PENIS SIZE! Ever Been Disappointed?

[ohash01 20]

So far I haven't been disappointed when swinging, but back when I was just out of high school I started dating this Harley Tech. Big burly guy. GREAT kisser. Things progressed as things normally do and finally we got to the point where it was time for me to take his pants off, and I'm not gonna lie...I was disappointed. I went "Ok...this isn't a real problem...maybe he has good technique." Nope. I was wrong about that too. Found out later that I had been his first.

[prettylady 221]

ohash01 said:

So far I haven't been disappointed when swinging,.

 

Me either

[Thrax 384]

This subject came up -- so to speak -- at a house party I attended last week.

 

Unlike some other swinging venues, because this party was at a house with an in-house pool AND a hot tub, there was a LOT of public nudity. There were some "showers" there, but to boost my confidence, there were a lot of "growers", like me.

 

Anyway, after a lot of activity in the pool and hot tub (and in the superbly finished basement, by the way), a bunch of us were wrapped in towels, catching our breath and talking in the kitchen. The conversation got around to size differentials, and at one point I mentioned that in the eight or so MFMs I've been in, 75% of the time I've been smaller than the hubby/SO, sometimes by 2 or 3 inches and some girth (btw, I wield, confidently, in most occasions, a 6-incher of average girth. *blush*), but more often than not I've been called back for repeat performances.

 

Some of the other average and modestly-endowed guys agreed and mentioned similar percentages. But it was nice to hear several women state their preference for a variety of cock sizes. Basically, it came down to the fact that they may love their well-hung hubbies dearly, but there are some things that they won't let them do. But the lifestyle allows them to satisfy themselves in a variety of ways, with a variety of sizes and styles.

 

So, boring as it is, the consensus is that the size isn't as important as how it's used. (Alert the media )

 

I still have some esteem problems related with size (hey, old habits are hard to break!), but it's nice to know, even at this point in my life, that "she" might be interested in size, but that might not always translate to "bigger is better."

[cubnamy1995 124]

Amy's been trying to tell me for 12 years that it doesn't matter, but I still have esteem issues. I'm a 6er, with good girth, but I'm a grower, so I feel very self-conscious when I'm not aroused. I try to keep in mind that I'm actually in pretty good shape, but most of us men are so fixated that size=satisfaction that we beat ourselves up constantly. Wonder how many phone calls those Enzyte people have received?

 

As for making up for it, I am very proud of my oral technique. But again, Amy says I have nothing to make up for. Maybe one of these days I should actually listen to her since it is her satisfaction that she has never complained about (she dictated this last sentence and insisted I put it in. )

 

OK, Amy's gonna share her thoughts...

 

Come on ladies, help me out. Anything from 5 to about 71/2 is pretty much the same thing. It all comes down to how they touch us, how they hold us, and how much they really want to make us smile. I would gladly take a small penis and a really big heart over a large penis and a selfish lover any day of the week. Not only that, but GUYS, it's not an endless black hole. There is only so much space up there before you hit bone and muscles. A baby may be able to come out of there, but it bounces back and for good reason. And believe it or not, we do not sit around and compare your sizes among each other. We sit around and compare how well you hit the toilet when you pee. Now THAT is something you CAN fix.

 

Cubby: Oh, s*&T. I just got a whole different argument started.

[prettylady 221]

I am with Amy on this one Cubby my friend.

 

I got all shivery when she mentioned how a man touches OOOOh now that gets me hot. You and Dog are about the same size, and to me that is perfect. Sometimes when he is going slow I can feel him "bottom out" and that feels good, but when he is thrusting and hits that cervix I go through the roof. That freaken hurts pal!!!

 

Now in a slightly different direction, I don't care how big you dick is the stream of pee that comes out of it is a thousand times smaller then the size of the toilet. So how in god's name can you miss the hole?

[MoonLightKiss 28]

I am with Amy and prettylady on this one. My husband is about that size as well...so I am going to assume thats the average size. But through the course of life, not just swinging, I have been pleasantly surprised by smaller and hugely disappointed by larger. So as long as your wife is happy, and you strive to please your playmates, my advice is not to dwell on it, and enjoy the ride

 

