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  1. 1. Do you Cuckold?

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I find that there are actually quite a few "lifestyles" presented here and that often some feel that they can't be open about their choice because it isn't the primarily accepted one. At one point I think the poly people here felt that way, hopefully they don't anymore... I'm wondering if this may also be true of those who enjoy cuckolding.

 

If this is something you enjoy, please post your thoughts and share with us what turns you on about this idea, and (if you act on it) how you go about acting on it.

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Well, depends on your definition of cuckolding.

 

The dictionary definition is akin to a woman who screws around on her husband, uncaring of whether he knows and how he feels about it. We don't do that. Every adventure L has is with my full knowledge and approval.

 

So our adventures when I'm either not present (or I'm present but not participating) are more the hotwife flavor than cuckolding.

 

HOWEVER, we participate actively in several on-line cuckold groups. Why? They're great places to meet horny guys who want to play, but don't want to play with a couple. When we hook up with them, it is usually L playing solo. Usually, the guy knows I'm aware and approve. Occasionally I'm present, or waiting outside for her to finish, or on the phone listening.

 

Biggest advantage of finding guys in the cuckold groups is that it's less hassle (usually) to arrange some play than it is with couples.

 

Every way we do it, it's a win-win for the guys and for us. The guy and L get some good sex, and L and I tear each other up when she gets home.

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Hey S and L,

 

thanks for posting. I was looking back at the definition for Cuckold that we have in the Swingers Board dictionary and here's what it says:

While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition.

 

Pretty vague huh? But then so many things are. So it really depends on the person, which is part of why I posted this thread... thanks for sharing your thoughts :)

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The wife and I have just started doing this in the last six months. It started by me giving her permission to have fun without asking me first. We discovered after that discussion that there was a whole lifestyle devoted to this, so we have found a couple of web sites that we get advice from, and are exploring and finding our comfort level in this lifestyle. It is something we are both enjoying, and plan to continue with for as long as possible. One of the reasons it works well for us is because my favorite thing has always been to watch her with someone else. We have learned so far that there are all different styles of cuckolding, so we are just trying to figure out which style works for us, or maybe we create our own.

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We do the version with the husband watching....it's one of his favorites. We've talked about doing the version without him present, but when the invitation came my way, I felt that my hubby wasn't "really" ready for it despite what he said...so I didn't do it.

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It gives me a hard-on just thinking about it.

 

Although we have had MFMF and MFM, I'd love to set up a date for my wife...

 

But alas...she won't do it.

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I just looked up the meaning. I had no idea what cuckolding was. Now that I know the answer is, No! We would never play without each other or cheat on each other. We trust each other very much and would not want to ruin a good thing. We are 5 years strong and hope to make it to our dying days.

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This is not something that turns us on...we are in it together. But to each his, or her, own.

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In some senses, I can see the appeal. Especially men who have lots of power and responsibility. I could see the appeal of wanting to relinquish control in what is essentially a power exchange arrangement. Here's why we would not do it:

 

  1. Amy could not be intentionally mean to me, even if it was just role-playing
  2. Watching is fun up to a point, but then I want to jump in.
  3. Telling me I can't do something is a damn-well sure-fire way to make me want to do it.
  4. I have too much fun pretending to be her pimp.
  5. Some cuckolds talk about cleaning up their wife after they played, meaning that lick what's left over out of her. Two words: Fuck that.

 

:lol:

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Technically it's not cuckolding if both man and wife have prior knowledge that the wife is getting plugged-or so it seems to me. Cuckolding is cheating and cheating is not consistent with a healthy relationship. Besides, when you in the lifestyle, who needs to cheat anyway? My lady has a friend with benefits that she "entertains" on occasion. I'm never there when it happens. After returning home, she tells me all about it while she's having, post coitus, coitus. This is not cuckolding-because she's not cheating, I knew where she was and what she was doing. But, whatever you call it, we love doing it!

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[*]I have too much fun pretending to be her pimp.

 

You 'ho.

 

hahaha!

