What are your hangups & traits you hate?

I don't like women who are predatory....if you want to talk to or are interested in my man, then come and talk to both of us. Nothing drives me more crazy than the woman who waits for the two of us to part ways for whatever reason (ie: bathroom breaks, dance, getting drinks) and then she pounces. There is just something underhanded about it.

Male and female predators are unsavory to us. Single or not, get to know us both or it's a no go.

For me it is a couple who talk too much during sex. We were playing with this one couple and he kept telling me what he was going to do to me, and what he was doing to me, and he thought he was being kinky and he was just being stupid. It was gross. And it wasn't just him, his girlfriend was yelling at my husband, telling him to #@@! her harder, telling him she was a slut, she needed to be $#@!ed. It was ridiculous. They gave us no warning that they were into talking dirty and they were a very cute, and normal couple up until then. We just caught each other eyes, sort of laughed and made up some sort of safe word and got the hell out of there (hotel). You want to get a little kinky, maybe say a couple words, a little spanking, fine, but don't get crazy with the play by play, it is a real turn-off.

This is not a swinging problem, but I am sure if my ex was a swinger it would become someone's issue. He always asked after sex, "how many times did I make you cum tonight". There were several times I wanted to say 'Once...maybe twice, but the second was a little lame". Or he would say "I counted about 7 orgasms tonight". Um not you didn't. I came once. It was always in that lounge lizard tone. It really made me feel creepy afterwards.

Be proud of your sexual abilities but you don't have to brag ALL THE BLOODY TIME.

LOL! I didn't think we really had hang-ups per se, but after this thread, I guess we have all the same "hang-ups" that you all do! Don't like the creepy predators, the blatant/gross come-ons, the excessive dirty-talkers, or the "was it good for you baby?" types.

I'll add one. The Negotiator. You're dancing with a woman and the two of you are just being flirty, having fun, whatever. The husbands are watching from the side. You don't know this couple - they just happen to be in the club and you're just having fun. You haven't even had a conversation with them, yet. Just because you're dancing with his wife for the past few minutes, the other guy starts "negotiating" with your husband for the 4 of you to hook up (i.e. he wants to have sex with you). He assumes that your husband speaks for you and decides who you both are having sex with - and actually expects a yes or no??? Think again, buddy! No "deal"! This actually happened.

I am sure I have said this one 100 times before. But women who pretend they are bi sexual for what ever reason (hubby is pressuring them, they have convinced themselves they are bi) but after spending all your time getting to know them and making plans, you find out they are not even the least bit bi. And I am not talking about those who are bi curious and make that clear from the beginning either, I can respect that, it is those who come off like they have always been bi and have played with other women before.

I also don't like those aggressive people who don't seem to get it when you tell them no. It's like they have mental brain block.

And last but not least those people who have to be the centre of attention - they dominate every conversation, have lived ever scenario known to man, don't listen to anyone and try to make sure everyone wants them. In social settings I tend to be the one who does most of the listening, but sometimes I like to talk to.

Ohh my that was a bit of a rant wasn't it

I am sure I have said this one 100 times before. But women who pretend they are bi sexual for what ever reason (hubby is pressuring them, they have convinced themselves they are bi) but after spending all your time getting to know them and making plans, you find out they are not even the least bit bi. And I am not talking about those who are bi curious and make that clear from the beginning either, I can respect that, it is those who come off like they have always been bi and have played with other women before.

Yes! Something I've noticed about these: It's usually the husband "promoting" her as very bi or really interested in bi, during the getting-to-know-you phase. He's trying to make the sale. Then later, you learn that if all the stars are aligned right, she may lay back and "let" you do her, but she most certainly doesn't want to touch or do anything to you. In other words, NOT bi. I wouldn't touch that kind of woman with a 10-foot pole, she obviously doesn't want it.

We've found these couples to be a very pushy husband with a very passive wife.

We have also ran into a few of those in our times. I also agree with the drugs/drunk issue. When a couple spends all night running out to the car and comes back smelling like pepee le pew...then thanks but no thanks.

