Full Swap swinging, Soft Swap swinging, or ?

[cubnamy1995 124]

We'll do just about anything but dude-on-dude. And when I say we are full-swap, I mean FULL swap. My wife will not only fuck the other guy, she will also tell him where to park the car, what to wear, and why he is just like his mother...

 

Now THAT'S full swap!!!!

 

[SirDavidandhalo 15]

jcbicouple said:

Our vote was for full swap with all parties. However, "swapping" really isn't a good term for our play experiences. We prefer one big pile, with everyone playing together.

 

Would never do separate rooms, or even separate beds. We like to enjoy the experience together, whether playing with a man, woman, or couple.

This is actually our preference as well. While we have gone to separate room full swap it is not what we prefer. We are avid voyeurs and love to watch each other and our friends. Far too many people like this in our opinion. They have been, on our experience very hard to find. Hey, if your out there and in NY drop us a line! LOL

[KentuckianaCPL4 16]

We are a Full Swap Couple, I am straight but don't freak out with incidental male contact.

She is Bi, so Katey bar the door ;-)

[redgirlwithfrec 33]

We are a full swap couple and she is Bi-friendly. For us it is all about the enjoyment and experience and being able to bring home newly learned fun.

[here2play 15]

This is an amazing thread! Although my experiences are very limited at this point, I am so into all these wonderful opinions you all are sharing! He has done FMF and full swap, I have done very light girl play but am all about taking that further! We are hoping to make it to full swap, but right now looking for FMF or soft swap with another couple, bi-female play only. Can't wait!!!

[hannah_mark 15]

Full swap is our main preference. We both like seeing each other having penetrative sex with other people. We're not opposed to soft swap but full really does it for us. I really like the other female to be bi. Sometimes we might swap with a non-bi couple, but only occasionally.

[JFunston 18]

We prefer .... whatever happens, happens .....

 

Once we have made a connection and have decided to hook up with another couple, then what happens in the mood, happens.

 

We prefer everyone enjoy everyone; but what "enjoy" means is very different to each individual couple.

 

We have been with couples that "enjoy" was: swapping MF, voyeur - each couple watching each other, MFF - the other male wanted to watch only, and MMFF - where after the MF coupling, we paired MM & FF in a group setting, and MM & FF "performing" for our partners.

 

Like we said ... once we have decided to hook up ... what happens happens ...

[rachel66 16]

My preference as a woman is mfm and mmfm but we sometimes play with another couple.

[funcoupledayton 2,707]

We do what ever feels right at the time. We like the flexibility of being able to enjoy all different types of play.

[rachel66 16]

My preference is mfm but I recently began an intimate relationship with another woman and we've tried a threesome with her bf.

[Fours Company 169]

Though we are at the point in the LS now that full-swap w/ bi-female only would be our preferred choice, it is by no means an absolute.

We would be perfectly happy to limiting the bi-activities with a straight-female couple or even downgrade to soft-swap with the right couple or Newbies.

We will always remember the fact that we had more limits and less relationship-security at one time and were lucky to find more advanced full-swap couples who were willing to limit themselves for us and thus would not hesitate to accommodate others in return.

[Tia Vampire 167]

Full swap all the way. No bi sexual activities would be my vote.

[mrmrsjiggly 111]

We lean towords soft swap strait only but have enjoyed full swap with FF bi activity.

[twoormoretotango 35]

This is good stuff for newbs like us. Our intro to the LS was a G/G date (two, actually) with another couple, the only play was the ladies. That was cool because we had not at the time decided to start in the LS, but my very bisexual wife wanted to have a real G/G experience and live out her fantasy. The other couple volunteered to help her with this! Had we stayed around that couple, who we got along with wonderfully, I imagine things would have progressed but we had to move due to job loss, etc.

 

Now that we are wanting to experience LS play (going to Naughty in N'Awlins in August! How's that for jumping head first in the pool! LOL!) and are trying to find a couple of clubs to start out with, we have thought that "full" soft swap - as in, everything except penis in vagina across couples, but oral, manual, etc. is all cool - might be the way to start. But we've both said we'll play it by ear, we could see it progressing to full with the right couple.

[christnthms 325]

As a newcomer here, I've found the posts to be far more interesting than the poll itself.

 

I'm surprised at how many people seem very set in one way of doing things, and closed to variation, when the entire community is by definition "outside the norms of society."

 

I know that for myself, with only my lady in the picture, some of the greatest sex we've had has been within the limits of "soft swap." This isn't because we had some externally imposed limit, but because petting and oral is a lot of fun for us. Neither of us would presume to tell someone else what they "should" prefer, but for us a leisurely evening of licking and sucking can be as satisfying as any other variation.

 

That said, I'm generally in favor of the full swap option. That's not to say that I insist on doing everything. It means I'm open to everything being on the table. It might be, at the end of the night, that nothing happened but oral/manual. That wouldn't be a disappointment. If we're with quality people having fun, then we're with quality people having fun.

Why do I need to put my preferences onto others to enjoy ourselves?

[sparkstar 128]

Full swap all the way, no bi sexual activities, preferring straight MFM. He loves watching, she loves DP (vaginal-anal) but only with the right (other) guy.

 

We've shared a 2 bedroom apartment with a male friend for over a year now, she likes the attention she gets.

 

No condoms with other males if they bring a recent health certificate, or if he is a friend. Husband loves sloppy seconds.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,019]

. . . the entire community is by definition "outside the norms of society." . .

I will not try to speak on behalf of the entire community. Speaking for my wife and I, we two swingers are completely normal members of society.

[snyderleeann 25]

We are first and foremost, voyeurs & exhibitionists. We've had two mfms and they were fun, but even though both guys were dry from previous cancers (neither ejaculate), we were still so nervous about pregnancy & disease. I realize you can be pretty safe w/condoms, but we prefer zero chance. That little doubt that pops into your head the next day or ten takes away a lot of the fun for us. Also, she is not comfortable seeing me do another woman and I do not strongly crave it (don't get me wrong - all sex sounds super fun), but I'm not just dying to have someone else. She is an absolute blast in bed and satisfies me just fine.

 

Given our fear of pregnancy & disease, our non-need for me & another woman, and our satisfaction with our own sex lives, we're just after the excitement of being in a super-charged atmosphere. That can be in an on-premise club or with another soft-swap couple in a hotel room.

Granted, our limitations cause us to have to work extra hard to find matches on sls and swz, etc. We do not enjoy that effort. Most couples that will actually follow through with meeting don't want us because we tell them up front that we don't swap. The couples that are OK with just watching/being watched are usually newbies and often back out when it's time to meet. Thus, our extreme fondness of on-premise clubs Our desires are well-met there.

[edtungsten5858 29]

Our preference is full swap with Amy happy to be bi-helpful if asked, but she has her eye on men. If we are playing in public in some way during our first meeting, we may not swap at that moment if the other couple prefers not to, but our preference is to swap as soon as possible and absolutely when our clothes come off :-)

[AdamGunn2 188]

We always preferred full-swap. We made no mystery of it, we were there for sex with the other people. 

 

Having said that, if we were in to the other couple and they were soft-swap, we'd go along. Or if the other lady was having a bad-time of the month, I'd do soft-swap while my wife would go full (if that was okay with the other wife.)

 

We did soft-swap with single males more than once, but that was because when it came to push and he couldn't shove, what are you going to do?

[starswingers 23]

Full swap for me and my wife! We're both straight but close contact isn't a problem, which is a good job as its impossible to avoid during dvp!

 

Everyone's swinging journey is unique to them and that's why we love going to parties and meeting new people. Things that we said we would never do we now do, so our boundaries are forever changing.