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We have been in the swinging lifestyle for about 2 years now. We are in Australia but our first experience was at an awesome resort in Mexico that caters to swingers. We have also been to a house party with about 50 couples, but we prefer to get to know people first before we play. We have made some great friends in the lifestyle and one couple is traveling from overseas to visit us - so we have a fun week ahead!

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My girlfriend and I have been discussing the lifestyle for the past year or two. We will be visiting our first swing club tomorrow evening. We are both a little nervous but the anticipation of taking our first step into the lifestyle has been driving us crazy since we made our reservation. We are going to take things slow on our first visit and just get a feel of the atmosphere and let our exhibitionist side shine. I'm sure it he going to be on hell of an evening!

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Im not new to the idea really its just this area im in now was so stale i had to move online to find any action :/

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Pat and I have been in the lifestyle for about 6 mths....still going strong but it has had its ups and downs. Good Communication seems to be the key to making it work. We look at it as being in it together..."us" as opposed to him and me. We play together and only together...never separate...So far its working for us...

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We are totally new and looking for a couple that is compatible, fun, and experienced to make our first time as enjoyable as the story we read here "First Time and It Was Awesome". That is exactly how we would hope it would happen and the thought of it makes us get all "tingly" with anticipation. We just have read that story 10 times and every time we just "maul" each other....LOL. It makes us so HOT! Can it really be THAT good? We hope to connect with someone on this site or the 'sister' site very soon as we both can't wait to enjoy the feelings of sex just for the sake of pleasure with someone new.

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We are new to the lifestyle, but eager with anticipation. We are in the middle, TN area and looking for some To something mentors to help us get our feet wet. Ok not just feet.

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I myself have had some experience in the past, with wonderful results. An ex had never reached climax, and I was very experienced. We tried everything, until we went to a Swingers Club in Tampa - the excitement, the pheromones, the couple watching all fell into place. I was "going down" and... she jumped up, and ran to the restroom! She had cum for the very first time! It was amazing.

My Wife now, has had a lot of experience, but never labeled herself a Swinger. We believe humans were not meant to be with ONE person for life, it is against our very nature.

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Cheers! It is a good story for those unsure as to whether or not the lifestyle is for them, it does have it's benefits! :)

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We have been having fun now for over a year with full swap. We had started by just going to a club and watching several years ago....and several years before that with pillow talk during sex. So now we are fully comfortable with the full exchanges. We have some best friends who we know have played before and would love to play with them but she is scared it will ruin the current friendship...That will probably come up in the future with them as we become even more engauged in this. We finally started playing in the area we live in. Before that we would only do it with a group that we met on a cruise that were in the next state....

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we have been in the lifestyle for just over a year now. We have had numerous mmf, 1 ffm, 2 mfmf. been to a club we like to please our playmates

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We are not new to swinging.We have been ever so playful all of our twelve yrs.I have had many pleasurable experiences before my wife while she had none before me.In the getting to you phase she trusted me with her inner & most deepest sexual curiousities & dezirez.I treasured them & have been greatly privalage in sharing many experinces with her with other couples,a DP,a few girl on girls,full swap,ect,.We have also saddly had a few bad experiences,yet refused to allow any one o destroy our dezirez,our fun.We just wish we could endulge more often in our play time.

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I am completely new, but have been considering it for awhile. Obviously, it is not something you ask Mom or Aunt Minnie about.. LOL.. I did meet a man who is experienced in the Lifestyle and I am hopeful that we hit it off..

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We are brand new...no experiences yet. We have talked about it for several years but are approaching it cautiously as we don't want to ruin the awesome intimacy and sex we currently have. I am bicurious and he is completely supportive of that. I've had one lap dance at a club in Las Vegas as a test, and thought it was very sexy to feel her body. There's a great swinger club not too far from us that we talk about visiting sometime, it's just a matter of doing it. What to wear, how to act, what not to do...just want to make sure we do it right! We've also read about the online ads. Any advice as to which is better for first encounters for perhaps FMF or maybe another couple where the females touch some? Any etiquette we should know about beyond the obvious?

