NCcuriouscpl
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15 GoodAbout NCcuriouscpl
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Personal Info
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Relationship Status
Couple
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Location
Concord, NC
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Interests
Nudists, Scuba Divers, HD riders, Wine Drinkers, and all erotic fun games...........
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Occupation
He/Truck Driver, Her/Management
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Swinging Experience
6 months
Swinger Info
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SLS Name
FantaseaCpl
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Favorite Club(s)
The Estate, CF
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NCcuriouscpl started following Getting started swinging - Are we normal?, Age differences among swing playmates, Erectile dysfunction has led to a fear of being left out and and 3 others
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Age differences among swing playmates
NCcuriouscpl replied to ohash01's topic in Curious About Swinging?
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What's your swinger status?
NCcuriouscpl replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
Patience is a virtue! LOL....durn it! Someone will come along when you least expect it and knock yalls socks off (and more hopefully!) We are active in the lifestyle and at the clubs lurking every weekend. What is active? IMHO, that means you are out there in some sort of 'play mode' regularly.....but it doesn't necessarily mean you are constantly 'horizontal'! Remember flirting, caressing, dancing and playing are ALL forms of a 'softer attitude' also!- 71 replies
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From what you've said so far about the 'other wife'......it sounds like she has some 'issues' with playing with males other than her 'hubby' to me. Remember originally she 'wasn't ready'. Sounds like she still isn't 'ready'. She may never be 'ready'. We have 'played' with a couple that my hubby has similar problems with the 'other wife'. She's fine with me, she's fine with her hubby or when we are all playing together.........but when it comes to 'two on two', things change. With her, it seems to be an 'attention' issue.....she doesn't like her husbands attention going to me, she wants it all. We've quit playing with this couple because there seem to be too many 'games' being played. Of course you want to see what their reply is before you make a decision to move forward. But if it were me, I would suggest it regardless. The situation is causing problems for you personally, and it doesn't sound like you have done anything that could have caused it. I like the FMF idea, and I think you should give it a try! After having a 'play time that wasn't productive' sometimes a boost to the ego is helpful! Keep us posted on how it goes!!
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Not many couples our age (young)?
NCcuriouscpl replied to kristielane82's topic in Curious About Swinging?
On the opposite side of the age group, I had some questions from an 'older couple' (60's) this past weekend just getting into the lifestyle....as they felt like they were 'outnumbered'!! They asked if anyone had thought of having a 'special nite for SENIORS'!! My answer to them was......'Well, wouldn't that be discriminatory?' Lol, not a laughing matter.....but, I think that those younger AND older than the average 'median' age group sometimes feel uncomfortable in a new setting. After all.....they are uncomfortable with the new setting ANYWAY at first!! Young/Old, Big/Small, Pretty/Ugly.....we all have feelings about ourselves that may be positive/or negative. But there are always some folks in the group that will have an interest in each other..... Just my 2 cents worth -
Evil, Thrax is correct by all means. Southern Tradition on New Years is to eat a meal of Greens (usually collards or cabbage) to ensure WEALTH in the next year, Black Eye Peas ....to ensure HEALTH, and Pork (usually served as chitlins, fatback or jowls .....of which I prefer the latter, it's similar to bacon) for LUCK. facelick Of course the meal is always best when served with a healthy portion of good friends to share with, and LOL........SEX! (oh and by the way, I used to BE a YANKEE many years ago! ) We wish everyone the best of above for the New Year!! MsNCCurious...........
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For the Ladies: Pushy or Flirting?
NCcuriouscpl replied to 28volts's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
Evil...I wouldn't call that babble at all! You said it VERY nicely!! IMHO, the key here is 'permission'......did you ask? Did you offer before proceeding? I know I prefer to be asked beforehand, so that if I WANT to say NO I have the option....but I may just as easily say YES! If I'm not asked first tho, it puts me on the defensive immediately....and WATCH OUT! It may also put Mr.NCCurious on the defensive too........ If you've done the above tho, and still had a problem.....well, some people just aren't as good at communications as others........ MsNCCurious -
Well said, Blondie! We did the same thing originally.....and now practice basically the same two rules. I believe it's all the 'learning' process and things tend to work out for themselves if you'll just let them! Since going to the midwest doesn't appear to be good....and no one really wants to go northeast this time of year......Why don't yall come south this weekend for some good ole black eyed peas, collards and chittlins????? facelick (not to mention the fun to be had afterward!!) Happy New Year everyone! NCCuriouscpl
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What aphrodisiacs have you tried?