Ditto to prettylady about the toilet seat. Being the ONLY female in the house (1 hubby, 2 sons) I would cringe when it came time to clean the bathroom. And I asked my husband the same question. His response was "but we don't miss" Then when I pointed out the bathroom that the kids mainly use, his response became "well the kids might." When I pointed out the master bath his response became "ummmmm" Still it didn't solve that little problem. So the next time it came time to clean the bathroom, I asked him (acting like nothing was wrong) to clean the bathrooms because I was hip deep in sweeping and mopping. He was all "sure okay no problem hun" til he actually got in there. Then his tune changed to "GOD I hate this, ugh no wonder they say the bathroom is usually the germiest in the house...yada yada." Soon as he was done, he comes in gives me this BIG hug and apologizes and then takes the boys to their bathroom to do whatever it is men do when teaching boys to pee properly. Now, he has a whole new respect for the cleaning I have done for years, he takes the time to make sure he hits the hole, AND he even volunteers to clean the bathrooms on the Saturdays he doesn't work. Sometimes us women just have to use a little of the ingenuity that is encoded in our DNA

[graygo98 148]

Not to comment on the main theme.... its been sooooo done..... but on the aiming issue.

 

Men are hunters. They need a target. Men's washrooms in airports guys are on the cellphone, trying to hold on to their briefcase and generally hosing down the area. In Schipol the guys are hunched over their wedding tackle with deadly aim. And, you could eat off the floors.

[Tybee Swing 286]

Now, he has a whole new respect for the cleaning I have done for years, he takes the time to make sure he hits the hole, AND he even volunteers to clean the bathrooms on the Saturdays he doesn't work.

 

He's my hero!

[CBYLW 21]

Not necessarily disapointed. But one guy said that he had eight inches and he would have been lucky to measure five. We still had a good time.

[Cpl2share 147]

I always thought that I was on the small side due to watching porn and being a grower not a shower. Then one night in a river far far away we went skinny dipping with three other couples. Apparently I am very well endowed (at least compared to the other guys that night.) That started me on the journey and I finally measured it at the age of 37. Turns out that it is longer than average. Lucky me ? My experience has been that most women do not orgasm from vaginal penetration anyway, so I have developed the art of cunniligus. I have discovered that most women are more interested in how well the tongue works than in how long the penis is. This definately is the case for Mrs. Cpl.

[it'sso 198]

CBYLW said:

Not necessarily disappointed. But one guy said that he had eight inches and he would have been lucky to measure five. We still had a good time.

Hard to understand how the guy thought he could pass off half of eight inches as any more than four.

 

I have often wondered that if a couple did give all the meager details, if they would get any takers. I'm pretty much in the same boat as the short guy, and the only time we ever actually hooked up with another couple, my wife was the only one who was ever asked back.

[nudesmoothie 15]

I love walking along a nude beach with my cock hard for all to see. It might be naughty, but is so much fun. I really find that the heat of the sun keeps me energized.

[friskyous 17]

The mrs says she has been disappointed with small ones and big ones thus the "other" answer to the poll. It's more of what they put into it.

She got together with this guy a couple of times who was very well hung, quite thick and not so long as to make it hurt. Unfortunately, he had no idea how to use it and their second time together, he couldn't get it up.. but wanted a blow job.

 

Alternately, she was with this guy who was not so blessed with size but he had her 4 times in one session intermixed with lots and lots of oral attention so I suppose he kinda made up for his "short" comings.

[TravlParty 87]

Only 1 time in 3 years. This guy was a bodybuilder and in great shape. Unfortunately, he was extremely small and in two strokes he was done. I didn't feel a thing. He had bragged about his "equipment" beforehand. He must have been talking about his Bowflex. LOL

[IvoryTowers 380]

I picked 'other' because my disappointing encounter was pre-swinging and was a combination of size and skill. I was still in my early 20s and they guy was also clearly both inexperienced and ashamed of his size. He came before he ever got in me and at that point in my life I didn't have the self-confidence to demand satisfaction of my own or the compassion to ease him into round 2.

 

Now I wouldn't let size matter! There are so many other things a man and a woman (or especially 2 men and 2 women) can do to create pleasure that the penis can be irrelevant. Do I love a nice big cock sliding in and out of me? You bet! But luckily I can get that any night of the week (thank Mr. Ivory) so if other things are on the menu in a swinging encounter, that's just fine. Variety is the spice of life.

[MrkLin 393]

He had bragged about his "equipment" beforehand. He must have been talking about his Bowflex. LOL

 

Now that's funny right there - I don't care who y'are....

 

I'll bet you he was a steroid user, Travl.

 

To answer the original question, Lin has been with two men who had what could be clinically called a 'micro-penis.' One guy was about 3" when erect and the other was less than that, and he couldn't get erect. Yeah, she was disappointed, but didn't let on so as not to humiliate the guys involved.

