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We are new to the active part of swinging, not new to discussing it with each other. Out of the two of us I would say I have more past experiences then the husband. I have in the past done the FMF, some voyeurism and exhibitionism, FF while the guys watched etc. Just recently though we had our first MFM together and that was a learning experience for us both. Now we both want to explore swinging. :) The possibilities are rather exciting.

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Hi all! We are completely new. Have had a FF with the hubby right there and a FMF. Who knows what will happen, but we are interested most in finding others who are open and not judgemental. Even if others aren't into what we are interested in, it is ok....

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Hi,

 

We have not played with another couple together, wife has on a couple of occasions before we met, and we are more soft swing/ex/voy at this point.

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My husband & I only had one swinging experience with another cpl, we are ready for more of the lifestyle experiences.

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I have had a 3 sum with one couple a few times. HE was bi so I had fun both ways. I got to do her and suck him. After a few times I was doing her and he was doing me and she watched

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We have been together for 18 years. I suppose we are experienced since we have been enjoying the LS for 8 years now (off and on). However, I do believe that in long term relationships couples wants, desires, & comfort levels can change and/or progress with time. That is how its been for us anyway. Which is why I used the term "suppose" in reference to being experienced. I enjoy the fact that with each encounter we've had along the way has been a learning experience in itself.

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Not really new to it. I have played a little with my first wife but now I'm remarried to wonderful, sexy lady who has the same fantasies I do. We've both played some and had a blast. I had an account on here under JustNTerested but that's way gone now so I made a new one to include the two of us.

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I had a previous relationship 20 years ago with a great lady and we both shared the same girlfriend. Therefor I know how good it can be to share intimacy outside the relationship. The memories never faded, nor did the desire to experience it again. The experience MsDiscover & I have now is still limited but we are trying to find a way to swing at the moment.

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Mrs. CoupleInMD79 and I have been "officially" swinging since our first full swap four months ago (September2014). Make it five months if you count it from the time my wife flashed her boobs at our first meet and greet! I guess we are still considered newbies, but we have had a variety of experiences in our short time in the lifestyle- same room voyeur/exhibitionist fun with another couple (and one time in a group room with maybe a half-dozen other couples), soft swaps, many full swaps, and some group-grope things where we mixed and matched in a big pile! We've enjoyed swinging in a lifestyle club, in a couple's home, in a hastily-rented hotel room, at a hotel takeover party, and at a lifestyle resort. We are beginning to feel more comfortable with the interpersonal dynamics of meeting a couple for the first time, or playing for the first time (God, we were nervous wrecks the first time!). We've even had a couple of occasions where we've clicked so well with a new couple that we played on the first date!

 

The Mrs. has had a couple of tentative forays into g/g play so far. She's not exactly converted into full-blown bi status, but has enjoyed receiving, and if the chemistry was there, tried going down on a woman a couple of times. I have not had any m/m experiences yet, and not really sure if I would enjoy it, but I'm theoretically open-minded!

 

Coming soon for us will be our first encounter with a single female. We're looking forward to our first time doing that!

 

We have many new experiences yet to discover, and we're having a great time so far!

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Yes i am new to this kind of lifestyle i've always wanted to try swingers but never knew where to start. I am a little shy around people at first but then once i feel comfortable then i am a chatter box lol. I am also a nervous about this but i want to do this i have been for a while now.

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We have been in the lifestyle for two years. Mostly with couples but we have attended a few hotel parties as well. We always like to meet a new couple socially first and then afterwards if we all clicked we message them to say we had a great time and would be happy to arrange a play date with them.

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Guest Elcharro60

While I was in my twenties my girlfriend and I joined a few couples' parties for fun and games which led to be naked and having more fun. My girlfriend and I became separated due to my military service of being to transfer to another country and we lost touch of each other. Later, I found out she had married so I let it go.

I'm looking forward to the lifestyle again and joining the forum here to ask a few questions.

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We are pretty new to this. Although we did some crazy things in our younger years, I don't rightly call them swinging.

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Totally new. We've had one webcam session where we watched another couple have sex while we had sex and it was absolutely HOT. Can't wait to try it again, or even in person!

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My 'wife' & I enjoyed the LS for 15 years ~ when we lived out WEST~

After she 'passed'~ I dropped out for several years &

consentrated on our kids~they are grown & I'm returning!

I'm not sure how a '55YO single man' will fit in this now~

'nothing ventured~nothing gained'!

eddie

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We are TOTAL newbies to the lifestyle. Because of our difference in drives and maybe a little due to age difference, I'm interested in order to do something with all of my newly found sexual confidence. We've been honest throughout and are having all of the discussions of "would you?" and my answers to most are "I WOULD". LOL. We're near Savannah, GA but sometimes travel out west (NV).