 

Back to topic ... so folks who play separately, are they really participating in cuckolding? I always thought of cuckolding as demeaning or shaming your SO in some way ... and I don't think it's shameful or demeaning to play separately, if that is something you, as a couple, have agreed upon. And coming home and telling your spouse about your adventure doesn't seem to fit what I thought cuckolding was, either.

 

Learn something new every day. :)

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Although we definitely not cuckold in the true sense of the word - meaning a cheating wife while husband is at home - I do get very excited and quite a bit of emotional satisfaction from Mrs. WS playing solo. I love to know that she feels good, and having the attention of more than one adoring male makes her feel sexier than usual. Also, on a primal level something about having sex with a woman who has just had sex with another man is very exciting. So it is a fun game to play that adds to our sex in immeasurable ways, and it also makes me feel more emotionally fulfilled because she is too. And when she has a regular play partner that she really, really likes beyond just sex it makes the emotional fulfillment part even greater for me.

 

We also don't fall into the traditional sense of cuckolding in that I can play solo with women also. But yes, cuckolding-like play in a modern sense is a huge turn-on for me.

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I think cuckolding in recent years is one of those terms that some people have taken and turned into something other than what it started as. While initially it was about shaming your partner, in recent years I think that many people use this term to refer to the "hot wife" idea, of a wife going out and playing on her own (with or without her husband's knowledge) then coming home to tell him about it. He doesn't really get any say in who's she's with or what she does and the only enjoyment he really gets is after the fact.

 

As with everything, it's always interesting to get different people's take on what it means to them and how they feel about it.

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I think cuckolding in recent years is one of those terms that some people have taken and turned into something other than what it started as. While initially it was about shaming your partner, in recent years I think that many people use this term to refer to the "hot wife" idea, of a wife going out and playing on her own (with or without her husband's knowledge) then coming home to tell him about it. He doesn't really get any say in who's she's with or what she does and the only enjoyment he really gets is after the fact.
This is exactly why we don't fit the typical cuckhold situation, because I do have a say-so and Mrs. WS third is our third. He is a guy that we both know and I approve of her seeing solo, just like any woman I see solo is approved by Mrs. WS. In our situation it's "ask permission first", so like on her way home from work she'll call me and ask if she can go see him. We call these "missions", kind of a play on her being ex-Army. ;)

 

Mr. WS

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I had the chance to help a couple once by having my way with his wife while he watched. He wanted me to slip of my condom just before I finished and put my load inside his wife, which I did. Right after he he his turn with his wife. Everyone was happy. It was quite hot.

 

Now that I'm married I'd love to watch my wife with another guy. I love my wife and I love porn so it's kinda like putting the two together.:)

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We actually prefer the type of sex when my wife hooks up with another man but I am there to watch. There is nothing better than watching another man entering your wife.

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We are rather new to this type of play but we are enjoying it so far.. The worst thing we have found are the guys again. To many talk a big game but when it comes to ironing out details they run away like little boys.

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In some senses, I can see the appeal. Especially men who have lots of power and responsibility. I could see the appeal of wanting to relinquish control in what is essentially a power exchange arrangement. Here's why we would not do it:

 

  1. Amy could not be intentionally mean to me, even if it was just role-playing
  2. Watching is fun up to a point, but then I want to jump in.
  3. Telling me I can't do something is a damn-well sure-fire way to make me want to do it.
  4. I have too much fun pretending to be her pimp.
  5. Some cuckolds talk about cleaning up their wife after they played, meaning that lick what's left over out of her. Two words: Fuck that.

 

:lol:

 

 

:ditto:

 

except insert my wife's name.

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Well, besides the dictionary definition, we may stick to the one we fall into after googling the term. If so, we're talking of a lifestyle on it own, one that's somewhere in between the BDSM and the swinging... although I hardly correlate with swinging.

 

We've had pretty bad experiences with people that, later on, we figured out they were into the cuckoldry stuff, and this is because of the difference of expectations we had, even when the explicit ones seemed to be similar.