 

By the same token, we met a guy in Hawaii who did a lot of local acting - both on the stage and on TV. He was the stereotypical 'tropical looking guy,' with dark skin, black hair, six-pack abs, and it turned out, was packing quite a package in his drawers. The problem was that he couldn't get it up. Lin must have gone down on him for close to two hours, and he never got past getting a 'chubby.' He came twice in the process, but never got hard enough to even attempt to fuck her. She told me later that he had been the closest she'd ever come to a 'mercy fuck.' He was hung like a horse, but couldn't do a damned thing with it. The more she did to try to get him ready to do the deed, the more frustrated she got that he couldn't. He loved all of the attention, don't get me wrong. He went down on her for quite a while afterward to try to make up for his lack of ability.

 

She later told me that she'd take 2 hard 6 inch cocks over one soggy 12 inch cock any day of the week. I can only defer to her judgment.

[lustylearning 705]

No. I've never been disappointed by size in the lifestyle. Just lucky, I guess. We certainly don't pre-screen.

[ap3s 16]

Yes size has been an issue but it is the larger penis. With tight pussie, the large size causes pain and loss of interest.

[Pepper & Drew 384]

She later told me that she'd take 2 hard 6 inch cocks over one soggy 12 inch cock any day of the week. I can only defer to her judgment.

 

Amen. I couldn't have said it better myself...

 

 

Pepper

[it'sso 198]

Quote

 

Originally Posted by MrkLin

She later told me that she'd take 2 hard 6 inch cocks over one soggy 12 inch cock any day of the week. I can only defer to her judgment.

Amen. I couldn't have said it better myself...

 

How would you feel about a four incher three times in less than an hour?

[Cerberus 16]

One we had a guy over for a threesome. kinda a friend. He too bragged about sex not about size. Well he was about 4 inch but the bonus was he acknowledged it and said he was a huge cummer.

 

Well he was I have never seen that much cum in my life and he shot that much again in 20 minutes. WOW great visual but wife said she just couldnt feel much

[Guest newplaytoys]

no never been disappointed. have experienced a few very large men and they were rather uncompfortable with intercourse. but love going down on them and jerking them off

[LilyPuss 16]

Mrs. here... I beg, on my knees, to differ...

 

It won't work for me. No matter how talented your tongue, or fingers, it just doesn't work for me if you don't have length and girth. Gargantuan is definitely not necessary... but Q-tips are definitely out. Just my personal preference...

 

Best Wishes to everyone out there

[it'sso 198]

LilyPuss said:

Mrs. here... I beg, on my knees, to differ...

 

It won't work for me. No matter how talented your tongue, or fingers, it just doesn't work for me if you don't have length and girth. Gargantuan is definitely not necessary... but Q-tips are definitely out. Just my personal preference...

 

Best Wishes to everyone out there.

I don't know what would qualify as a "Qtip", but I do think most women feel the same way about smaller than average sized guys. They just don't all have a venue where they can express it without being accused of not being "politically correct".

For the most part, you can say whatever you wish on this board.

[I'm his 15]

Personally, hell no!

[km34 672]

I don't care about size at all... I've never had an issue with any guy who has a desire to please.

[Sophy 551]

I have had this problem but I have managed to have a good time anyway.

Just try to find the appropriated position and movement, there is always a way to solve it

 

This same apply for BIG, BIG Guys.

[Tina and Bob 236]

Never had a really small penis, so bad sex yes, bad penis no.

[Delicious 21]

Yes I have been, but I don't care about the actual size so much as what dissapointed me was the fact that he lied about it. Claiming you have an 8" when u have about a 5 isn't cool, as I would have been totally happy with the 5 if I knew about it!!

[New2swinging225 53]

I know that we have had a couple of experiences where he was just too big, and it just ends up being uncomfortable! Once she couldn't even get it in, and was quite disappointed!

[hikemighty 15]

Mrs Hikemighty as been disappointed because they were too large! She's a petite sexy thing. Imagine their disappointment!

[Foreverinlove 23]

Over the years I've come across almost every size so it seems. None of have been what I would call disappointing.

 

Although my husband is a 7 so I prefer that size or close to it.It seems to feel the best.Usually when a guy brags about having a 9 or a 10 I just yawn and say ,yeah but do you know how to use it.

 

I do admit though I love a big cock when it comes to a bj. They are just fun to play with and suck on lol.

 

I think girth is more important than length really. Plus the shape...is it straight, is it crooked, does it have a big head. All important factors rather than just the length.

