Do you use alias names for swinging?

[prettylady 221]

Dog and I haven't met up with another couple yet, but I have to say I would likely give my name once I agreed to meet with them. I don't have an unusual name, but I love it and love the sound of someone saying it. NO, not just during sex but at anytime. :rollseyes: My folks did a great job choosing my name. But for now I am, and always will be Dogs prettylady

[rpu3 630]

We just use our initials on our profile and in emails in which we are saying "No thank you". If we receive an email that looks interesting, we do disclose our first names. After we've met a couple times, and we all get along well, it seems like the last names tend to slip out.

 

Rebecca

[Spika 15]

We use an alias on the Internet, but we'll usually give real names when we meet people in real life.

[fun4two 15]

We use are real names, only because it is honesty that matters to us. We are all on here for one reason so there should be no reason to lie. If you use an alias that just gives us reason you are hiding something...if someone we know runs across us on a site or ad and says we seen you on such and such, then we say and what were you doing on there...

 

All it really is about is trust, if you can't trust the people you meet then you shouldn't play with them...

[Tia Vampire 167]

One night I went to the club and told this guy my real name. Even though I told him my real name, he insisted on calling me Tia. My friends thought that it was funny and some of them still call me Tia. So I kind of like the name. It sounds exotic.

[M and H 15]

We use our real initials.

[havefuninsun 122]

M and H said:

We use our real initials.

 

HAHAHAHA.

 

Like you guys said on another thread, keeping private life separate from personal is key for us as well. I wish society was open enough where it didn't matter, but alas, it does.

[LFM2 1,482]

We can sure see the reasons why people may use an alias. If they do that's fine by us.

 

We use our real initials during emailing and by the second or third e-mail, we might sign off with our real names. We don't ever give out our surname. It's really not necessary for anyone to know.

[telly2 15]

I have to agree with Julie, Telly is my real nick and Chantal is my real name, come and find me. Good luck, we live in a French town, there are many of us here. Ok you have seen my pic but oh well, if you want me that bad, here I am

 

There is a couple we play with that use aliases and it is just confusing. You get so used to one name and then "oh btw, our names really are X". It just screws me up. But I guess each to his own.

[havefuninsun 122]

We can sure see the reasons why people may use an alias. If they do that's fine by us.

 

We use our real initials during emailing and by the second or third e-mail, we might sign off with our real names. We don't ever give out our surname. It's really not necessary for anyone to know.

 

What would you guys do if you were flat out asked about your surname? Recently, a couple we've met and played with said, "so you know our surnames (out to dinner they said their surname, which honestly, I don't remember) so what is yours?"

 

I was a bit caught off guard ...

[LFM2 1,482]

havefuninsun said:

What would you guys do if you were flat out asked about your surname? Recently, a couple we've met and played with said, "so you know our surnames (out to dinner they said their surname, which honestly, I don't remember) so what is yours?"

 

I was a bit caught off guard ...

 

This has never happened before, but I think I would honestly tell them for discretionary reasons, we'd prefer not to say. I'd have to know them awfully well to divulge that information.

 

Our surname is one that is not really common.

[sbjr3 17]

We use our real initials during emailing and by the second or third e-mail, we might sign off with our real names. We don't ever give out our surname. It's really not necessary for anyone to know.

Same here.

 

Also, I have a common first name with an uncommon spelling; therefore I will spell it differently.

[flkeyscouple 20]

We use alias names, but they are actually our middle names - which we don't use in 'real life'. But at least if someone yelled across the room, we'd recognize the name. We've been using our alias names for so long that it's habit... but if we had to do it over again, we'd start with our real initials... would make it much easier.

 

We do tell people, when we arrange to meet or start to email about meeting, what our real names are. So far no one has walked away.

 

Sarah

[BCinIN 52]

We were just wondering how many couples, and singles for that matter, use their real names?

We do...

 

You mean your real name is jcbicouple?! Man, I've heard of parents planning their kids' futures but this takes the cake!