Also anyone who likes to brag about their latest conquests as though they are some sort of reference.

I think I'm my own biggest hangup. I have so many fears, not to mention I can't stand seeing my fat waist. I panic so much that I have a hard time staying wet. My hubby wants anal so much but the mear thought of it makes my asshole pucker...LOL. Although I've found Ambosol helps. I also start to feel bad that I think of being with a woman when we're having sex, so then I get distracted. How can I be so afraid of what I'm addicted to?

pushy single/alone males. no still means no, right? we are soft-swingers, with the occasional full-swap that requires the right couple/situation. i get up to get my wife and i another drink, take a bathroom break, whatever, and come back to find her telling some guy she is not interested, but he continues to try and convince her to go to the play area with him. give it a break, guys! no still means no!

Couples who post that they are "seeking couples" but really want a "single female." My husband and I have been in situations where the male and female of the other couple are interested in me and only me...my husband is a hottie and he is completely ignored...it is clear that they couldn't find a "single female" and so they started searching for couples. I know this is off-topic but I felt the need to share .

^^That's not off topic, Daisy, that's actually very informative.^^

As for me, it's not so much sexual as social, like at parties: The lecturer. Have you met him? There's no conversation, just him talking about how Rome didn't actually fall to the Barbarians but was destroyed by disease and politics and lack of trees and lead poisening the water and blahablah... I'm not saying I'm not interested in learning new things, but when I'm at a social gathering, I want to be social. Not attend a seminar on how smart Lawrence is.

I also don't like snobs at parties. It's hard enough to strike up a conversation with a stranger (for BOTH of us) and to start a conversation without people making it more difficult. Jeez, it's a society, at least be civil.

I am really turned off by: (and it won't matter how attractive you are)

1) Aggressive people

2) Dumb people (you know Jessica Simpson dumb)

3) Plastic people, (dressed in the finest, only order the finest, wouldn't get sweaty if their life depended on it types)

4) Potty mouth people

I concur with Amanda. Intelligence is the biggest turn on for me. Many plastic people are also a little on the 'impaired cutting edge mind' side. However, I will follow that to also say that plastic people may just be very very insecure and once you get past the plastic cover you might find some very nice people (maybe).

Gosh, we're pretty much with the crowd.

Looks really don't mean that much to us. We are looking for what's inside.

I like having an intelligent conversation.

I don't like people who have no sense of humour.

I have to echo Amanda on the plastic people part. I really don't care about socio-economic status. I just like "real" people.

I don't like people who are hygienically deficient. Shampoo and soap are not that expensive. Water is pretty much free. Yes, I've seen this with upper-middle class people.

I'm sure there are more, but the high-pitched whiney sounding cheerleader types do nothing for me, either.

Good Question, Shelly

We met a couple at a Meet n Greet here and invited them back for a hot tub chat... they were average, but we carried on some good conversation. Once in the tub, she felt the need to "add more of her own bubbles" to the water... not just once, or twice, or thrice, but it was pretty much a never ending parade of flatulence which continued after we got out of the tub... She never acknowledged any of this, by the way...

We bid them a fine farewell and emptied the hot tub the next day

she felt the need to "add more of her own bubbles"

OH Mylanta!! That's pretty much the most disgusting thing I've heard today.

Gosh, we're pretty much with the crowd.

 

Looks really don't mean that much to us. We are looking for what's inside.

 

I like having an intelligent conversation.

 

I don't like people who have no sense of humour.

 

I have to echo Amanda on the plastic people part. I really don't care about socio-economic status. I just like "real" people.

 

I don't like people who are hygienically deficient. Shampoo and soap are not that expensive. Water is pretty much free. Yes, I've seen this with upper-middle class people.

 

I'm sure there are more, but the high-pitched whiney sounding cheerleader types do nothing for me, either.

 

Good Question, Shelly

I like intelligence also. But please help me here...what would be good topics for intellegent conversation when you are naked in a hot tub? And I am serious about this question...not just making fun of the thread.

