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So we are intrigued by the lifestyle but have yet to try it out. I understand that most people meet a couple or person, get to know them and so on. My question is; Have you had luck and a good time hooking up with a random person or couple the same day as meeting them? A one and done deal like on a vacation or when traveling out of town? We come from a small town that we are well known and established. As eager as we are to try the "Lifestyle" I would feel more comfortable doing elsewhere. Especially until we figure out if it is for us or not.

 

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We started as "vacation swingers", then after a few vacation hookups we joined a swing club close to home.  So all of the couples (and singles) we played with at first were basically random people we had just met.  That's common as beginners.

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We call them randos. We first met people on vacations like Hedo, Desire or a lifestyle cruise. Later, we joined SLS, met people at a first dinner. If all four were on board, we would meet another time to play.

 

We live in New York metro area, so there are plenty of randos to play with who have no idea who we are. 

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Go to a club or party in nearby area. 
 

One our our best experiences was at a club. We kept bumping into the same couple who were also getting a tour. We finished and the bar and our night began there…..

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