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Currently as a married couple we have never shared. My question/fear is, how do the dynamics change after you have played with others? I enjoy our sex life now, but of course we could use a little spice, too, hence me being here. Do you guys find that 'regular sex' at home with your SO is different now? More boring? Not as fulfilling? Also, I need someone to tell me real answers - how likely is it that we will run into jealously issues? We aren't a particularly jealous couple at all, we have discussed boundaries/limits and lines not to be crossed... But I'm wondering if people find the aftermath to be more than they imagined... Thank you for helping out. -
We had an absolutely amazing evening on Saturday night at a swingers club. Those of you who've read my previous thread will know that I suffered intense internal upset after a difficult first swinging experience last year, with the upset feelings emerging regularly (see Advice needed please on first time experience). After much discussion (weeks and weeks), we decided to give it another go, this time going for soft swinging and no full swap. We went to this fantastic club, took a couple of hours to settle down and meet people, then went into one of the rooms, where we soon started soft swinging with another beautiful couple. It was wonderful - pleasuring and receiving pleasure from this wonderful stranger. My wife paired off with the guy, who was licking her and she was moaning. I was fine with that. I just couldn't believe how much fun everything was! At one point, I looked over and he was fucking her in the mouth, which rather surprised me, but I was being given such a wonderful bj that I soon forgot about it. The night continued, with lots of fun, and probably a few too many drinks. My wife and I went back into the main room and had sex together. At the same time, she was kissing and being fondled by another guy, while I was kissing another girl - also an absolute stunner. Then a single girl joined us and my wife kissed her and got licked by her - which she loved as she's bi. So the whole evening was truly amazing. I came away thinking 'this was the best night of my life'. But now's the problem. I feel so confused. I have so many thoughts of the evening in my mind. Good ones, amazing ones, but also troubling ones, particularly when I saw my wife get fucked in the mouth. I'm not sure whether I found it exciting or disturbing - or both. I don't think it's jealousy, but the image keeps coming back in my mind, a bit like with the first experience. I feel fine (even very happy) with her being with another woman and have no problem seeing my wife kiss/touch/be touched by another guy. In fact, part of me was happy to see her get turned on by a guy as it confirmed to me just how fully bisexual she is and how I want her to express and fulfill this. It's the more 'fucking' part that I seem to be uncomfortable with, even though I'd prefer to be 100% fine with it. Does anyone else get such mixed feelings? -
Would any experienced swingers care to comment on - What are some of the after-effects from the first time two couples are together?
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My husband and I started swinging in 2003. We took a year off after running into some "not so nice" people in the swinglifestyle. Once we had put some distance and time between ourselves and these people, we became active again (3 months ago) We went back to the same group that originally intorduced us to the lifestyle and there had been some GREAT changes including kicking some people out who where not really friendly towards NEW swingers. NOw that we have returned, we are feeling good about swinging again and have had two play dates with married couples. The second one went GREAT, and we look forward to playing with that couple again...if they call. The first one seemed to go fine only I (female side of theCherryss) was having my menses and could only be a FLUFFER as well as play with the wife of the other couple. This was known ahead of time and my husband and I was assured that it would be fine. This couple was new to swinging and wasn't sure how much they wanted to do anyway (that's what they told us before playtime began). After everything was finished the other couple went to their room (they rented two "unconnecting" rooms and theirs was next door to ours). We woke up the next morning and left the hotel. When we tried to instant message them, there was no response. We waited to hear from them and have not. This sort of thing seems to happen alot. Even if we don't play with a couple, it seems that once we meet them, or they see our pics and we meet, after a couple of instant messages.....they just "fall off the grid" and never communicate with us again. What are we doing wrong???? We are nice looking and in pretty good shape. We don't do drugs or drink and we have GREAT stamina in the bedroom! We are puzzled and wondered if anyone could shed some light on this for us???