I like intelligence also. But please help me here...what would be good topics for intellegent conversation when you are naked in a hot tub? And I am serious about this question...not just making fun of the thread.

Well personally I wouldn't bring up the fact that the warm water in the hot tub is good for incubating germ. But that is a good question, and I am stumped.

The trait that gets to me most is excessive drinking. I have never been that comfortable around drunks and for me having sex with a drunk lady is about as sexually stimulating as doing yardwork.

Nearly any conversation in a hot-tub tends to be good

But really, we usually use the tub to get to know some history, likes, dislikes,swing-style, fetishes... or sometimes just sports chat with the men folk and kid chat with the ladies...

We usually will chat about Hedo and how much we love it there, and the many stories that we can tell about it...

Often, the hot tub gets "hot", then intelligent conversation turns into moans and... you know the rest... facelick

Bigots of any type.

We met a couple a while back. They were a well-dressed, attractive couple about our age. After talking to them for less than two minutes, we found out that she really disliked some of the not as well-dressed "trailer-trash" that were at the club (not knowing that she was talking about some very good friends of ours), and he had an absolute hatred for Canadians

Needless to say, we parted company very quickly.

I like intelligence also. But please help me here...what would be good topics for intellegent conversation when you are naked in a hot tub? And I am serious about this question...not just making fun of the thread.

To be honest, we've never been naked with others in a hot tub, so conversation wise, I can't answer. From the sounds of it, it sounds like I should try though.

jandg said:

Bigots of any type.

 

We met a couple a while back. They were a well-dressed, attractive couple about our age. After talking to them for less than two minutes, we found out that she really disliked some of the not as well-dressed "trailer-trash" that were at the club (not knowing that she was talking about some very good friends of ours), and he had an absolute hatred for Canadians

 

Needless to say, we parted company very quickly.

Hatred? of Canadians? What the hell could anyone find about us to actually hate? We apologize to our furniture if we bump into it! Would he prefer it, I suppose, if we did something more familiar? Like telling him to fuck off?

Bizarre.

As far as deal-breaking traits go, most of our deal-breakers are character flaws. For example, dishonesty is a big one. Don't tell us you're in your mid-thirties when it's blatantly obvious you're at least 10 years older. We have no problem playing with folks in their mid-40's or older; just don't try to trick us into something!

Other examples: chronically low self-esteem, chronic jealousy, lack of intelligence, insincerity (they like to use corny pick-up lines and make sleazy remarks), bigotry...

Traits to hate:

Pushy men

Drunk people

Gossips

Pretend swingers

Excessive screamers

Traits to love:

Women

Nicely groomed men

Sense of humour

Flirtiness

Mrs WA

PS - How can anyone hate Canadians? Canada is the nicest state in the U.S. *ducking*

TwoLittleBirds said:

^^That's not off topic, Daisy, that's actually very informative.^^

 

As for me, it's not so much sexual as social, like at parties: The lecturer. Have you met him? There's no conversation, just him talking about how Rome didn't actually fall to the Barbarians but was destroyed by disease and politics and lack of trees and lead poisening the water and blahablah... I'm not saying I'm not interested in learning new things, but when I'm at a social gathering, I want to be social. Not attend a seminar on how smart Lawrence is.

 

I also don't like snobs at parties. It's hard enough to strike up a conversation with a stranger (for BOTH of us) and to start a conversation without people making it more difficult. Jeez, it's a society, at least be civil.

I'm just the opposite, I love finding the lecturer and debating everything down to the tiniest detail. Partially because I am TERRIBLE at light conversation and have no clue what topics are fair game. You may find that the person who seems to be a snob is really just utterly terrified of saying the wrong things or doing the wrong thing. I am usually the one who appears to be a snob because I am so poor at social interaction until I have been around the person enough to be comfortable. I am not afraid of going up and saying hello to people or starting a conversation, I just know that it will end with them giving me a disapproving look because I said something they considered weird.