 

We use our nicknames' initials online, but give our real names over the phone or when we meet.

 

(Bah! I got suckered into answering a recently-dug-up ancient thread! So sorry...)

[Cpl2share 147]

We never use our real names until we meet. Our jobs would not stand up to the "infamy". : "Gee, Icaught my son on a dating site and he found Mayor Hottwat and her husband Officer Handcuffs. Well, no I wasn't looking for something on the side it was my son, and I disciplined him for going there, but he did find these perverts on the net."

[Lovers4U 15]

We have to use "aliases" in our posts and personals due to the high profile of our chosen professions in our community. This community, though medium population, has a "gossip tube" especially in the area of our profession. If somehow our real names were exposed it would affect our profession and make it difficult if not impossible to work. It might appear weird to some but we are very aware, as our community has a large population that espouses conservatism, though maybe only social, and large progressive liberal. We just can't take that risk if we want to continue to maintain an income to support our profession.

 

We do tell our real names as soon as the communication develops to the point that we feel they can be discrete and respectful of our requirements.

[charms123 52]

We were harassed early on from a guy on the 'net that we often use an alias at first. Once we meet or get serious we use our real names. so there.  

[cubnamy1995 124]

We could have voted two ways. I voted for we use an alias online but use our real names in person, because we do that. However mine is an alias while hers is real. I have to be discreet due to work, whereas she doesn't give a shit who knows it. LOL

[JustAskJulie 2,589]

A discussion came up this weekend about how some couples choose to use fake names when they are at clubs and in swinging situations. Someone had posted a thread about wanting to remain totally anonymous and not use their real names. I know some who use them online and will give out their real names once they meet in person, others who won't give them out at all. I've never used a fake name simply because it's hard enough for me to remember my real one sometimes...lol. Seriously though, I can't imagine trying to remember which name I was using at that moment... or if we got to the point with one couple at a club where they knew our real names but others didn't can you really expect that one couple to not screw up and call you by your real names?

 

So I'm curious, how many here do use fake names in swinging situations (whether just online, in clubs, or throughout swinging)? How has this worked for you? Has it ever lead to confusion? Or to someone using the wrong name at the wrong time?

[Pepper & Drew 384]

The first time we met a couple locally, we used fake names until we met them in person. We quickly realized that was too much trouble, and seemed like a slightly dishonest way to start a possible friendship. We never did it again.

 

Last year, we met a new couple at a houseparty and they gave us one set of names. After the party, they wrote to each of the couples at the party and told us their real names. We told them we liked their made-up names better and that we were going to continue calling them by those names. Even now, I still have a hard time remembering what their real names are.

 

Pepper

[Greg & Sheryl 368]

We feel that our first names are "anonymous" enough, so we don't feel compelled to use pseudonyms.

[Guest screaminggood]

We use our real names but I don't usually sign my "casual" email responses with any name.

[havefuninsun 122]

My name is not Mrs. Fun.

 

I'm not tellin' ya what it is.

 

 

I wouldn't be surprised one way or the other about names, and I'd understand why someone would do that, and I don't think I care, really. It doesn't bother me. Now, we have met couples before and it's pretty clear that if anyone used fake names with them, that would be the last time you saw them.

[MRnMSbhaven 45]

We choose to use our screen names online unless we have met. You never really know who you're talking to until you meet.

 

When we're in public we use our real names. We'll more than likely end up being discussed as "such and such and what's her name" since everyone always forgets at least one of our names (his mother still doesn't know my name) so we don't worry about it overmuch.

 

Ms. B

[des1re06 200]

We use our real first names, but never give out our last name.

[Pepper & Drew 384]

My real name's not Pepper and his isn't Drew, but if we were going to meet up, you'd get the real ones. Honestly, I'm so bad at using a psuedonym that I've typed my real name and the bottom of a post and had to back up and re-type.

 

Pepper (ha! thought you'd catch me)

[Tybee Swing 286]

We've only met one couple in the Lifestyle that we know of who used fake names up to a certain point of comfort, and then they suddenly "changed" their names on us about 3/4 of the way through our first date. It seemed really weird and confusing.