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After using swinging as fantasy fuel for a few years, we made the jump into reality at a hotel party a little over three years ago. It has been a blast ever since.

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She has had a few swinging encounters, They happened years ago. You'd think she would have mentioned something like that to me during pillow talk sessions, but it was only 10 years ago that she finally told me about them. If you can believe this, she was worried that I wouldn't take it well. After hearing the details about a party she attended, my obvious physical arousal left no doubt in her mind or mine for that matter that I found the idea stimulating to say the least. That led to an unbelievably passionate evening for us. We had a couple of opportunities shortly after that to take the plunge into a swinging situation ( both times Mrs lateboomer let me know that she was up for it if I was) but for some reason, mostly guilt and hangups from childhood sunday school, I couldn't bring myself to do it. I guess I was worried that it was a step we ( I ) were not ready for at that time. Flash forward ten years and I've gotta tell you, It would be a different outcome today. Joining the board was our way of dipping a toe in the water before we jump in. Now we just have to find the right situation with the right people. :blush:

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Do you already have experience with swinging? Or is this a new idea for you? If you are experienced share your experience. If you aren't tell us what experiences you'd like to have.

 

I had a couple FMF experiences several years ago. As a (now) single male, I am finding it difficult to meet new people.

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Totally new. No experience in this arena. Dabbled in lots of stuff with the wife and over the years of getting to know her and her me we're exploring possibilities.

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Hi,

 

We are new. We love to take pictures of me (the wife) and try to get actions shots ourselves. We like outdoor pictures too but would like to take some at another couple or females home for variety.

 

We go to nude beaches so are comfortable being around others naked. She does webcam shows so is comfortable with her body around others and having sex, at least in front of the camera on the internet.

 

We would be ok with another couple or female watching us take pics and helping us take the pics. Same room sex with another couple would be ok. Not sure if we would go any further at this point....

 

candc4play

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Being new is pretty fun, since each experience is a new revelation. We've been trying things out for half a year now, but lack the experience of many of the previous posters. So far we've had two mff with separate women, but then decided couples would be more intriguing to the both of us. Got involved with a couple we've known for a few years that were also interested in trying it out (started as casual fireplace chat) and hit it off instantly. Took a weekend trip to Mexico and did some naked hot tubbing, groping, and during the same bed sex session, it turned into a gropfest quasi foursome. I hadn't planned to go as far as I did, but in the heat of the moment we just got into that zone (gave him head, ate her out, got eaten out by all three including hubby, got fingered in the anus during intercourse and vaginally beforehand) but in the heat of the moment you can't stop passion! I still haven't been penetrated with a penis by anybody else, but we're right there!

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We're pretty new to this. Mr had a FMF threesome and a MFMF foursome, I've just had some touchy-feely groping and we're both looking forward to new experiences.

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I'm not really sure how I got started in the lifestyle, but I'm pretty sure it was from couples approaching me to play with them. And who am I to say no to a damsel in distress? ;-) I've played with couples I've met while out and about, couples from swingers clubs in TN and NV, and couples from AFF, met many good folks and some really fun ones. Was new to the swing scene back in 98 at the tender age of 22, now in my mid 30's and still find it exciting. Cheers, everyone! :)

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I have some experience in swinging. My wife and I used to play with others - both threesomes and couples swap - but she lost interest in the lifestyle after our son was born. It was my interest in watching her with another man that got us into it. We enjoyed several MFM's with a close friend (he became her regular partner for a couple of years) and that lead to some MFMF fun with other couples and one FMF with a friend. In between, I played alone with a few lady friends as my wife didn't mind. She still doesn't so long as she has prior approval of the woman but that's something I haven't persued since we stopped swinging. While I enjoyed all of the various combinations of play, MFM was and still is my favorite. I'm straight but I love to watch her with another man and I'd let her play with another guy at the drop of a hat if she showed interest. Oh well, there's always hope!

