deadparrot911

Extroverted Intuitive Feeling Judging Strength of the preferences % 78 88 62 11 You are: very expressed extrovert very expressed intuitive personality distinctively expressed feeling personality slightly expressed judging personality

In reply to Mrs good times...yes. I am extremely honest with my friends. If I was with another couple one night a friend called and asked me what I was doing I'd tell them. I will give you the point that they haven't had sex with me...but they can ask me any sort of odd question..and do and I never hold back. I have no secrets from them....have they actually been inside me no...but with them I wear my heart on my sleeve and hold no details about my life from them (no matter how straight they are).

I think you may be right Intuition. See I don't call many friend and I guess the idea that almost everyone here says friends first kinda freaks me out...by my definition of friend that's a line I won't cross and refuse to let anyone I talk to along these lines think I will. I feel if you are gonna swing honesty is essential both with your husband/partner and with any potential playmates. Once I call or look at someone as friend that is what they are until extreme circumstances rip that apart...not for a day a week or even a month. It seems we only differ on how casual we are willing to be.

But I think most would agree that personality plays a part in attraction. I completely agree... We don't like to feel like we've been used. Sometimes feeling used is fun...but I'm twisted and not ashamed to admit it. However I am brutally honest and would never lead anyone that I was "using" to believe it was anything else. Doesn't mean we cant talk or have dinner...or even enjoy non sexual time. To me a friend is someone I know inside and out....someone I tell anything to. So while I'm not opposed to "nice shoes, wanna fuck?" I'm also not opposed to "hey, you are a really nice person, let's have dinner and see where it goes." To me tho either will probably never been a good friend because if you are not my husband and I will be playing with you there is a distance that must be kept so that attachments are not formed. I don't know if that makes me classless...honest...or somewhere in-between lol

Ok, so I have finished reading a great post by Uomo....but one question keeps coming up....am I alone in this thought. This is the one part that I keep heating over and over friends first. So I'm gonna quote from his post about it and what I feel under that. Just curious if any feel the same as I do. my reply.... I wonder how many swingers take this view or if maybe I just don't belong here. I share most of the ideas from the original post except for this part. I always hear separate sex from love with swinging...and that's how I feel. Now do not get me wrong just because I want to play with you does not mean we cannot have idle chit chat....but to me a friend is someone who is always there...I love my friends. It is possible that maybe I don't use the term friend as lightly as most...if you are my friend I will go to hell and back for you. I don't have sex with friends because there is only one person who gets the complete friendship/love/sex package and that is my husband. So basically if I have sex with you it is just that, sex...doesn't mean I don't like you...and I will never lead anyone to believe that it is anything other than that. For me honesty is always the best policy even if it is sometimes a little harsh. To me being good friends and having sex is a nono. Maybe my term for "friends with benefits" should be "acquaintance with benefits". So am I really alone in this line of thinking?

wow i know that this wasnt the intent but i feel like i kicked someones dog or something....i have never been good at typing or spelling...i do type things funny like dun instead of dont and ty for thanks....its just a habit i picked up from online games. i have never had people in the real world look down on me or call me stupid...but i can see how those things online could paint that picture. if this is offensive to most in this community i can avoid it...however i would hope that ppl would listen to what im saying and not wether i choose to take a shortcut or 3 in saying it. just my 2 cents tho. Surrender

Ok, I marked every other day...that's enough to keep me from being cranky lol...however want is another story all together Because I want it multiple times in a day.