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So my wife has recently underwent a big change. She had a gastric surgery and as a result, she has had a large recent weight loss. She states that she really enjoys the sex we've been having since the surgery. She says it feels different and better since her weight loss, so that aspect of change she loves. What she has had a little issue with, is that with the weight loss, she has lost some of her breast size. She has gone from a full 44 DD down to a 42 C or so. She always had been a more fuller bust gal, but as a result of the weight loss,  she kind of misses the fuller look. Now I admit, I have always been a boob guy, and I love to just curl up on her chest and nuzzle or nibble away no matter what size they wre. Now that she's lost a few cups, she kinda misses them. It's a weird duality that I see her going through.  She's happy with the change that happened, but part of her misses some of the old parts.I didn't know if other women went through this kind of struggle, whether it was a change due to surgery, or weight loss, or any other cause. Share if you would like

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Missus Enhancer has lost around 30 pounds in the last few years from us changing over to a vegetarian diet, less drinking and exercise!  Her breasts also went down in size.  Doesn’t bother her at all, because being healthier trumps the size of boobs any day.  

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As we age, healthy is the foundation of sexy. Radiating a positive self-image and outlook on life --health, conversation, grooming--all of that is far more attractive than any particular body part or size. Stay healthy, stay fit, plenty of rest, rational diet, minimal to zero alcohol,...

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Not a woman but I have had the same surgery and have many lady vanilla and lifestyle friends (and current lovers) that have been through this.  LOTS OF CHANGES both physical, personality and self image….and they change and evolve over time.  So much it is hard to explain in a single post.  
 

In a word body and self image changes and evolves greatly and swings in both directs dramatically over time…..and in most case over several years.

 

There is also that Mother Nature is not very kind to woman as opposed to men.  Physical and psychologically huge differences between men and women with weight loss. Lots of patience and understanding can be required.

 

Confidence, comfort and ease in the lifestyle can be very helpful to some…..or add to the concerns and self image for the person going through all the changes.  More often then not counseling both individual and group sessions are great ways ti maneuver through these life changes.

 

I would like to offer my input if you like.  My experiences observations as well as my discussions and counsel to others (no names).  
 

FYI…..I was about 410 when I started my journey, 387 when I entered the program, 367 on my surgery date.  I now reside between 195 and 220 depending on summer or winter weight.  I am 9 years out from my surgery.  

 

 

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