I'm not trying to point fingers , I know that I am weird, but I wish that socially competent people weren't so put off by those of us who don't have that ability. LOL I find that normal people have lots to teach me if I can get them to talk about something other than the weather or the condition of the building/town/roads etc.

Take pity on us TLB, turn the lecturer towards a subject that you both can have a lively and enjoyable conversation on. If the person is actually nice they will happily change the subject, and if they are jerks then you can prove that they don't have a clue what they are talking about. I love it when people actually TALK with me, they become more attractive and wonderful by the minute.

I positively hate people that

- are pushy

- drink/smoke dope excessively

- have poor grooming habits ie ladies with black facial hair/men with nose hair you could braid

- Crazy people..you know they type I'm talking about

- Serial killers

- People who claim to be ex-navy seals...did you know for every 1 real Navy seal there are 300 liers...really

...if you want to talk to or are interested in my man, then come and talk to both of us. Nothing drives me more crazy than the woman who waits for the two of us to part ways for whatever reason (ie: bathroom breaks, dance, getting drinks) and then she pounces. There is just something underhanded about it.

Mr teases the crap outta me because this is one of the very, very few situations that I can get incrediably pissed off at. Usually, I'm pretty laid back, go with the flow. This instantly gets my claws up.

We also avoid profiles that say anything along the lines of 'Looking for sexy single bi-female....and select couples' Couples being the after thought. We do not consider swinging a spectator sport. We do not consider Mr watching and twiddling himself while someone else and their man plays with me swinging. *shudder*

We do not deal well with jealous spouses. I cannot have a good time rocking someone else's man if I am constantly being monitored by his wife. Its one thing to look over and get all hot about it, another to look over and shoot daggers out of your eyes. It makes us both very uncomfortable when they have to have a meeting right in the middle of a good time (well, really, that was kinda the END of the mediocre time)

We don't like referee's. We've actually had a couple we have full swapped with stop play and say 'OK, well, you had xyz and we had xyz so its a fair trade.' WTF? So....we're done?

We have had some *really* awesome expiriences with some very cool people...so we stay in the game

EvilMJ said:

I am sure I have said this one 100 times before. But women who pretend they are bi sexual for what ever reason (hubby is pressuring them, they have convinced themselves they are bi) but after spending all your time getting to know them and making plans, you find out they are not even the least bit bi. And I am not talking about those who are bi curious and make that clear from the beginning either, I can respect that, it is those who come off like they have always been bi and have played with other women before.

I agree with you 100% on this. I myself in all honesty am minimally bi-curious. If you ask me I will tell you that I am straight. I will play, but more to set the mood vs. true sex. BUT I do also say this from jump. On the other hand, I hate it when a bi woman who is attracted to me tries to talk me into being bisexual! We have one couple, and the husband is convinced that I will become bisexual for his wife lol....and then we know a single woman who is constantly trying to convince me that I am missing something by not having sex with a woman. Its just all about honesty, but also about a little respect.

Abgirlie said:

I positively hate people that

- are pushy

- drink/smoke dope excessively

- have poor grooming habits ie ladies with black facial hair/men with nose hair you could braid

YUCK!!!! nose hair and ear hair are just gross...

Grooming and hygiene are most important to us. If you have yucky teeth you aren't even getting near us. No summer teeth allowed. Ya know some 'er here and some 'er there.. lol.

Polite well mannered people are a plus.

People that you would find on a Jerry Springer show are a negative.

My father-in-law is the lecturer in our family. To him, parties are the perfect time to prove to a large group how intelligent he is. Way too frustrating and irritating for me.

Hey ya'll. I have a question for you, and I would like your opinion. Is there any trait, other than looks, that would cause you not to play with a couple? I am talking a person who at first glance is great, you like them alot. BUT THEN they do something or say something that causes you to say "Oh hell no".

