jazzyislookin

I'm a big fan it's if done right! I enjoy it more when face down, legs together, and my hands rubbing my clit. If hubby goes nice and slow it's a lot of fun. WOW WOW WOW.

Hello, The Mr. and I are working through this same thing right now so you're not alone. We started our family when we were very young and have only ever been with each other. We have been married 9 years and have three kids. Yes we missed out on the wild young years so we are at that point where we want to have fun now. However we want to do it together. We don't want our feelings of "missing out on fun" to get in the way of our marriage. Our marriage is most important. I think you should pay a lot of attention to WesternSwing's post. Those are two very important rules to follow. Listen to the veterans-they know what they are talking about because they have been there. We have been discussing this lifestyle for about a year and each time we talk we get a greater insight into each others feelings and why we want to do this. Keep talking! Keep talking! Keep talking! Keep listening! Keep listening! Keep listening! Then you can decide whether to jump in the boat or not-best of all you really get to know your partner a whole lot better than assuming what he/she is thinking. I know it seems a little tough right now but if you keep at it then it just gets easier and easier to talk about. Good luck to you...

Wow very interesting thread! We are very much rookies and this is a hot topic for us. Without going into detail hubby and I discuss these "what if" feelings all the time. We are in a little bit of a different situation. Neither one of us has ever had other partners. With no other experience the lifestyle is something that intrigues us very much to make sure that all of our wants and needs are met. I can respect the fact Tempest that you decided to leave. That being said you still experienced it. I am sure when it was fun and new you both enjoyed yourselves a great deal. Maybe it is not for us either but isn't the experience, good or bad, worth it? Did swinging make your marriage better? Granted you didn't like it but you and your hubby cherish each other more now. You did it together and that is the most important fact. We know so many couples that are divorced because they have affairs on each other (my father included!!) all becuase they thought the grass was greener on the other side. I know that if the grass is greener on the other side my hubby is going to be there to experience it with me. Maybe it is and maybe it isn't but we still feel that it is still worth the try. We'll never know if it works for ourselves unless we experience it. To me I don't think that is a bad thing for us to ponder over or try. These questions and points you bring up are more fuel to feed our fire as we sort this out ourselves. Thank you very much and best of luck.

Wow - that sounds extremely erotic!!! Never thought of it but now it is on my list too

Hubby and I are on marriage 1 of 1. Ninth anniversary this summer. Been in love since high school. This board has been great for us. It has made us talk a lot more. Some great talks some not so great. But we are talking and that is the key. We have been told that by so many people on the board. They are right. So a loud thank you to all. Jazzy