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srs.swap

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About srs.swap

  • Rank
    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 04/24/1977

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Nashville, TN
  • Interests
    Computers, Music, Movies, Art, oh...sex. Lots and lots of sex.
  • Swinging Experience
    2012
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx

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    Menages
  1. We have several couples we play with on a semi regular basis...this couple was just special to us. Both because of the emotional connection and the sex. We'll be OK, it's just really tough right now.
  2. Yeah it's not something we went looking for, but there was just a very strong connection from the beginning. I don't know if that's something you run from if you feel it and don't want to get attached, or if there's some way to manage it that doesn't lead to such pain. I know that the sex with them was amazing, and I know it was due to the connection. We've been around a bit with several different couples, and this is really the first one where we've hit this level of intimacy with. We were talking and planning all kinds of crazy debauchery that we could never really have experienced had we not been so close. It seems like a catch 22 to us. If you want the crazy no holds barred mind-blowing sex, how do you have that, and not have the connection? We're not sure at this point.
  3. As it turns out, the husband of our couple was more freaked out than we knew. For the foreseeable, and likely forever, we cannot be intimate again. We're pretty crushed right now. Lessons learned about making sure all 4 people are open to emotional connections vs. NSA relationships. It's very hard when 3/4 are in and open, and the 4th is out.
  4. Thanks everyone for your replies and advice. All good to read. It's all good. Talking with them a bit more, I think this is just new territory for both couples (us AND them), and we all just want to make sure we get it as right as it can be to minimize possibilities for really screwing things up badly. Getting emotionally involved vs. NSA fun is a bit of a scary proposition, but I think there are rewards that come along with it that can make it worth the risk, or at least, something worth risking some potential pain for. I think we're all going to take it slow and just see where it goes. We feel how we feel about each other. We can choose to disconnect and save potential pain, or we can choose to try to get it right and enjoy the ride. Both marriages are very stable and not going anywhere. No one is looking to replace anyone. I think it's a good start, we just have to make sure everyone's needs are met as much as possible, and no one feels threatened or isn't 100% on board. It's a bit of a paradigm shift for both couples. I think taking it slow and allowing for it to grow organically and being completely truthful and trustworthy with each other should provide a stable base to let that happen. We'll see.
  5. So. Been swinging for a while. Mostly great experiences, a few bad ones, and now this one. Met a couple several months ago and we all jive extremely well. Played many times. Here's the problem. Wife of the other couple and I connect very well. Like old friends/lovers well. My wife loves her too and they also have a connection. We also really like her husband, and have a great relationship with him as well...BUT he is unsure about all of this. Up until this point, they've been more of a hit-it-and-quit-it couple (for about 3 years or so). They recently discussed the situation, and thought they should take a short break to assess all of this. We totally support their need to make sure they're OK with everything going forwards, and see it as essential that all four of us are on the same page going forwards. However, the idea that they might not be OK with being in a relationship with us as a couple and that we wouldn't be able to be friends/lovers is pretty tough for us to handle emotionally. Other than being totally casual in all of our swinging (just not our style), I don't think we can avoid this kind of situation. The question is, while we know the best and only thing we can do is support their need to re-evaluate, and accept whatever decision they come to as a couple, the feelings of uncertainty and worry about their ultimate decision are depressing. Any advice about how to best accept what might ultimately be a break-up without being too devastated about it? We've been together for 17 years, so break-ups aren't exactly in our bag of tricks at this point in our life. Thanks!
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