 

We don't use our names at all with complete strangers, at first. Once we meet them, we are comfortable using our real first names.

[VegasLee 1,486]

HI, My name is Lee and I am a Swinger!

 

Uh oh, wrong meeting.

 

I am to simple to try to remember another name.

 

Even Laura has trouble with my name though, sometimes she is yelling to someone named oh god.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

This reminds me of one of my favorite movies, Raising Arizona, when the Snoats brothers are robbing a bank and say their names by accident. They try to play it off by saying "That's right, we're using Code Names!".

- I watch too many movies...

 

We use our real names. It's easier that way.

 

 

If we were to use fake names, I would pick "Dash Riprock".

[TNT 1,155]

We use our real names...the closest I've ever come to using a name that wasn't mine is a shortened version of a nick-name a great aunt used to call me when I was little..."T"...some of our swinger friends call me "T" and I sign "T" a lot in e-mails and such.

 

Teresa

[good times 990]

This may shock some...but my real name isn't "good times".

 

In person and in most correspondence we use our real names, why not, as someone else said first names are plenty anonymous.

 

The only folks we ever met that used fictitious names in person was a couple who used to come to the clubs. He was an attorney that was very politically active, did TV and radio ads for his party and such. Funny thing is, by using fake names they just caused people to ask behind their back, "Isn't that "so-n-so" from TV?" To which we would always respond, "yes, but don't tell him because he doesn't know it. If they would have just used their real names nobody would have thought anything of it. As it was, by using fake names they called more attention to themselves than they would have received otherwise. Then again, maybe that was the point.

[SEXYCUBANCOUPLE 7]

We never use our real names with in the swinging community/lifestyle. Me and my husband own several businesses in the Miami area & we've noticed most people don't really accept or understand this lifestyle. We've had several childhood friends (they were not swingers) shut their doors on us when they found we swing! So to avoid any problems with anybody we'd rather use fake names & it has worked great for us. The less people know about us the better...

[havefuninsun 122]

Know what would be fun (or funny)? Remember the discussion regarding what is your porn name? I don't remember the combo, but your first name was the name of your favorite or first pet, and your last name was the name of the street you lived on growing up. So in this scenario, my name would be POOKIE WILSON.

 

So -- taking this a step out .. my swing name could be pookie wilson.

 

"Hi -- This is Pookie, and her husband Scrappy"

 

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[Dagney 78]

I'm anonymous on this board, but in real life, in our current local group and back when we had our sls and other site profiles active we use our real first names (or first initials). We've never used fake names when actually meeting people. More than once our daughter has become friends with the kids of swinger friends, and I've found myself asking "who" when she mentioned the kids last name because we didn't know it before - lol. We've met a few couples that use fake names, and it's just confusing. One of them slipped and introduced herself to me using her real name instead of her made up name, and from then on I've always called her by both. I originally signed on to this board a few years ago using my yahoo name - which is known by mostly swingers but also some vanilla friends. I stopped when I googled it once and the first thing that came up were my replies to posts on this board!!! However, those who really know me will know this is me now, especially once I really get my blog going on here!

[JustAskJulie 2,589]

We never use our real names with in the swinging community/lifestyle. Me and my husband own several businesses in the Miami area & we've noticed most people don't really accept or understand this lifestyle. We've had several childhood friends (they were not swingers) shut their doors on us when they found we swing! So to avoid any problems with anybody we'd rather use fake names & it has worked great for us. The less people know about us the better...

 

I'm curious as to how just using fake names has prevented people from knowing who you were.

[sc4play 17]

We use an alias, for personal,and business reasons. Once we meet a couple we are comfortable with we all way's tell our real names. The reason is we ran into a problem a few years ago, and we played hop-scotch to get us out of the problem. We both are well known in town.