[gatita78 20]

For me size is not just about length... I like a cock to have girth...

[sparkstar 128]

If its thick, and 6-9" long, and he is a long stayer, then the sex can be quite..... sweaty with many orgasms. Yes pleeease

 

Smallest ive ever been with was maybe a 3", did nothing for me. He was aged 65 or so but he really knew how to use his tongue so that made up for it!

 

5-7" seems to be the norm, are always fun.

 

The sweet spot for me is round about a 8-9" and thick with it.

 

About a 10" it depends how he uses it. He has to start slow, after I've orgasmed 1-3? times I find i can then fully accommodate him, then it gets a little intense... in the good way though lol.

 

I've been with a lot of men in my time. I can tell you now size does not matter like a lot of men seem to think. Bigger just makes it easier to orgasm, for me anyway. Not too big though..

[LadyBunny 15]

yes, but you live and learn

[SwingerGirl 131]

This comes from my experience before I started swinging- I have had one so very tiny that I couldn't feel anything (yes my thumb would of been better ) and I have also seen one so huge I was too afraid to take it for a ride. You can't always judge a penis by it's cover though I have been salivating over a dick before, but the performance just wasn't there

[CandyCane 33]

Size in general can scare me.. I've always been short inside... Nothing more painful than feeling my cervix being bashed and bruised.. Then I had to have a hysterectomy a few years ago and I am now shorter than before.. Don't get me wrong...I've tried 8" plus ones and it was too painful.. My hubby is 7" and if we don't do certain positions,he can hurt me too.

[DaggersNRoses 271]

I couldn't answer this when we began full swinging. I can say at this point, I am OK with average and smaller men. My level of excitement and how he touches me matters more.

[sunbuckus 3,565]

I've been with men who were smaller than average and it wasn't the size that made the experience disappointing...it was the lack of attraction. It just happened to be one of those learning experiences that coincided with smaller penis sized men.

[sailorcat 17]

Nice to read your idea on this subject and I can relate. I think that in the world of recreational sex size does matter especially from a visual point of view...For instance if we were watching a couple at the club (there is a room for exhibitionists to hang out.) it would never be as exciting to watch a small guy performing. Even if he was an expert pussy licker, it would just not have the same effect. My wife and I both enjoy watching a well endowed guy who knows what he is doing perform. We have found that it is usually the women who are the performers and the guys just follow. I have been in a room full of guys bigger than me and the women were all moaning and cumming from penetrative sex with these guys. The guy fucking my wife gave her an orgasm, I came too soon (15min) with his wife, he hopped on and she came within about another minute, he then went on to another girl and also gave her a climax. Made me feel a bit out. But I went back to my wife and licked her to an orgasm and the guys wife came back for seconds with me. It seems guys with big dicks do not do much oral and just rely on their size to get a woman off. I am also not entirely convinced that all the orgasms that were happening around me and moans about how good the big cocks felt were really authentic. But I am pretty sure that the orgasms I gave the ladies were real as I could feel the contractions in their pussies with my fingers as my tongue was working the rest of the world.

 

Just my opinion on the size thin.

 

This subject came up -- so to speak -- at a house party I attended last week.

 

Unlike some other swinging venues, because this party was at a house with an in-house pool AND a hot tub, there was a LOT of public nudity. There were some "showers" there, but to boost my confidence, there were a lot of "growers", like me.

 

Anyway, after a lot of activity in the pool and hot tub (and in the superbly finished basement, by the way), a bunch of us were wrapped in towels, catching our breath and talking in the kitchen. The conversation got around to size differentials, and at one point I mentioned that in the eight or so MFMs I've been in, 75% of the time I've been smaller than the hubby/SO, sometimes by 2 or 3 inches and some girth (btw, I wield, confidently, in most occasions, a 6-incher of average girth. *blush*), but more often than not I've been called back for repeat performances.

 

Some of the other average and modestly-endowed guys agreed and mentioned similar percentages. But it was nice to hear several women state their preference for a variety of cock sizes. Basically, it came down to the fact that they may love their well-hung hubbies dearly, but there are some things that they won't let them do. But the lifestyle allows them to satisfy themselves in a variety of ways, with a variety of sizes and styles.

 

So, boring as it is, the consensus is that the size isn't as important as how it's used. (Alert the media )

 

I still have some esteem problems related with size (hey, old habits are hard to break!), but it's nice to know, even at this point in my life, that "she" might be interested in size, but that might not always translate to "bigger is better."

 

Thrax