couplers

I have trouble answering this question the same way I did the post about my first swinging experience. It started with just us (Red, David, and me) being young and them sharing me, first separately then the occasional MFM. As we explored further, that's how it was with us, a few couples, many single women who were curious, eager to have sex with an attractive man who was safe because he already belonged to another woman and she was giving permission.

"It [the phallus sculpture] was highly polished - and clearly recognisable!" "Its life size suggested that it may well have been used as a sex aid by its makers," Perhaps being used as a dildo caused it to become highly polished.

These are not just things that I like, but need to initiate a sexual relationship. Strangely, definitely with a man but less so for me with a woman. And it's fine for me if David or Red engages in a purely sexual relationship with another woman; that's something I can appreciate. If it were Lora or Clair, however, it would trouble me. I can't explain it, but it's the way I am.

We in our family are all lucky things turned out as they have. But None of us would have wanted to make a baby and endure the consequences of raising a child with just anyone we fucked.

Creating a baby trap? For you or her? (I shouldn't talk. It was unintentional I believe (Clair offered to abort) but that's what turned our woman (me) with husband and boyfriend casually playing with other single women into our poly family. It was the best thing to happen.)

There have been several times that I've been so excited and got so wet it was embarrassing. Like I peed my pants. We don't use toys, but both sides need lots of lube for bum sex. That's one of the things about it that turns me on, especially FMF threesomes - the mixture of fluids produced by MF mating, the sexual products of their bodies.

Some are straight like an oboe, some curved like a bassoon.

It is instinctual, but appears as practiced art. That's the beauty of it. Two people who have never done it before, engage perfectly.

Every player plays the instrument differently.

Agreed. Not only is each partner different, but also is each pairing. It struck me the first time I saw David with another woman, it was almost disturbing that she had him in another state. As to sounds, the big difference is how much more vocal women are than men, both loudness and variety of songs that are sung.

Yes they do and in every way, from entry to orgasm and withdrawal, and everything in between. And I really appreciate the differences, both their physical characteristics and how they do it. The differences are something to savor. Equally too with the women with whom I exchange orgasms, different, different, different.

"Performance art." A good observation. Sometimes while watching others have sex, it strikes me that way, as an artistic achievement. As a practiced rather than instinctual act. Like dancers or figure skaters. Beautiful.

Please follow-up and tell us how the sex has been between you two. My guess is better than ever, she is grateful and you are excited to get back in there and prove yourself. And no doubt you will want her to continue. Unlike a man, a woman's has the ability to totally satisfy multiple partners. It improves your relationship and sex life as well.

Were either of you ever non-monogamous? It doesn't mean that you had to have swapped, but did either of you have two sex partners going at once? Perhaps in your younger days, transitioning from one relationship to another? Tell us about that. Swingers swap. Being in "The Lifestyle" or "Non-monogamy" encompasses much more.

For me, what I love about the lifestyle is not the difference in body parts among my partners, but their overall attitude and approach to sexual activities. The way each man (or woman) and I fuck is different and thrilling. Although looking at it and thinking about it from the other side, I wonder how other women feel to Red and David: That makes me jealous, which I like. Really? Do you mean to completion? For us blowjobs are almost always foreplay, getting a good erection. Especially when the guy needs to provide round two.