[sweet_tna 680]

While Sweet_tna is obviously not my real name, it's not a national secret, either. All you have to do is read our profile. Our names are so common that it's no big deal to us. However, our last name is pretty memorable, so we don't give that out unless we get to know you pretty doggone well.

 

=)

[Lovers4U 15]

Because of our profession we have to disguise a portion of our names. I use my first and use the middle of my wife's which few persons know. When we become acquainted or meet the first time, then we will explain the use of one name vs. the first. There has never been any concern or misunderstanding by anyone we meet.

[melliet823 15]

This question was a little bit ironic/funny to me. I have never used an alias for the lifestyle but yet I did at times when playing single in the "vanilla" world. I just feel safer among friends!

[JDApopka 53]

#3 was the best pick for us althought most our screen names have our 1st initials of our names

[wifes_toy 53]

We use screen names on line. The wife has a job where clients stalking could be a problem. So until she knows it is not one of them on the other end our names stay hidden. Meeting in person you get our real first names. The important thing is we are not searchable on line.

 

Having said that, our real first names are the same as a cretin TV swinger couple. Some may think we are giving fake names. Thats fine. If that bothers you your probably not some one we want to be with anyway.

[Starpoint 15]

I use a few nicknames, 1 for swinger / open lifestyle boards, another for game sites.

 

I have found that if you use the same nickname all over, sooner or later the lines cross.

 

I know enough about hiding in plain sight and there are technical tools to help

[M1F2KTJ 470]

We were just wondering how many couples, and singles for that matter, use their real names?

 

We do, but have met a few people who do not. We have also met people who use an alias while on the internet but have told us their real names once we met in person. We don't have any issues with this. Just curious as to how popular using an alias name is. It wouldn't work for us; We would forget which name we were supposed to be using! LOL!

 

We always use the same aliases so we never forget We use aliases for safety. We would only give our real names and/or addresses to people we have grown to trust over many encounters.

[TheSwingerSet 205]

We always use our real names, We don't give out our last name unless we know you well.

[MsGoneWild 181]

We just use our initials until we decide we want to meet someone.

 

For my blog and my modeling I've got an alias though. I just don't want my real name being associated with that when my family googles me. They don't need to see my swing blog or my nude/adult/fetish modeling shots.

[Frank&Sasha 16]

We always use fake names.....before, during & after.

 

Only once have we shared our real names, but that was unavoidable, as when we met with the other couple for dinner; after exchanging emails and faceless pictures, we all realized that all of us already knew each other....hahaha. Luckily, that one worked out well and everybody was super cool.

 

I'm surprised how many people voted that they use their real names in the Poll.

 

We have fake names, email accounts and phone numbers for our swinging lifestyle. It is nice to be able to "turn it off" or disconnect from it whenever we want. If we are having a nice evening alone or with family or something....I don't want to get a text message or phone call asking if Sasha wants another Facial.

[s_couple 48]

Wife uses real first name, husband uses unpublicized middle name. We will never share our last name. No one can ever Google us if we use these names (we checked it already).

 

Husband's first name is unique enough that it is quite possible for someone to find him if he/she is really into it. Our last name is less unique, but not that common either in Illinois.

[MN Tom 251]

We give out our real first names when we meet people.

 

We never give out our last name (and dont request others to do so), but when you are friends, eventually last names come out.

 

Ive always used alias names online, and for so long that I have a bunch of real life friends that call me by my most common online alias. It's almost a nickname for me now, although part of that is because in our group of friends 3 of us have the same first name. Started using that handle~15 years ago.

[rainbowskye 102]

I have a unique name, so I never use it. I use a nick name and a random last name. If we become close friends it usually comes out. Funny thing is that my online alias is something I've used forever it seems and some friends and family call me by it.

 

My other half never uses his last name but does his first name. It is such a common name that nobody could find him by that name. His last name is the same way. He has a typical Irish name.

[Dont.Stop 339]

We use our names. We don't hide our last names... there's no real need to use them. Some of our LS friends are our Facebook friends, too. No biggie.

 

Our swinger business cards have only our first names listed, for obvious reasons.