 

Don't get me wrong, I am not criticizing cuckoldry nor they expectations, just pointing out there is a big gap between theirs and ours. For example, there's some degree of humiliation involved for the cuckold that, at least him, expect to fulfill, and if they portray themselves as "typical swinger couples" wanting to have some fun (as happened to us), you may end up trapped in an scenario where you become the "tool" triggering the humiliation, placed as a Top, perhaps abusive guy when that was far from your intention.

 

Again, I am not talking of the "hot wife" scenario here, which doesn't necessarily involves any humiliation, nor the way the Oxford dictionary defines the word cuckold. I am talking of a seldom strictly ruled role playing game between a marriage and third parties, where every "character" behavior have a seldom usual script to follow. If you pick at random 20 sexual stories about cuckoldry you'd notice the pattern, what turns them on, and a list of features every character's script should have (take or give some of them), and the features they expect from their playmates (moreover the male ones, even if part of a couple). As for me, playing with cuckolds and wifes, I found myself pushed or dragged into the script the "lover" should have (being better lover than the cuck and so forth), like the other guy being suddenly reluctant to play with my wife because he's more into what's going on with his wife and me, and the wife making bold comments to him, attempting to degrade him by making a comparison... as if I were not there, or expecting me to jump into the game they're devising. They know if we were knowing this could evolve this way, we wouldn't be there in the first place, so they chose not to tell beforehand.

 

And, in some cases, that this cuckoldry game isn't so clear for some couples, who actually believe every swinger couple share this mindset thus this should be "normal" among swingers. It even happened to me after we declined to play with a couple, to tell them "you guys are into cuckoldry"... "into what?"... "google it". And later on they say "yeah, this is what we're looking for".

 

I guess Julie's take about polyamory comes handy, because it is true, swingers doesn't feel comfortable when playing with poly friendly people... but precisely because no one of them can tell the difference, or recognize it. Once seen, everyone is able to figure out what he/she is up to, and where the other couple limits are set, in order to commit to a shared ground of rules.

 

As for us (and BTW we're poly-friendly), we'd avoid playing with "cuckoldry" couples precisely because our experience already told us most of them cannot tell the difference between cuckoldry and swinging, that my wife would be excluded from the "main events" (even if the guy get laid with her, his head is somewhere else), and I dislike the "better lover" role they're expecting to find out.

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I think cuckolding in recent years is one of those terms that some people have taken and turned into something other than what it started as. While initially it was about shaming your partner, in recent years I think that many people use this term to refer to the "hot wife" idea, of a wife going out and playing on her own (with or without her husband's knowledge) then coming home to tell him about it. He doesn't really get any say in who's she's with or what she does and the only enjoyment he really gets is after the fact.

 

As with everything, it's always interesting to get different people's take on what it means to them and how they feel about it.

 

I don't own my wife and she's always been free to do what she wishes. When she fucks other men that's her choice and I want her to enjoy sexual freedom.

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Not something we would like to do on a regular basis, but if the Mrs. were to entertain another while bound and forced to watch might be interesting for a change of pace.

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As a Bull it is fun to find couple that are into the cuckold style or like S and L which is more like a hot wife. The most important thing is that it is fun for all involved. With some cuckold couples that does change when the wife really gets into a Bull when the husband is not a true submissive and willing to be in the background.

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Cuckolding excites me. Thinking that my lovely wife is being pleasured by another man is a feeling that gets my juices going. I would encourage her go meet people she likes and have fun and come back and tell me the details. Most men that I have been talking to or chatting online admit that they fantasize about their wives being pleasured by someone else, friend, colleague or strangers. Some are scared to even mention it to their wives, some say the wives don't want to actually do even though she gets hot when fantasy role play takes place and some have actually tried it and find it a mind blowing experience.

 

What is your experience?

