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Hubby and I are just now talking about the whole bi male experience and the more we talk and the more we see, I am totally turned on about the idea. We are looking for our first experience. Hopefully soon.

We will have anal on a rare occasion and I have to be really turned on to do it. As a general rule, I don't like it and become very nervous about it when he brings it up. I guess I just can't relax enough to enjoy it.

In theory, I like the idea of . I only have a couple of good friends in the "vanilla world". Both of them, I know, would not be responsive to the idea. They are very jealous people when it comes to their spouses and vica versa. I truely don't think they would understand how much better my relationship has become with my husband. The part of the relationship that is better is that we communicate so much more and are more open with our feelings. They would think that we are loco. We keep the lifestyle to ourselve and it actually is great having a secret that only the two of us share in our real world. Yeah, we are happier, healthier and more full of life now. We have made a couple of new friends in the lifestyle and it is great to share this with them. I value my friendship with my "vanilla friends" too much to even think of screwing it up, so I keep this to myself for now. If the subject was ever brought up by them, I would be willing to give away my secret.

My hubby and I brought this up just yesterday. I tend to be more aggressive than him. He is concerned with the fact that he is not keeping up with me. In the vanilla world, I am more out going in general and he is more reserved. There is no difference with the swinging. I have tried to explain that we all move in a different pace and there is no reason for his concern. He should take his time and do what feels right. We were with our first couple this past weekend and I again was more aggressive. He was a little nervous and he talked more than anything. A little shy. Afterwards, he felt embarrassed that he didn't take more initiative. It ended up with us together and the other couple together. This was sooooo fine with me but he felt that I wanted more. I tried to explain that the whole scene was perfect and he will become more comfortable over time. This is only the second weekend we attended a club anyway. (We are completely new to the scene.) He did make some progress from the first time. Baby steps is the only way. He says he really is into this and wants to keep going. He loves the views. But he has never been one to jump in the pool with out testing the water. I have faith in him and he will be skinny dipping in no time.

Work is work, I keep it separate from any other thing I do. This is no exception! So no is the definite answer.

It really just depends on the mood. We will do it all....including some toys as well.

We were both very experienced with multiple different partners but neither of us had enjoyed the "swinging" experience. We both enjoyed the past of "new experiences" and that is why we decided that swinging would be a fun and exciting thing to do. Since we started with this lifestyle, our sex life has become more as well.