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Gordo last won the day on January 10 2014

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About Gordo

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  • Birthday 04/08/1952

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    couple
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    lower mainland BC
  • Interests
    martial arts (both)(yeah she's one tough momma)
  • Occupation
    financial services
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    4 years

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    HornyCanadian
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  1. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Israel has made some real progress. Experimental cancer drug hailed as coronavirus 'cure' in Israel | Daily Mail Online
  2. Don't know if I was ever considered a power poster but for us it was the wife. She got tired of the fake people. Endless meetings where one or the other was an obvious no or they failed to show up. Or call to tell us that they weren't coming. That's probably close to 8 or 9 years now. We had two bad meetings in a row and the final one was the final one for her. We met a couple in a pub. He had pitched this woman as his wife. Turned out she was just a date who had driven 150 miles to spend the weekend with him. She had no idea about his desire to swing and hadn't been told that's what we were meeting for. It was hugely embarrassing for us and for her. Him...I just wanted to pound his lying fucking head in. She did falter a few years back and ask if I wanted to start again. I just said no, I wasn't interested. It hasn't come up since.
  3. My God, has it really been 7 years since I posted. Funny, but my wife was asking me just this morning if I missed swinging. I said no. Then I get an email from this long ago thread. We gave up swinging years ago due to the difficulty in finding good people. It seemed to always be three were agreeable but the fourth...! Anyway to Covid. I can't imagine swinging in this pandemic. Meeting strangers and getting intimate. Just a flat out NO! Even people we know. I have no idea where they've been and I'm not going to play twenty questions.
  4. Well I would never use those terms in mixed company unless I was describing someone to somebody. Let's take oriental. We have mainland China, Taiwanese, Korean & Canadian. They can all look the same. If I didn't know their exact country of origin how else would I describe them other than oriental? Koreans would be insulted to be called Chinese and Chinese would be insulted to called Koreans. You say Negro is offensive but up here we don't have a African Canadian term like you have African Americans. Doesn't exist (at least as far as I've ever heard) Do I call them Black or African or Negro which is pretty ambigous given that we're all Commonwealth countries that include african countries, India etc etc. A black person here could just as easily be English (England), Australian, Canadian, American, South African or West Indies. And yes we have the West Indies which is why we distinguish East from West. Add in Mexicans, people from various countries in South America, Germans, Italians, Dutch, French (second language here), Greek and the list goes on and on. Have I mentioned Vietnames or Australians, Israelis, Japanese.....The Indians now want to be called First Nations or First People etc. Polish, Russian, Ukranian honestly there is not a nationality in the world that we don't have significant numbers of now. We've become a real melting pot. Seriously it's far too many cultures to sort out and label properly and the simplest descriptives are what work here. Although they can be used as a slur they are not intended to be racial for the most part. Thank you for the compliments on Canada. As the largest or second largest country in the world (I forget) and only 35 million pop there are large swaths that have never seen a human being. That being said I love visiting the US as I've always felt right at home.
  5. Well I've written about this before on other threads but years ago my wife put her dildo where the sun don't shine and climbed on top and started bouncing on our waterbed. I just about went through the roof the orgasm was so intense. Talk about getting DP'd or whatever you would call it. I've refused many times to do it since because it was so intense it could be addictive and I just don't want to go there.
  6. Or perhaps it's just that as Canadians we're comfortable with all those cultures and don't see anything wrong with it anymore. Honestly there are derogatory terms for almost every race or nationality that I can definitely see not using but to describe someone as Japanese or Oriental or Chinese or East Indian is pretty normal up here. They're my friends, they're my neighbours, they are people I do business with, they are people I break bread with. I see them all as normal human beings. I do not see those terms as derogatory. Maybe it's you Americans that are just a little tooooo sensitive.... So why don't you tell me just how you would describe someone when you're trying to. I'm honestly at a loss here as to what is being accomplished by all these restrictions.