 

Looking forward to potential new experiences and meeting others. :)

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We are very similar to you, haven't crossed over to full swapping, but have had a lot of fun with the few soft swap experiences we've had. Best one was in Vegas (go figure). We were approached by a couple with a card game called Intimate Combinations that starts with just some group play type kissing stuff and builds all the way to some pretty crazy full swap stuff. While we only looked at those cards afterwards, there were a bunch of wild soft swap cards that we had a LOT of fun with.

 

It wouldn't surprise me if we eventually get into some full swap, but we've had a ton of fun playing with other couples.

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We're in a similar boat, with the whole going slowly aspect. We've had some really good luck getting into some soft swap situations that we've had a great time. Not sure if full swap is really for us, but the couple soft swaps we've had were a blast! Good luck!

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I am completely new. How much does it cost to become a regular member ? Anyone have a few minutes to show me the ropes ?

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Membership at the Swingers Board is totally free, and all members have the same privileges and access to all parts of the site. It sounds like maybe you were expecting more of an online personals site? We're more a discussion site than personals. For that aspect of things, I would recommend SwingLifeStyle or SwingTowns.

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We are both totally new to swinging. I've done swaps with friends but never with my gf. She's had lots of sexual experiences and so have i, including a lot of taboo things and wild scenarios lol.

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Hello, I am new. I had one experience so far which sort of started just by being nice. I met the couple (her) in Bass Pro and helped her pick a gift out for her boy friend. She was thankful and invited me over for dinner. The next weekend, I went over to their house for dinner. I brought a nice bottle of wine which we all enjoyed along with a wonderful meal. They invited me to stay and we played sort of a "truth or dare" which led to our first threesome. We had a lot of fun together and enjoyed DVPs and since I moved apart, I miss it and decided to join this board and SLS. Thank you everyone that shares advice. This board is awesome!

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We are pretty much brand new to this. We went to 2 parties in a 3 week period. It was supposed to be a monthly thing but the snow had other plans, that worked to our benefit. After the first party we were like 20 days and a wake up till we do it again. I myself (Jay) was involved in a devils triangle (MFM) some years ago. I was messing with a friend of mine and she told me it was always her fantasy to have 2 guys at once. I was happy to comply. We did it 3x and it was amazing, more for the fact she was beautiful and had the most killer body. Her attitude to her boyfriend was basically "look I'm gonna do it with J, with or without you". So a 3 way happened. Other then that, all this is brand new to me. The inverse of the devils triangle is amazing FMF, its basically every mans wet dream. It's everything its cracked up to be. We eagerly await our next playdate/party.

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I'm am totally new at this, but have thought about many times. My bf mentioned a place in LV, so I looked it up online. Lol boy oh boy, does it sound fun. All the different themed rooms and such. Well, then a week or so later, I mentioned this place to a good co-worker friend. She mentioned a local venue And told me about her exp.

Give additional background... my bf has been to several clubs and many meet/greets while dating another prior to us becoming a couple. We talk about EVERYTHING.

Anyways, back to the topic. .. I'm not the jealous type and willing to try anything, but his concern is, would I be able to handle watching him have sex with another fem..

I can and have had sex just for sex and that love and know the can/are completely different. I get off watching porn just like many others And have exp 3somes - fmf

My question is... are there ways to to ease into the full swap, because once that line is crossed, there is no going back.

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Welcome, babs!

 

My question is... are there ways to to ease into the full swap, because once that line is crossed, there is no going back.

 

Yes, there are ways to take baby steps. One would be watching others have sex. Next would be to have sex with others watching. Then same room sex with just your partner but another couple is in the room with you two also having sex. Then there's soft swap where there's oral sex but no penetration penis-in-vagina sex. Then full swap. That is the path that some take. Others never get to full swap. Some jump right into full swap. And there are many other ways in between.

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We just entered the soft swap lifestyle in the last 6mos. We have complete trust in each other and we are open to anything except kissing and penetration. We love how heightened we feel when there is something you can't do. We've had a lot of sexy fun, plenty of oral, orgasms and naked touching. Our sex life has completely taken off! I know many people feel soft is boring, but in our case, it is NOT! Enjoy!

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We have been swinging for about 6 of the 7 years of our relationship. We both enjoy seeing the other pleased. Finding swing parties or other couples is a time consuming challenge, however, and with both of us working, we do not get to swing as often as we'd like as a result.

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I am totally new to this? My husband would like to see me have soft swap with another woman and I am open to trying it. I watch porn and love it! Haven't attended any parties yet, but am looking into some in Las Vegas when we go in August! Any suggestions?

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Sorry no i dont as from uk , but best of luck with it , sounds like very Hot fun and im sure it will b 4 u both

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sounds like both of u r enjoying it , and im a firm believer in , if it makes u happy then thats all that matters no wrongs or rights just do what u like is what i say .

