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Do you play on the first date /meeting?
SJBluebirds replied to njbm's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
We're not against playing on a first meet, per se, but it's such a rare occurrence as to be nonexistent. The absolute last thing we want is for any of the four of us to 'take one for the team', and a first meetup lets both couples communicate privately and without pressure about it. If all four of us are overwhelmed with feelings of 'OMIGOSH we have to play now' on that first meet, it's pretty apparent to everyone. But if there's even the slightest hesitation by one of the participants, it's best to finish the first date, regroup with your partner, and make plans regarding a next time to play. At least, this is the way we do it. YMMV. -
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Not quite swinging -- or is it?
SJBluebirds replied to SJBluebirds's topic in First Swinging Experiences
Two lines that lie in separate planes that are not mutually parallel (think "North-South Bridge over an East-West Road"), are called "Skew" lines -- I used to teach HS geometry, LOL! To make matters more complicated, not only can you have Parallel lines, you can have "anti-parallel" lines, too! They're lines that have direction: one goes left-right, the other goes right-left. They never touch, but have opposite directions. -
Not quite swinging -- or is it?
SJBluebirds replied to SJBluebirds's topic in First Swinging Experiences
Some very good reasons to have two adjoining rooms -- just like the old days! -
Not quite swinging -- or is it?
SJBluebirds replied to SJBluebirds's topic in First Swinging Experiences
Just a follow-up a couple of years after the initial post... We're scheduling a weekend away with our friends at a resort in April of '24. Just the four of us without the kids (because the kids are older -- some are even off at college!). Should we have separate rooms like we used to? Or should we share the room? -
We have both "Why *they* said no", as well as "Why *we* said no" stories: After seeing our face photos, the other woman quickly 'noped' on us because Mr Bluebird -- apparently -- looked exactly like the other woman's brother. Mr Bluebird wasn't actually her brother, but she said the resemblance was too great to overlook. The situation where We said 'no': We met up with -- unbeknownst to us, as we hadn't met them before -- the parents of our Daughter's Significant Other: We were going to meet them the following weekend for the first time when we helped our kids move-in together. This wouldn't have been a problem, but we had never met them before, and while we were having an introductory chat over drinks, they let us know that they were quite "Open" about their involvement in the LS: Their friends, family, and even kids knew they were swingers. And if their kids knew, that meant our daughter's SO knew. And -- by virtue of their relationship -- our own daughter would know about their activities. And that was just *too close* for us to consider playing with them -- We're not 'out', and wanted to remain that way.
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When we were new to the LS, Alura's advice was always well-considered and meaningful. We've missed his contributions, recently; knowing that he has joined Laura is fitting and offers all of us a sense of closure.
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Question: Is swinging right for me and my partner? ( Asked at chat.OpenAI.com/chat ) Answer: The number of sexual partners someone should have is a personal decision and should not be based on societal expectations or norms. What's most important is that any sexual activity is safe, consensual, and respectful to all parties involved. Sexual health and behavior are highly personal and individualized. People make choices based on their own beliefs, values, experiences, and comfort levels. The only "right" number of sexual partners is the one that feels comfortable and fulfilling for each individual person. It's also important to keep in mind that the number of sexual partners someone has does not define their worth or value as a person. Ultimately, it's up to each individual to determine what's best for them when it comes to their sexual health and behavior.
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Male: How was the first time you had sex?
SJBluebirds replied to PJ&Lin's topic in Let's Talk About Sex
Late bloomer, here. It was summer vacation between my first and second year of college. On the bank of a river, during a hike along the riverbed. Very, very rocky, and uncomfortable because of the stones. -
It was. The local College -- State University of New York at Fredonia -- has a yearly Marx Brothers' movie fest, called "Freedonia Marxonia".
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Wait until your urologist does a trans-urethral cystoscopy and prostate inspection!
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New Snickers Commercial
SJBluebirds replied to GoldCoCouple's topic in Swingers and Sex Positivity in the News
Q: Who's turn is it? A: Tyler's. Apparently. -
Swinging/Orgies in Novels
SJBluebirds replied to Starlet1's topic in Swingers and Sex Positivity in the News
Meh. In General, I find graphic depictions of who's doing what to whom, putting what body part(s) into another's orifice and cries of surprise and invoking deities to be completely off-putting and distracting from what I would have hoped to have been an otherwise good story. It doesn't have to be about swingers or orgies or whatever -- even the highly-detailed descriptions (see above) in a standard one-man/one-woman romance are annoying. That said, it's the rare -- Very Rare -- smut novel that has good plot and character development that I enjoy more: I'd rather find a surprisingly good, thoughtful story in what I expected to be pure stroke/wank material, than to find needlessly graphic depictions of sex (of any kind) in a more 'mainstream' work. In the early days of the Darpanet, I discovered Metlay's "Bandit" series, and a few years ago, it was Nick Scipio's "Summer Camp" series. Both are/were surprisingly good reads. -
Should I let my wife play alone with other females?
SJBluebirds replied to Mike6216's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
I think this is a question that only the two of you -- you and your wife -- can answer for yourselves. As with all things in a strong marriage, the key is good, open, and honest communication. What works and what is right for one couple may not be appropriate for another. Your friend has the best of intentions when he tells you these things 'never end well' -- but life rarely deals in absolutes; you need to work this through together. And of course, listening to each other is ninety-five percent of what 'good communication' should be. -
That was my initial thought, too. Same with everyone on the local community Facebook groups, too. The owner has a history of insurance fraud. Some things never change.
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