For instance, last night lost_j1 and I went out for a few drinks. And there were 2 couples there, handsome young people. Very friendly. BUT these 2 girls, being young caucasian girls, if I'm being politically correct here, have voices like the sirens. The really high pitch, baby, cheerleader voices. Like, I was waiting for one of them to scream "Go Team!" lol. I can't stand it. I could really envision myself stopping all play to tell her to please shut the you know what up!

So, thats my opinion lol.

Your story reminds me of a girl I met once that completely ruined the evening for myself and most of my friends I was with. We were at a party some friends of mine were having. Another guy who we were all friends with shows up with this girl (about 19yrs old). At the time we were all involved in amateur websites and swingers as well. This girl that showed up evidently had recently gotten involved in shooting porn, which is all fine. The problem was that she wouldn't stop talking the entire night. All any of us wanted to do was find a dick to stuff in her mouth to make her be quiet because she was killing it for the rest of us. At one point we were in the hot tub and she started up again with "this one time..." and before she could even get the last half of the sentance out I finished it for her with "at porn camp?!". Everyone in the hot tub busted up laughing but she completely missed the joke and just kept on with her story.

Crystal said:

My father-in-law is the lecturer in our family. To him, parties are the perfect time to prove to a large group how intelligent he is. Way too frustrating and irritating for me.

There are those types as well, I can't stand them either. I am actually more of the soap boxer type, I never leave home without it. The people who expect others to treat them as Socrates are actually great fun to bring down a peg or two.

For us,

Too much to drink.. Huge turn-off.

Cleanliness..we have actually met couples, usually men however, who look like they were just heading home from a baseball game and thought "hey let's go to the swingers club, maybe we can get laid". So, for us clean clothes, recently showered and teeth brushed. I mean you need to look like you gave the evening of sex your attention, that it wasn't and afterthought.

Finally, and this is big for us. Men bring your necessary tools of the trade...condoms. I can't believe how many times I've had to "lend" our playmates condoms. We are always impressed and pleased when a couple or single male come prepared with a goody bag.

Women who say they are bi, but you find out quickly they are not.

Couples who say they LOVE giving and receiving oral, but you realize the oral they like to give is lots of talking.

Couples who view another couple as a female with a necessary evil.

People who don't have the decency to take 10 seconds to send a 'thanks, but no thanks' note when you've taken the time to send them a nice note of interest. I can't mention how thrilled I am to actually receive a thanks but no thanks note!

Drama, jealousy and the like. I like to watch soap operas, not be IN them.

The men posing as couples who scurry off when you want to voice verify with the wife.

Those that claim they are full swap, then in the 'getting to know you phase' decide they are really only into the girl/girl action.

Just a few

For me its couple who talk too much during sex. We were playing with this one couple and he kept telling me what he was going to do to me, and what he was doing to me, and he thought he was being kinky and he was just being stupid. It was gross. And it wasnt just him, his girlfriend was yelling at my husband, telling him to #@@! her harder, telling him she was a slut, she needed to be $#@!ed. It was ridiculous.

There you have it... One couple's turn-off is another couple's turn-on. We actually enjoy dirty talk. facelick

Actually, we hold back a good bit when we're playing with others, just in case they feel the same as you. After all, we swing to have fun, not to scare others.

They gave us no warning that they were into talking dirty and they were a very cute, and normal couple up until then.

We relish the fact that we aren't a normal couple.

Turnoffs for us? Drunks, most definitely drunks.

And those that have a grooming deficiency.

Amanda - I know for sure that Canadians are far from passive I have seen the hockey and there's not a lot of passivity exhibited in the game. I think Canadians are just genuinely nice people (on the whole) and I think it confuses a lot of Americans because we think they are hiding something...

Anyhoo... I love Canada - I love playing in Canada - I love everything about it. Plus the hottest women in the world live in Vancouver, BC - oh mama I love that place!

Mrs WA

Other examples: chronically low self-esteem, chronic jealousy, lack of intelligence, insincerity (they like to use corny pick-up lines and make sleazy remarks), bigotry...