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We've been "dipping our toes in the water" for about 2 1/2 years. We've been to a club twice, have had a fmf, mfm, soft swap and full swap. We love going to strip clubs together-especially full nudity ones. We also enjoy going to nude beaches. We have a regular male that comes to play...wish we could find a regular female to join us. We have one couple that we meet up with a couple times a year...the others have all been a one time meet up due to personality not completely meshing. We wish we had more time to enjoy the lifestyle but so hard to do in the area we live.

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Totally new to everything other than monogamous relationships. I want more exp in general, but swinging is the most logical option now that my gf has given the ok for an open relationship. We've talked about all the kinky stuff, but we haven't done anything yet. I still haven't been with anyone other than her since we opened up the relationship since I don't even know how to go about having a one night stand lol.

 

Total noob here, 24yo and I've only had 2 gfs, 1 FwB, and 1 one night stand... But hopefully I'll be able to add a notch or two to my belt before I'm 30 :P

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Male half of swinging couple.Met her almost 10 years ago through swinging after my divorce from a vanilla woman. Married 7 1/2 years now. Have been cohosts for a regular house party (2 to 6 times a year) since 2006. Have been to several swingers clubs over the years and multiple other house/hotel parties.

 

I created my profile here in 2007 but never got involved on this board. Recent events involving LS People that my wife and i know have made me more introspective about the LifeStyle.

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We've been in the lifestyle for about a year and a half. We started out meeting a couple and had several great experiences with them and they have become close friends. We still play on occasion. Shortly after we attended a hotel room party and even though it was a "bucket list" experience we still cringe when we think about it. It was with some very experienced swingers, most of whom had played together before. The men all loved my wife, but I got stuck with a woman that I had no attraction to and had performance issues, which for a newbie was quite embarrassing. I kept in touch with one of the women I met there and have had several dates with her since.

 

We have backed off of meeting couples and mostly play alone now, so I'm not sure if we are technically swingers, although we are still open to couple play if we meet the right people. She has had much better luck finding dates, but it's suprisingly hard for a married man to find a woman who's willing to date or even have sex with a man when she finds out his wife knows what he's doing.

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We are new to this. We have never really had a swinging experience. We did have a FMF 3some and all went well awhile ago. My hubby and I did everything 2 people could do to one another sexual when we git together and then life happens and here we are 10 yrs later venturing into the things we discussed then. I'm not sure where to post this at but since we are newbies this must be the place. We decided to do this for us, to spice up our marriage but what we don't know is where to meet people. We are new to our area and have decided that the swingers clubs are to intimating for both of us. We fantasize about meeting a couple who has done this before, who will help us walk through this door. We are looking for a couple that we can be FWB but don't really know how to find them. Any suggestions?? We just joined SLS and are being totally honest in our profile. Now what??

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We are fairly new and only had a few soft swap experiences at clubs. We feel we are ready for home settings experiences and to meet local couples to really connect with.

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My husband and I are new at swinging. But have experience in threesomes with another woman. Here to get advice, hear from some other newbies and experienced swingers,and hopefully really understand this exciting lifestyle.

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We are new to this. He brought up the idea, and I thought he was crazy! We have discussed it more and I have also done some reading, and it is why I also joined this site. I think it could turn into something fun for us both :) Any advice on websites that you don't have to pay for, eventually we will consider the cost but for now just seeing what is out there :)

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We are new to this for sure. He brought up the idea and I thought he was crazy! We have discussed it quite a bit more and I have been looking into more on my own and I think we would have alot of fun togther.

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Well my bf and I met up with 2 other couples for a house get together. One couple was all in for a full swap and the second didn't want any penetration.

 

Wooie, for my first time in the lifestyle and even with a female was awesome. It was uncontrollably controlled.

 

Being ate out, fucked by another guy, watching my bf fucking another female and having his cock sucked by another fella, being ate out after my bf came inside me, and what astonished me was I was together with another female for almost an hr.

 

My bf mentioned that all the yrs he's been in the lifestyle, this experience was intense and would be difficult to top.

 

I'm glad my first time was casual, easy going, and wonderful. I am definitely looking forward to experience more with bf. It was HOT watching him and being watched.

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We are quite new - we have been to a club a couple of times. I've enjoyed being spit roasted and DP'd and a couple of other things :) I'm not much of a voyeur, so watching another couple doesn't really turn me on and seeing my fella with another woman probably wouldn't arouse me either, but BEING watched is good. I prefer doing to watching :)

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We hope you enjoyed it and had a great time! If you like, maybe you could post about your experience in one of the open forums?

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I am very new. I went to a club for the first time this past weekend and played with a couple. Now I'm hooked and ready for new experiences.

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We're only a year in and we've been very selecive and maybe a little too discerning lol. We have only had a few experiences, and they have been great. We just don't want to get too crazy with it. We don't want our sex life to be overshadowed by our swinging sex life. We love what we do together alone, and we want to keep that balance, know what I mean?

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