met so I guess it was more of a case of "when" as opposed to "if".

 

I always see where a couple boundaries are when socializing. I know some guys feel a little "creepy" over the prospect, and I in-no-way take it personally if they don't want to play "with me".

 

For the record, she was really turned on when I "bottomed".

[shysplsk 15]

Hrmmm.. Ok, I'd lake to add something here...

 

As the male half of a couple, I have to admit, bi-curious thoughts have been creeping into my fantasies and thoughts lately. If a woman can ever be expected or asked to have a bi experience for the benefeit of her male partner, is it unreasonable for her to ask the same?

 

I'd definitely have my limits, I wouldn't be interested in any anal play, but masturbation favors, or whatever... Try anything once.. Mind you, more than likely in that couple of minutes (especially the few seconds) right before orgasm, you could problably convince me to go stand on the front lawn wearing a tutu, spray paint myself blue, and stuff a chicken up by butt while playing the bagpipes.

 

Point being, I'm into whatever feels good. Going with the moment and allowing myself to experience pleasure for pleasures sake. What if you were blindfolded and tied to a bed with 10 people in the room, 5 male and 5 female. You can feel someone giving you oral, but you don't know if the giver is male or female. Whether you are a man or a woman, and the giver was male or female, it'd just feel GOOD. Knowing the gender of the person performing oral on you is irrelevant.

[OhioCouple 38]

Originally posted by shysplsk

Mind you, more than likely in that couple of minutes (especially the few seconds) right before orgasm, you could probably convince me to go stand on the front lawn wearing a tutu, spray paint myself blue, and stuff a chicken up by butt while playing the bagpipes.

That is just a "TAD" extreme I'd say, but funnier than hell none the less!

 

Thanks for the laugh!

[Beatrice 15]

Thank you all so much for your replies and your honesty! The people I know just do not talk about "sexual" situations. I think someone got it right when they said a man who wants to experience a MFM situation is interested in exploring his "bi" side and I also think that is good. I wish everyone would just be honest about anything they feel and I think because I feel this way it has made us able to explore some of his fantasies. Although he likes to say they are my fantasies too. Some men just can't admit they like being with another man! When our threesome are not together in a hotel room for sex you would never think these two guys would do some of the things we do so who knows what fantasies lurk in the mind of others!!! I just love it anyway!

[Jimmy_pop711 15]

Well, I have always wanted to be involved in a MFM. I always wanted to watch my former wife with another man also. I knew she was always hot and extremely horny, and the thought of her getting off was always what excited me. However, I also knew how good she was, and the thought of the guy getting to experience that also turned me on. I have never been with a man, but I wouldn't rule it out. The thought of giving a blow job has entered my mind once or twice. I guess it would be interesting with the right couple.