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Hubby and I have been talking in depth about the lifestyle for over a year now. Still a little shy about the clubs, mostly fear of the unknown on my part. I did have one FF experience last year. We met a nice couple through SLS. Had dinner and drinks a few times. I had my first and only bi experience. It was incredible, but a tad frustrating since the guys weren't there and we kept taking time outs to get pictures and video so they could enjoy it, too. All in all it was a lovely, intimate experience. Not long after, we got busy buying a new house and moving and then I injured my knee, so we put our swinger fun on hold. Surgery and physical therapy have helped me gain most of the use of my knee again and hubby and I have been talking about getting back out there again. Looking forward to it!

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We are ABSOLUTELY new to this. I am the one pushing for this, but Hubby is excited as well. He had a threesome FFM when he was in college, but that's the extent of experience here. Looking forward to this!!!:):)

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I'm new to it as well. I've played around with the female half of a married couple before, but it didn't go further than that (I wasn't into the husband. Sad times).

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Both new to this. We did have a nice encounter a month ago at the strip club. My wife and I got a couples dance and the stripper pulled out my wife tits and licked them and then in the heat of the moment they started kissing!!! This was my wifes first and only bi experience. Shes is looking forward to more. We are thinking about checking out a club or party soon...any ideas or advice?

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I am new here too! I am sort of here by myself! Married Yes! I am a care giver for my spouse, so I am looking for a sensual outlet! Passionate you bet, love oral both ways doing and having it done to me! anyway, just wondering if a threesome is possible! two men pleasing a hot passionate women!

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Hi, new to the board but not swing. Just wanted to introduce myself. The online sites get frustrating and I've reached a.point I just want to discuss swinging and read what others are saying.

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Definitely new to swinging, this place looked like a good place to get started. Sound like fun!

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both totally new to this, I'm the one doing all the looking into etc.. as that's not really his thing, but we discuss everything and are both very curious

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We have been in the lifestyle on and off since around 2003. Our only experiences have been MFM but we have recently found the time and freedom to actively pursue our other interests (couples!). We've also met some really cool people in the lifestyle and love swapping stories and experiences.

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We have been in and out of the lifestyle several times since the early eighties. Old-timers, we are, and have done just about everything. Well. maybe not EVERYTHING :rolleyes:, but we became fairly open-minded. We haven't been active in several years, but nothing remains constant! I'm looking forward to making new friends, here. We are now retired, and like to travel by RV fairly regularly, so there's always the opportunity to meet new friends, in and out of the lifestyle. At this point in our lives, swinging does not carry that sense of urgency it once did. Now, we can take our time with it, just as we do with everything else. Life is good when there is no pressure, and no need to rush; just relax and take it all in.

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Hi everyone!

 

Complete beginner couple. Neither of us have any experience in the lifestyle and have been actively discussing the idea. I am 39 y.o. female, he is 40 y.o. male- not married but have been together for awhile.

 

So Hi! :D

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HI! We are a newbie couple to swinging! I have had some experiences in the past, but my husband is completely new to all of it. We are both very excited & looking forward to some fun & meeting new people. :D

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Hi everyone. We are new to this and have not had any experiences yet. We are planning on attending a hotel party soon so we are reading as much as possible to be prepared. We are excited and cant wait to see how this goes.

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We have not had any experience, although we talk about it how we would like to meet either another couple, or a single, and just see what happens.

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We have not had any experience, although we talk about it how we would like to meet either another couple, or a single, and just see what happens.
Wishing you good luck in your quest. And WELCOME to the Swingersboard.

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Hi! We are newbies, but I set up an encounter between my hubs and another woman a few weeks ago. I was actually really into it, it was his first time with another woman and of course he was also really loving it! We are planning on attending a club later in Sept. and we are nervous about it but we (especially me) are pretty social depending on the vibe of the environment. Wish us luck!