  7. I mean I find the same bonus factor with other races. Or perhaps should I say regardless of the race. I don't think there is anything wrong with the way I expressed it but if you are ultra sensitive perhaps it bothers you. Sorry! Ultimately all are human beings and it's fun to get to know them. We live in Canada, which as many of you may be aware, is a multi-cultural society. I couldn't even begin to list the number of different countries/races the people in our social, aquaintance, work circles encompass. It's a huge opportunity to learn about other customs, beliefs and yes food. Yumm. Race doesn't bother me I'm much more bothered by the stupidity of religious beliefs/conflicts.
  8. Race is just an added bonus to an otherwise attractive person. I met a girl from Ecuador on Saturday. She was gorgeous. Petite, brown, perky, bubbly and when she told me her name in spanish I swear I came close to coming in my pants. It's such a beautiful musical language. I told my wife I just wanted to take her home and play with her all weekend long. Very unusual for me. But then I could also say that it's happened with east indian or negro or oriental etc. For me it's just an little extra "love it" factor so I wouldn't hold it against other people that get off on it.
  9. I've never worried about things being an exact match up. As others have said we're there for different experiences. We have few if any rules at all. We have tried anal in the past and didn't particularly enjoy it so it's not something we do. However if wifey got into it with someone I would be asking what is different and try to learn from it. Perhaps we missed something. On the other hand she doesn't like someone cumming in her mouth. To her credit she's tried to get past it but it's still a real challenge and I don't push it. So if she started sucking some guy down like a fine liqueur I'd be having a WTF moment and a lot of discussion after. That would hit me personally. I guess there's just no absolutes!
  10. Sadly you've been told multiple times by multiple people that what is happening here isn't swinging. It's a wife being coerced into having sex and or allowing hubby to have his own way. It's just plain wrong and doesn't reflect a loving, respectful relationship. Experienced swingers are VERY good at detecting reluctant wives and avoiding the couple. You seem to be unable to stand up for yourself and just say NO! With that in mind I would genuinely recommend you taking some empowerment courses where they teach you to be your own person and how to stand up and say no when things don't suit you. I've seen other people take them and it has worked wonders. If you needed to understand computers you'd go take a course and learn. If you're having trouble handling a relationship, focus on the weak point and work on that. I'd also recommend some counselling, perferably from a lifestyle friendly counsellor.
  11. Well maybe if I told you I refuse to have a facebook acct etc you'd understand how much I value my privacy. I've been on the internet now since 98 and with the position I occupy I have seen some very scary things. We don't put up pics on the adult sites or anything. Throwaway email addresses etc. We have not told friends other than the ones we started swinging with originally (big mistake) and I couldn't imagine telling another friend or relative about it. I just don't think any of them would understand except maybe one and she is the biggest blabbermouth we know. Anyone that thinks their info is secure or can't be used against them should read this: It'll blow your mind to know that everytime you are out driving........ Article Anyway we are just really, really private about the swinging thing. Strangely enough total strangers knowing about it doesn't bother me in the slightest. Go figure!
  12. So how old are these people you're talking about? I'm wondering if this is a "me" generation issue? 20-30ish
  13. The dictionary definition includes the term committing adultery to define cucking. They then define adultery as the voluntary defiling of the marriage bed with someone other than ones lawful spouse. Technically I guess swinging is cucking if you use your marriage bed So buy a cot! Interestingly enough they then define a marriage bed as that used by a newly wed couple. That does not match the definition uses above I guess we have to take the fact that language evolves and with the increasing visibility of fetishes and sexuality that certain words can take on new meanings. We've all seen that on the internet. I mean your mouse had a whole different meaning 20 years ago. I doubt the person writing the dictionary is a swinger.
  14. No I don't think it's quite clear cut either there are probably many shades of grey between each. Where the wife goes out and screws around and refuses to tell the hubby about it even though he knows I would take as cuckold because he's too wimpy to stand up and say no and she's throwing it in his face. It has that element of humiliation I mentioned.
  15. Cheating---Husband doesn't know. Hotwife---Husband knows and is turned on by it and both parties share the experience either through talking or watching. Cuckolding---there is an element of humiliation toward the husband that also turns him on. It can take many forms. Without the humiliation factor it isn't cuckolding. Otherwise we'd have to classify swingers playing separately as cucks. I wouldn't (and suspect others) like being called that.
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