NCcuriouscpl replied to alabamafuntonig's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
Yes for us too. Best aphrodisiac is each other......... However, red wine can be divine also! We LOVE to share a nice bottle of beaujolais before bedtime, and it 'warms the cockles'.....plus other things! I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas! MsNCCurious -
How do you feel about being naked?
NCcuriouscpl replied to Chris&Amelia's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
We were nudists long before we came into the lifestyle, so being nude is normal for us. I often have friends at CF ask how I can be so 'self assured' without clothing at parties, so I guess it is natural for those of us that have accepted our bodies. There are also quite a few 'lifestylers' that frequent the nudist resorts..... .......so for those who haven't tried it, it may be something to think about! Anyone wanting to try the nudist lifestyle but don't know where to go can check out https://www.aanr.com/ the national org. for nudism. NUDE RULES!! (at least at our house!)- 119 replies
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Losing Lifestyle Friends & Don't Understand Why
NCcuriouscpl replied to a topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
We certainly understand and AGREE! Although we've not been in the lifestyle as long (6 months), it seems when you've found the 'perfect' couple and chemistry seems to fit.....something happens to the relationship over time! We HAVE found just ONE couple that we have a perfect friendship with, like your are looking for. We HAVE NOT EVER played with them however, and we joke that it may not be a good idea to 'mess up' the friendship. It's not a joking manner tho........and we all value what we have with our friends! Good luck in your search, and try not to be discouraged....you will eventually find what you are looking for. 'Jaded'? Yes, we've been there more than once....! 'Socially defective'? Yep, been there too! You are certainly not doing anything wrong, we all have similar problems.....I guess it's all part of the experiences of life............ I hope all have a great weekend! -
Age Differences within Couples
NCcuriouscpl replied to Roxysbayou's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
To us, age is a frame of mind. It is WHAT the couple FEELS about themselves! We are both the same age.....lol, I'm 3 months older than MrNCCurious and of course he jokingly calls me the 'older woman'! We have played with couples much younger than us, much older and also in the same age group. Everyone is different, and all were unique experiences. For some reason....we don't see age in people, just people! MsNCCurious........ -
Yes, we in the South love our Cheerwine!! I grew up in New England tho, where a 'soft drink' was actually called 'tonic'! Yep, sounded like you were drinking medicine! Of course, I'm dating myself there!! I now live in the land of 'tea', where you'd better let the waitress know if you want it UNsweet or you will get a very sugary drink. And you order a soft drink or soda when you want something 'fizzy'. :rollseyes TGIF ALL!! It's time to party! MsNCCurious
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Getting started swinging - Are we normal?
NCcuriouscpl replied to nccouple861's topic in Curious About Swinging?
Actually, Mr. NCcurious is very picky. Comes with good taste. It should work for both of you, or you should pass on the couple. No one should consider taking 'one for the team'! That's totally up to you, but what you may want to consider is playing by yourselves in a group room setting the first time. You then get an idea of what is going on around you, and that in itself is a definite 'turn on'! LOL....wow, we sure we're! But once you are in the environment, everything falls into place and you should simply enjoy what feels good to you both as a couple............just be sure to talk, talk, talk to one another! Happy Turkey day everyone! Ms.NCcurious -
How to ask would you like to have sex?
NCcuriouscpl replied to twoartists's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
I agree with Tybee, and you simply should ask if they'd like to go upstairs with you. It seems in our short experience in the lifestyle, that many do not want to take the first step and face possible rejection. Good luck to you, if you visit the Estate look us up! MsNCcurious -
Although we have stepped up to full swap, we started as soft swap and still enjoy it! Not all couples do, but we feel that among friends you should go with what is comfortable for all. That's what building new friendships are all about! At our club, same room sex or any type of soft swap is not a problem upstairs. It's truly YOUR business what you do, as long as you follow the rules of 'undress' in the play areas that 'are not' clothing optional. Enjoy what feels good, and what is right for both of you as a couple! MsCurious