First time experience was a bad one. - Newbies preyed on at club

[ncmd_couple]

magiriano,

Other than the fact that you had to deal with a jerk, the rest of the night was fun for you. Personally, I do hold the club owner responsible for what happened. Granted, he can't be everywhere, nor can the staff be everywhere, all the time. But the owners set the tone for behaviour at the club. I feel that your reaction, and actions, were the wrong ones, but I do understand what you did. The club owner did respond to your complaint properly though. I personally would have immediatly reported the guy to the owner, watched them escorted to the door, then gone back to having a good time.

S

[magiriano]

Originally Posted by ncmd_couple

magiriano,

Other than the fact that you had to deal with a jerk, the rest of the night was fun for you. Personally, I do hold the club owner responsible for what happened. Granted, he can't be everywhere, nor can the staff be everywhere, all the time. But the owners set the tone for behaviour at the club. I feel that your reaction, and actions, were the wrong ones, but I do understand what you did. The club owner did respond to your complaint properly though. I personally would have immediatly reported the guy to the owner, watched them escorted to the door, then gone back to having a good time.

S

ncmd ,
Thanx for your input, it is greatly appreciated .
Since all of this events, we've been on a limbo if we wanna/don't wanna keep swinging.
I am having a hard time convincing my wife it is worth the trouble, however she seems to have come to terms about it.
I know that my/ our actions are somehow wrong and in our defense I can only say that we weren't perfectly informed and assumed that everyone else is as honest and trustworthy as we are.
It is part of my life's philosophy to treat others the way I wanna be treated, in this case that I'd treat someone's wife with the utmost caring,love and respect and I expected that someone that I entrust with the love of my life will behave in the same manner.It sounds a bit naive I know but that's just how I am "honest to a fault" as my lovely wife describes me. If I have to check on someone to make sure that they don't hurt us then the whole thing becomes a joke, I am basically landing some asshole my wife for them to use as a cheap whore.....
For those of you on this forum that played the devil's advocate and blamed me or us for what happened (don't remember now but someone actually blamed Mia for not feeling that the condom was off) I can only assume that you're not any better than this two idiots we met and if I were you I'd seriously consider not disregarding other people.After all, you never know when you'd meet your own hotbloded Sicilian and what he might do. I didn't post this tread to be egged on but to ask if this is a norm and to make other newbies out there aware of what can happen.
And didn't consider that there's people that have the same attitude towards a rape victim, blaming her for provocking the assailant.........
On a good note, we've been chatting with a few local couples , explained to them why we will only consider soft swap/oral/same room sex at this point, and we got a quite a few good replies from people that understood us and are ok with taking things slow.......
So Thursday we're going on a date and hopefully if all goes well, Saturday night............ Well if it happens, I'll give you the good news

[slevin]

Hope your upcoming experiences are positive ones. As I said before, the issues you had definitely aren't the norm based on our experience. Hopefully they were aberrations for you and things will go smoothly from here on.

No need for the continued tough-guy talk though. We get it, you're a tough Italian who will kick anyones ass who crosses you. Lets get back to swinging discussions

[magiriano]

Originally Posted by slevin

Hope your upcoming experiences are positive ones. As I said before, the issues you had definitely aren't the norm based on our experience. Hopefully they were aberrations for you and things will go smoothly from here on.

No need for the continued tough-guy talk though. We get it, you're a tough Italian who will kick anyones ass who crosses you. Lets get back to swinging discussions

SLEVIN,
As always you're the voice of ration. It took us awhile to get over all this and we're finally back in the game. We also got a chance to get informed and read a ton of materials about the lifestyle. We spotted a ton of mistakes we made while at the club and going back after our first experience.
In fact, we just met a new couple where seems to be a 4 way attraction. Your advice of getting to know people first sure helped, we had a great night out with our new friends at a local pub and hopefully will meet them again and get to know them better.
Thanx everyone for all of your input.
Stay safe, stay sexy.

[slevin]

Thanks for the kind words

Very glad that you had a great time out with this couple! I think I saw you mention that in another thread as well and it sounded like a very positive and fun thing for you. Looking forward to hearing how your explorations go in the future!

[magiriano]

Originally Posted by slevin

Thanks for the kind words

Very glad that you had a great time out with this couple! I think I saw you mention that in another thread as well and it sounded like a very positive and fun thing for you. Looking forward to hearing how your explorations go in the future!

Actually, it was a totally different couple than the one we planned to meet last week.
Something came up so we had to cancel with the first ones and we got a great reply from another cpl on a email.
Their pix didn't do them justice tho because here we were saying what the hell, let's meet the bikers, and we actually met the most beautiful people so far.......
Must've been different watching the real life Village people because here we were: the biker, the hippy, the WOP and the mail order bride.......... We had a blast and connected right away at an unbelieveble spiritual level........
Boy it's amazing how 4 different people that would've walked a million times past eachother with nothing more than polite greedings could have so much in common.........