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K&JIntimates
This last weekend we experienced our first ‘soft swap’. We thought we were ready, turns out we were not. K has always had some reservations but we went ahead because (our reasoning was), there is no real way to be sure until you’re in that situation.
The couple we were with was great. They were very understanding when we told them that we would like to stop after the first round was finished. I’m trying to not get too emotional, I don’t want to digress too far off what I want to ask. The bottom line is that K (for a lot of reasons I understand and a few that I don’t) wants to stop swinging.
The question I have is how to go about dismantling our profile on SLS (where we met this couple and another couple we met yesterday but did not play with) without offending either one. I don’t just want to go **poof** and disappear and maybe leave these couples wondering if it was something they did. I’m thinking to just leave it as is for a few weeks but answer with an “We’re taking a pause at this time from meeting new couples due to other concerns” message to anyone new who might email in the meantime. After 2-3 weeks I’ll just unsubscribe from SLS and that will be that.
K and I have both enjoyed meeting new people who are open-minded and have similar interests from these sites. However, we both feel it’s dishonest to continue to meet other couples (even though we may like them and would pursue a friendship) knowing that we aren’t going to play. We know that there shouldn’t be the presumption of play upon meeting (or ever) but considering the context it still raises issues. We’re not going to stop talking with the LS couples that we already know; we just won’t be taking it off a social plain.
So the question is, does this sound like the appropriate approach or is there something additional that I should do?
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