I agree with Intuition on the traits above. It's really a mood killer for me when someone we're playing with has to have constant reasurance about their looks, personality, etc. If we weren't attracted to them, why would we invite them to our bedroom?

I can think of one particular woman who whined for an hour straight about how fat she was (she wasn't), how she hated her hair, how her feet were ugly (??), and on and on she went, fishing for compliments. Let's just say, we didn't end up playing with her. Or calling again. Confidence is attractive to us.

you've all hit the nail on the head, but i must add one or two more. I don't like a prejudice couple and a couple that stares. It's freaky. It make you feel like a piece of meat waiting to be bought. If your interested come over and talk to us. I get along with just about everybody.I do have it bad if i don't like you.I'm not rude, but i won't have much to say to you.I'll just let you do all the talking before i find a polite way to say i'm out of here.

I do find Bigotry a big turn off. WHen we first got started in swinging I was out with the woman of the couple we play with at a bar having a girls night when she points out a swinger couple and comments that she wouldn't play with them because he was Asian. She also said another time that she would never play with anyone in a wheelchair. Needless to say we no longer play together.

In all seriousness, I'm not sure if the ability to write well is a trait; however for us it is important. We have received mail via SLS and read the profile and immediately responded with a resounding no just because of poor writing. I am not the world's best speller, but there are some handy tools out there to help me along. I'll cut someone slack on a posting site such as this one, but not on SLS. A couple should try to put their best foot forward on SLS, I sometimes think to myself, if that's their best foot, I am not interested. So I suppose it goes along the lines of intelligence.

Once we meet, proper grammar will do wonders for my perception of someone. When I hear improper English, it sounds like nails on a chalk board. I don't want to sound stuck up, I am more refereeing to the use of "Ain't" "them" when "those" should have been used, etc...

So I suppose the list of traits I hate are:

1. lack of intelligence.

2. Liars

3. Rude people

4. B.O. (take a shower and put on some deoderant!)

Traits I hate the most...hmmmm...thought provoking.

-lack of hygiene, you do not have to be the best looking, but at least take a shower, grab some deodorant.

-pushy people, No does mean No, at least it still does according to Webster.

-LIARS

-creepy people that become too attached. You know the ones. They have known you five minutes and all of a sudden you are their BFF (best friend forever)

-bigots most of all

-and those that think "i gradiate da fif grade (while holding up four fingers)" is intelligent.

In all seriousness, I'm not sure if the ability to write well is a trait; however for us it is important. We have received mail via SLS and read the profile and immediately responded with a resounding no just because of poor writing.

 

When I hear improper English, it sounds like nails on a chalk board.

Thank you!! I was afraid that I might be alone in this! Like you, iambic pentameter is not required, but at least use a spell checker if you need one! You should know if you need one. I'm a big eBay fan (when you like old cars, you have to be), and I've read many ads there that, when I finish, I still have no idea that that person is selling!

As far as Canadians...well, you know, those flappy heads and cars with square wheels...what's not to hate? (Southpark reference, folks!) Maybe we United Staters are secretly afraid of the Maple Leaf of Oppression!

Mmmmmmm...Canadian/Canadienne women! How exotic! Sadly, I've never experienced a Canadian woman's charms. What am I lacking? The scent of maple syrup or back bacon? (I now realize that hemp would be a better substitute for back bacon if it's a charmer from the Far West, eh?) The inability to prepare a satisfying poutine the morning after? The fact that I drop the "u" from labour, change the "c" in defence to "s"? That I organise things with a "z"...er..."zed"? That I can't get them Sidney Crosby's autograph although he is now spending more than half of every year in the 'Burgh?

Or do they dislike me for I desire them simply because they are Canadian?

Or maybe I'm just a loser? (No responses on that point, please.)

But I digress.

One of the traits that I REALLY dislike in some couples is the "Bickerson Complex". That would be a reference to the 1940s radio show concerning a couple that were constantly engaged in verbal war, much like Al and Peggy Bundy trading barbs in the U.S. 1980s-1990s tv program Married With Children. I wasn't aware of the term used to describe such couples -- The Bickersons -- until I was in my thirties and some acquaintances were working on their divorces. How naive of me.

