I think that communication with ones spouse (or significant other) means they are "in tune" to each other, and know what the other would do in just about any situation. Sometimes, Dan and I can just exchange a glance I know what he is telling me (usually to get him something!) Just kidding, but if he is uncomfortable or not having a good time, I know it, without him telling me. For example, we were at a club recently with friends, and Dan got pissed about something (I was talking with someone at a different table, turned to look where he was sitting), and I knew immediately something was wrong. Although, I found many couples lately that are not on the same wave length with their spouse, and I have ask them how they communicate, and alot of couples don't. I think this could be the first problem but I am rambling so will stop for now.