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We play on a variation of cuckold/hotwife. This is all agreed on between the two of us. We have had another male that joined us for some MFM fun. Sometimes I participated and sometimes not. He didn't seem to do so well when I was watching or participating so I suggested to my wife that she hook up with him alone some time. She was very hesitant at first but eventually did it and surprised me one day. I had no idea that she was with him but she met up with him and then came home to tell me about it. That was always our rule, she can do whatever but she MUST tell me about it after.

 

For her it was a rush to 'sneak' and meet with him for a quickie knowing that I had no idea. We had some of best sex when she got home and told me. Also, the guy was probably at his best because he knew that she was sneaking and he probably viewed her as a 'naughty' woman. He knew from previous discussions that i approved and would know about it in the end.

 

So what one calls it does not matter, what matters is that all parties are in agreement and no true cheating/deception. We all define that line differently.

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There is a distinction between hotwifing and cuckolding. It was the hotwife model that got us into swinging. The distinction as we see it is that cuckolding has an undertone of S&M to it. Hotwifing does not.

 

Both are riskier than swinging from an emotional standpoint but personally I find hotwifing the most exciting form of play.

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Per the dictionary, a cuckold is a man whose wife has sex with another man, which means that all the men in the lifestyle are cuckolds. Cuckolding has the connotation of an inferior man being bested by another having sex with the wife.

 

My own view is that I thrill to watching her with other men. What I enjoy best is one-sided swinging. With each of the previous four women who lived this lifestyle with me, we started by swinging and gradually moved towards MFM's or my just watching. My present relationship is the first that began as a cuckolding model. We decide to cut to the chase finding that she is more secure with my monogamy.

 

A lot of what I read in cuckold groups on the 'net seem to be complete fantasy taken to ridiculous lengths. Perhaps some of it is reality. We don't get into the heavier aspects of S&M that can creep into web descriptions of cuckolding activities. We are simply a swinging couple whose husband decided to take the night off to enjoy his wife's pleasure.

 

While I prefer watching, one really exciting memory was seeing her go off to a private area in a public nightclub to have a quickie with a man we met there and her returning to me with that familiar flush of contentment.

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Per the dictionary, a cuckold is a man whose wife has sex with another man, which means that all the men in the lifestyle are cuckolds. Cuckolding has the connotation of an inferior man being bested by another having sex with the wife.

 

My own view is that I thrill to watching her with other men. What I enjoy best is one-sided swinging. With each of the previous four women who lived this lifestyle with me, we started by swinging and gradually moved towards MFM's or my just watching. My present relationship is the first that began as a cuckolding model. We decide to cut to the chase finding that she is more secure with my monogamy.

 

A lot of what I read in cuckold groups on the 'net seem to be complete fantasy taken to ridiculous lengths. Perhaps some of it is reality. We don't get into the heavier aspects of S&M that can creep into web descriptions of cuckolding activities. We are simply a swinging couple whose husband decided to take the night off to enjoy his wife's pleasure.

 

While I prefer watching, one really exciting memory was seeing her go off to a private area in a public nightclub to have a quickie with a man we met there and her returning to me with that familiar flush of contentment.

 

Like many things in life it is not black and white. Cuckold has different meaning to different people There is certainly a general consensus of what it is though.

 

I absolutely understand your comment about seeing her go off to have a quickie and returning to you. That is what I really enjoyed the time she met the guy without me and had a quickie then came home smelling and flushed also not more than 20 minutes after being with him. She had a grin that I will remember when she walked in.

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Per the dictionary, a cuckold is a man whose wife has sex with another man, which means that all the men in the lifestyle are cuckolds. Cuckolding has the connotation of an inferior man being bested by another having sex with the wife.

 

My own view is that I thrill to watching her with other men. What I enjoy best is one-sided swinging. With each of the previous four women who lived this lifestyle with me, we started by swinging and gradually moved towards MFM's or my just watching. My present relationship is the first that began as a cuckolding model. We decide to cut to the chase finding that she is more secure with my monogamy.

 

A lot of what I read in cuckold groups on the 'net seem to be complete fantasy taken to ridiculous lengths. Perhaps some of it is reality. We don't get into the heavier aspects of S&M that can creep into web descriptions of cuckolding activities. We are simply a swinging couple whose husband decided to take the night off to enjoy his wife's pleasure.