I don't mind couples engaging in humorous (humourous?) needling of each other, but when one spouse constantly insults the other, and vice versa, I know how I view them, and I'm wondering what they're going to think of me.

What amazes me is that they are so inured to their verbal sparring that they can't see how others view it. If they aren't happy together already, how am I going to be happy in a limited sexual relationship with them AND keep them happy?

As desperate as I am occasionally for sex, I have dismissed a couple on first meeting for this.

P.S. I don't blame Canada...not entirely...

STUPID CLOSE MINDED PEOPLE

that's it, everyone else is okay.

traits we hate

1. those who are jelous (even if they say in the past he/she was jelous)

2. those who dont know what they want out of this lifestyle.

3. Loud or rude people...ones that dont understand we dont talk loudly in public about who we have been with!

4. women that ask hubby to marry them right after they finish having sex! (it is funny now but wasnt at the time)

5. men that think within 5 minutes of meeting they should check out my tonsils or put their hands all over me without making sure I am even interested.

6. People who are trying to fix their marriage.

1. Poor spelling and grammar

2. Pushy, stalkers, liars, game players. I don't think any of us really go out looking for a lying and pushy stalker, do we?

3. Ones that think they are my analyst. Seriously - I think I like MFMs best because I've never had even one of these fine gentlemen ask me what I was thinking or feeling once, much less 18 times, unlike the last man of the couple we were with.

4. Don't know how to say this - but those who belch and fart as if it's just a normal thing to do in front of people you don't really know (same man from this weekend - it was a pretty craptacular weekend!) These are bodily functions I won't even perform in front of my husband. I can leave a room, go outside, use a bathroom. I don't need to gross anyone out!

5. Those who won't leave you alone even if you've directly told them thanks, but no thanks, I don't think this will work. (Yep, same guy from the couple from the weekend). I can't wait for the next email - I'm sure it's going to be something like that I'm jealous, or immature, or insecure, when it's more like "I DON'T LIKE YOU!".

6. The men who immediately descend upon me in a club if my husband goes to the restroom.

rpu3 said:

2. Pushy, stalkers, liars, game players. I don't think any of us really go out looking for a lying and pushy stalker,

I forgot this one....yes those that show up at your house without you telling them where you live!

biblonde said:

I forgot this one....yes those that show up at your house without you telling them where you live!

Have you actually had that happen? Oh my...

I've had to be very careful not to reveal my last name to anyone until we are REALLY sure about someone. Heck, I hate the fact that my name is plastered on my work badge in a company with more than 6K employees on the main site alone - there are plenty of freaks alone just riding the elevator! It is amazing how much information is readily available to anyone with a clue via the internet - and having a rather distinct last name is just the key needed to find your address, etc... Then again, a home phone number is all that is needed if you are listed.

Sorry, got off track...

I'm not a fan of no pictures of the males on a couple profile (how am I supposed to be interested) and only penis shots on the single men profiles (sorry, I'm interested in more than just a penis....I'm not going to marry you, but I need just a bit more information... 1 penis shot would be plenty if you had to have one).

It happened once! Hubby wasnt at all thrilled...they never showed up here again. We had been friends for a while and if they would have called we wouldnt have had any problem with it since he was out front working on his car. They only knew the general erea and looked for our cars...was weird to say the least. That was over 2 years ago. We have ran into some pretty stange things but luckily we dont get to excited over the bad or stange things...we figure it is something to learn from and move on. there is always something good to be found out there and most of our encounter have been pretty great!!

DITTO to all of the above posts but one of the things that makes me nuts (The Other Mrs. Menage) is the number of people who have broken their OWN rules .......We have seen this happen SOOOO many times of late it's actually has forced us to have to institute some guidelines just to protect ourselves Surrender !

The Other Mrs. Menage