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I'm a straight female. My husband and I have been married for 12 yrs. He recently cheated on me with a coworker as we were missing the emotional and intellectual side of our married. He found those in his coworker. He did confess to me about the affair as the guilt and shame were killing him. We have talked about the possibility of swinging or throuple. We are working on rebuilding trust, as I have hurt him in the past. I was willing to chose my job over family and I was dealing with my own mental health issues and faked hanging myself to get attention from him. I know all of that sounds horrible and I should have never done that. I deeply regret doing it. I was in a dark place at the time. We are in counseling and we are communicating better. My fear is that I will not like the lifestyle and he will leave or I will not be willing to try the lifestyle and he will leave. Part of me is curious about the lifestyle but I don't know how to get comfortable with him having sex with another woman and I don't know how to get comfortable having sex with another woman if we were to do the throuple thing. I do find other women physically attractive but not sexually attractive. I have so many questions, concerns, and fears. I'm looking for insight. Sorry for the scatter brained post. Any and all information would be greatly appreciated.
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Ann and I have been talking about swinging for several years. Our sex life improved just because of the excitement talking about the fantasy produced. She admits she finds the idea of swinging, especially a mfm threesome, greatly erotic and exciting. We have placed ads and chatted with a few couples on-line but when it finally comes to the decision point to actually meet the other couple or even send photos, Ann backs out. She has said that she doesn't want to see me with anyone else. I have told her that that is fine. My primary desire is to watch her with other man in any case. Were you initially reluctant or resistant to swinging? What was the thing which was most important in your decision to actually take the step to be with another man and watch your husband with another woman? Am I wasting my time? Should I just forget the idea or what? Do you have any advice? Also, are there any out there who have negative things to say about swinging? I really would like to consider all points of view. Thank you for any advice.