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Completely new to this. My wife dropped the bomb on me just two days ago after watching some show on TV (think it was the Oprah network). Of course, she said the magic words, "I'd like to be with another girl and you and have sex somewhere that others can watch." I found it very exciting. She said that she wanted to have oral sex with another woman while that other woman pleasured me orally. She's kissed other girls before, but always maintained she was an above the waist type lesbian :) Well, apparently an attractive woman made her rethink. Anyway, here to learn!

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I have had experience as a couple. I am now a single/female. I know there are rules for singles. Would anyone care to enlighten me? I want a positive experience. My couples experience was not good. Jealousy,accusations by ex, the set of rules we set at the beginning of the evening changed by the end and no one sent me the memo. It was the best horror story you can think of. I like swinging, and I would like to enjoy it as a single without too much drama.

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Hey everyone, we are new to this entire idea... Ok maybe not the idea, it has been bedroom talk for some time now, but we are now actively looking to learn more about "the lifestyle"

 

We are a young couple, we have always been open minded sexually but just between the two of us. She has had a bit of experience with other females but aside from that neither of us has ever been with anyone else.

 

We are looking to get a feel for it all and to get to know other sexually driven people. We have some great friends but none who we can openly discuss sex with without them getting uncomfortable about it... I guess we are a tad more pervy than the average couple maybe?

 

Anyway, she is a little more shy and is just dipping her toe in the water for now but that is perfectly fine with me, there is no need to rush for us.

 

Thank you to all who contribute to this forum and who share their experiences and knowledge on the subject!

 

- Mr. IECpl

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New to the community here, but not completely new to the swinger lifestyle :). Have had a core fetish love for years, in helping male member of the household bring 5 star pleasure to his wife. Am straight, but love to bring help double fuck his wife ( have a strong passion for throat fucking and deep deep anal)

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I am not new to swinging just haven't been on this board for a long time..but I like swinging I have now moved to nashville tn and we have actually have 2 swinger's clubs here..have been to both of them but do prefer one over the other one..have a blast every time I go..

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Where to start...

when i was 20 with my then girlfriend we did a swap with another couple one evening.

When i was 27 i started swinging with my then girlfriend, we didnt swing much though.

Now im 31 my now girlfriend is 26, we have been to swing clubs only a few times but it wasnt really for us, ive organised three gangbang parties for her where 5 men turned up for our first one, then 14 turned up for the next, then 24 turned up for the final one, we've done two MFF threesomes, and several MFM threesomes, and some meets with guys where ive watched her with them: several men were arranged online and maybe 20 or so men from when we've been to the local gay village clubs/bars in the city, people there tend to be more open minded about this kind of lifestyle.

 

She never properly swinged before she met me, she once had a MFF but that was all. She has a very flirty personality around men some people would class her as a slut, but she's actually a really attractive and sweet girl who has a thirst for a lot of sex - ive been with over 50 women in my time and her sex drive tops them all by far. When i asked her her how many men does she think she has been with she couldnt answer as there's been so many, so i said have a guess such as like 50, 100, 500, over 1000? she still didnt answer. Its like now, its why im online more than usual, she's gone abroad on vacation for three weeks with three of her friends who are big party animals. When i asked if i could go she said it was for girls only... i know what she's upto though, when she was packing i reminded her to always use condoms, she then smiled reached into her bag and pulled out a big pack of 144 condoms ..lol ooookay!

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My wife and I have discussed the possibility of swinging many times. She has told me it would be a huge turn on for her to see me with another woman and I feel the same way about her with another man. The problem is, we are both pretty cautious about meeting new people and want our first experience to be safe and fun. How do we get started?

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We are new to swinging and quite young but have been together for a while now. Would love to experience a club or a house party and meet some couples or singles we can relate with. We've only ever had threesome experiences together (wmw), but we're basically up for anything new! Just looking around the site and trying to get the hang of things.

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