 

While I prefer watching, one really exciting memory was seeing her go off to a private area in a public nightclub to have a quickie with a man we met there and her returning to me with that familiar flush of contentment.

 

As for dictionary, who cares do what works for you..

 

Absolutely like comment about her going off for quickie and coming back.. Wife recently met with our ongoing MFM friend without me knowing. She came home with a big grin and told me about it. We had discussed the possibility of doing this so it was 'preapproved' just did not know when or if would happen. To have her give the details was great and provided for some great sex. It had not been more than 30 minutes since she was with him that we were in bed together. For us it was hot, she said that it was such a thrill to do it with other guy knowing that she was going to tell me later.

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I love seeing my wife be pleasured by other men but I want to be involved and know that he is just for sex.

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We have the impression that the definition of cuckolding usually found on the web is is promoted by people who participate only in their fantasies. In contrast, the definition of swinging seems to be put forth by people who participate in real world activities.

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Just to throw a slightly different spin on things...my g/f and I enjoy a 'hot-husband' lifestyle (I just made that term up...I think :) ). She has no desire to be with any other men, but gets incredibly turned on watching me with other women or couples. Of course, she also loves to join in with the single girls, but will often just watch, especially if I'm with one of our regular play partners. And the sex afterwards is just scorching!

 

All that said, we've always made a point not to label what we do and what we enjoy...it's enough that it fits our personalities and our relationship.

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Absolutely like comment about her going off for quickie and coming back.. Wife recently met with our ongoing MFM friend w/o me knowing. She came home with a big grin and told me about it. We had discussed the possibility of doing this so it was 'preapproved' just did not know when or if would happen. To have her give the details was great and provided for some great sex. It had not been more than 30 minutes since she was with im that we were in bed together. For us it was hot, she said that it was such a thrill to do it with other guy knowing that she was going to tell me later.

 

I couldn't agree more.

 

It's been years, but back when Mrs. LC was playing solo with a friend, the norm was for me to be involved and aware. I'd help her pick out sexy attire and have a general idea of where they were going/what they'd be doing (usually going out on a "date" before sex to build up the excitement). I'd usually see her right up until she left, kissing her goodbye and seeing her off. Those guys who enjoy this sort of thing can understand the insane rush being so involved--then handing her off--can build.

 

But like HornyCouple, Mrs. LC and I had a standing agreement that if either of us was ever hit with the urge to "just do it"--not necessarily with our friend, but with whomever--it was OK as long as we were honest about it afterwards. I in fact acted upon this a couple of times with a female friend of ours. Once, it took place after an out-of-town concert we'd attended together and we'd checked into a motel because it was too late to drive home. Another was when we were on the road traveling ahead of Mrs. LC, checking into a hotel the night before she caught up with us. In both cases I told Mrs. LC about what had happened, and she had no problem with it.

 

But to my knowledge, Mrs. LC had never used her Free Pass--that is, until we were tipsy one night and going at things pretty hot and heavy. Out of nowhere, she admitted to me that she actually had done it a couple of years before, spontaneously and unexpectedly, completely out of the blue when she and our aforementioned friend were out and about one afternoon and the urge hit them. She got very embarrassed when she admitted this to me, afraid I'd be upset with her and, she said, ashamed of herself for doing it.

 

Granted, telling me about what had happened so long after the fact was clearly not what we'd agreed to. But rather than feeling upset with her, I was completely overwhelmed by how much her telling me--and trying to picture them together, overcome by lust and sneaking away in the middle of the day to do something about it--turned me on!

 

The times Mrs. LC had played alone with my knowledge were always incredibly exciting. But this I found much, much more arousing. Mrs. LC is, for the most part, pretty straight-laced and innocent--a virgin when we met, as I was. And while she's obviously got a wild streak or else I wouldn't be here talking about her experiences, to imagine her being bold enough to have jumped in bed with our friend spontaneously, on her own, blows my mind now as it did then. The image of her being so sexually aggressive and doing it for her pleasure only, not mine, is among the biggest turn-ons I've ever encountered.

