mde 4764
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- Birthday 11/15/1947
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Relationship Status
single male
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Location
Texas
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Interests
hunting fishing travel sex
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Occupation
professional
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Swinging Experience
seven years
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mde 4764 started following How do we find out if my wife's friends play?, Should we attempt to swing with friends?, Thinking about going condomless... and and 6 others
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Should we attempt to swing with friends?
mde 4764 replied to tmlove's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
When I was part of a couple, we met a couple as swingers, and became best friends as well. As they said, we were vertical and horizontal friends. -
When I was part of a couple we decided to try swinging. We both agreed that we would not use condoms unless asked to. We both felt that anyone thinking that STD test were nothing more than a sense of false security and that condoms take to much away from the fun. With said, 99% of the time we were bareback. We never had a problem.
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Based on what you said, the problem I see is your admission of jealousy. Jealousy is usually a sign of insecurity. My take on the subject was that your partner wants you to participate with him in swinging, not just sit around and watch. The first thing you will have to explore is your jealousy. If you can''t overcome the jealousy, you will not be able to enjoy swinging.
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I certainly agree with finding another type of entertainment if you are that worried. When I was part of a couple, we decided that if we felt we needed to use a condom with a couple in order to feel safe with them, we didn't need to be playing with them at all. We never had a problem in the many years we played.
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I think you're deluding yourself if you think you really know somebody.
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I have not heard of swinging breaking up a solid marriage. Usually if there is a break up, it would have happened whether you were swinging or not. So, you should ask yourself, how secure is your marriage.
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New to swinging and concerned with sexual safety?
mde 4764 replied to funstuff's topic in Let's Talk About Sex
If you are that worried about safety, you would be better off taking up checkers. There are risks involved in everything in life. Avoid people that lead a risky lifestyle i.e. drugs. They are your biggest risk. Also, you will find that condoms are not used by everyone for intercourse. Many say they do, but if you go to an on site club, you will find that very few use them. -
I think before you entertain swinging you need to fix your communication problems. Your relationship sounds very disfunctional to me. Good luck.
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You might get more in depth advice if you mention what your insecurities are.
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We decided the risk were minimal and always played bareback. We never had any issues from it. We both dislike condoms. There is just to much loss of sensation with condoms and pleasure is what swinging is all about.
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Condom Use: principles vs the heat of the moment
mde 4764 replied to Karen12345's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
Getting tested is a joke. It really doesn't prove anything. Person has to be exposed to aids for about 6 months before they will test positive. Just because someone test neg. for all STD's does not insure that they are negative. It either means they were negative at the time of test or the incubation period was too short to show up positive. As for going bareback with only those that you have known for a long time. You don't live with these people. You don't actually know what or who they do when not in your presence.- 33 replies
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For Bareback-Only Couples/Males/Females
mde 4764 replied to AussieMinister's topic in Let's Talk About Sex
It's not a matter of being brave. It is a matter of being informed and realizing the risk are minimal. It is also about wanting to get the most out of the experience.- 33 replies
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mde 4764 replied to AussieMinister's topic in Let's Talk About Sex
When I was part of a couple, we always went bareback. We felt the risk are blown out of proportion and condoms certainly kill the pleasure.- 33 replies
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Preferences of Age differences in playmates
mde 4764 replied to Playingnow's topic in Curious About Swinging?
I don't think age makes any difference with recreational sex. As long as a person peaks your interest, what difference does age make. You're not looking for a life partner. You're looking for a sex partner. -
Single men: Do you prefer the husband just watch, or join in for a MFM?
mde 4764 replied to a topic in Swinging Solo
I have done it both ways and have no preference. It is all about the woman enjoying herself, so I think she should let it be known if she wants both men at once or separate.- 65 replies
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