 

The only other thing she's done like this--unless she's holding back another bombshell to drop on me (I can only hope!)--was on a night around the same time when she ended up having a MMF with two of our friends while I watched. After a night out with them, Mrs. LC and I had decided to invite them to play. We had little doubt they'd decline, so I ran to the store with one of them to buy condoms and ask him. Knowing how shy she is about taking initiative, I expected Mrs. LC would be making small talk and waiting for me to announce our surprise to the other guy when we returned. Nope. We opened the door to find her sitting on the living room floor, naked except for a flimsy robe, open and hanging off of her shoulders. A porn video was playing on the TV, and our other friend was sitting next to her--wrapped around her, really--making out with her. And he had his fingers buried deep inside her. Though we startled them a bit, they did nothing to break things up, and Mrs. LC shot me a grinning look that said, "Well, what did you expect?" I honestly didn't expect that--but I sure liked it! No surprise, at that point it didn't take much time or conversation for our little party to get going.

 

I think I'd better go take a cold shower--or two. It's been way too long since we've done anything like that!

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We dabble around in several different areas of out-of-marriage sex play, and one of those areas is cuckolding, but not where the humiliation aspect is a big factor. As is the case with many who've already responded, what we do is far from the original, rigid definition of cucking. Sometimes, it's a hotwife thing, sometimes it will evolve into an MFM. Sometimes I'll sit there and just watch & enjoy. It's hard to predict what we'll try next!

 

It's all fun and my wife always has a great time.

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We have recently been going to bars at hotels. She goes down to the bar alone and usually gets picked up. Depending on the hotel and what is going on the bar can be pretty full. She will text me to let me know that she is being hit on and I will usually go down to the bar but not sit with her. It has been pretty hot to watch whoever hit on her. She enjoys the attention and i enjoy watching. She will give me more details later about the things i could not see, i.e. touching under table.

 

She has yet to leave the bar with anybody but maybe one day if she finds the right one. We usually go to nicer hotels near convention center and depending on convention in town she has a lot of fun.

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I think the most common definition is that the woman goes with another guy while the husband watches or knows but does not participate.

 

Only once was I in the same room while my wife was fooling around but I did not participate at all. That was when a couple invited her to play. Both the man and woman played with her while I sat in the easy chair and watched.

 

Does our experience with a couple qualify?

 

BTW, it was not a really great experience. We never had the urge to do it again

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I have enjoyed reading your comments. Agree totally that cuckolding has many sub-cultures. Our relationship like many on this board has evolved over the years. We have taken a little from many different lifestyles to develop something that works for us.

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My hubby is one of those which really enjoy when I tell him about sex I have with other men. He says he prefers to watch me and another, but it's also a turn on for him (and me too) when I give him a "blow by blow" description (pun intended).

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I first ran into this during a trip to Hedo. I was dancing with a lady, and we got friendly. She told me that they go to Hedo so she can play with Jamaican guys while the husband watches. I asked her whether he ever played with other women, and she said he didn't. Is this typical? Doesn't seem like much fun to me! It seems that he'd want to get his fun too.

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I first ran into this during a trip to Hedo. I was dancing with a lady, and we got friendly. She told me that they go to Hedo so she can play with Jamaican guys while the husband watches. I asked her whether he ever played with other women, and she said he didn't. Is this typical? Doesn't seem like much fun to me! It seems that he'd want to get his fun too.

Sounds like a Hot Wife with a fetish for Jamaican guys. Was he a cuckold or just a guy who liked to watch?

 

I don't get it either. I can understand being turned on by watching, although that's a minor part of the excitement for me and Mr. Fuse. I cannot understand having the urge to watch (or be given the description afterwards) and not having the desire to participate. But to each their own.

 

I have to admit I would love to be able to go off and screw any guy I wanted to who also wanted me, and to have that be a turn-on for my husband. But it's better that I don't have that freedom because I'd be a worse slut than I already am.

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I'd be a worse slut than I already am.

 

 

That implies being a slut is bad, shame on you! :lol:

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Chicup said:
That implies being a slut is bad, shame on you! :lol:

 

I know... I thought about it when I wrote it, had mixed feelings, but didn't put in the effort to clarify or change. There's already been a thread started called Define "slut"? - The Swingers Board.

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I'd have to day that watching my wife is one of the biggest things that interests me about all of this. I want to be able to watch her "do her thing" but also participate. I'm not so much into the old-school definition of cuckolding where it's about humiliation - more into the freedom and the enjoyment of everyone involved.

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AuburnCpl said:
I'd have to day that watching my wife is one of the biggest things that interests me about all of this. I want to be able to watch her "do her thing" but also participate. I'm not so much into the old-school definition of cuckolding where it's about humiliation - more into the freedom and the enjoyment of everyone involved.

Yes. Exactly. :D I have shared this with my wife. I would love to watch her enjoying one or more men and having a good time. But I'd like to participate at some point too if she was ok with that. I don't see any humiliation in this but I can understand why someone might enjoy that aspect.

 

It's still at pillow talk though. I don't think she'll ever go any further than that. It's taken a while for me to accept that.

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Sounds like a Hot Wife with a fetish for Jamaican guys. Was he a cuckold or just a guy who liked to watch?

 

I don't get it either. I can understand being turned on by watching, although that's a minor part of the excitement for me and Mr. Fuse. I cannot understand having the urge to watch (or be given the description afterwards) and not having the desire to participate. But to each their own.

 

I have to admit I would love to be able to go off and screw any guy I wanted to who also wanted me, and to have that be a turn-on for my husband. But it's better that I don't have that freedom because I'd be a worse slut than I already am.

 

I wouldn't say he was a cuckold because he knew what was going on, and planned the trips so that he could watch his wife having sex. It's not a Jamaican guy fetish, though. She said that at home in the US, she played with a variety of guys. There may have been some humiliation involved. The guy she picked up was not being kind to the husband.

 

Is there anything wrong with being a slut? I'm not even quite sure what it means. A woman who has sex with whomever she wants? One of my play friends loves to be called a slut. She gets very turned on...

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It's still at pillow talk though. I don't think she'll ever go any further than that. It's taken a while for me to accept that.

 

You never know. Sometimes, it's seed planting. It might take a long time for it to grow, but it can. For some it doesn't of course, but you never know. Keep talking with her. Don't pressure.

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My hubby is one of those which really enjoy when I tell him about sex I have with other men. He says he prefers to watch me and another, but it's also a turn on for him (and me too) when I give him a "blow by blow" description (pun intended).

While we did have several threesomes and foursomes with other couples, for us it was her dating and me waiting. It can be very erotic, waiting at home with a hard cock, knowing that your wife probably had another mans cock in her mouth or cunt at that very minute. She always gave me the details when she got home and at my request never washed up after fucking the other guy. I loved the creampies and sloppy seconds, as she always took them bareback.

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I'm a single guy that would love to have a wife that would play alone most of the time. I favor the hotwife lifestyle, but I do read on cuckold forums. I'm not interested in the advanced cuckold stuff, or humiliation. Then again, not all cuckolds like advanced cuckolding fantasies either.

 

On the other hand, I have been the single male that has screwed women while their hubby watched. I think 2 or 3 of them knew about the cuckold lifestyle online. Even though I can "get sum" from married women while I'm single, I still would rather be a hubby watching his wife.

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I love to watch my wife stripped naked by a man, played with and entered. We have done it several times. She always picks the man she likes best.

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My feelings are that any action that demeans one partner, or has the potential to be demeaning, is extremely risky, even with prior consent. These are, BTW, my objections to gangbangs. Once done, it can't be undone. The risk of anxiety, resentment, or jealousy in this type of playing is enormous.

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