I recently joined the site swinglifestyle...trial registration to give it a whirl. Anyway, after putting a profile up I was inundated with mail within the first 2 days from people that didn't even fit our criteria, and my profile didn't even display a picture as of yet (I guess the site takes a day or so to review your pics before displaying them in your profile). Eek, who are these people that are so eager to meet with such minimal information. I begin to wonder what I might be getting myself into.
Anyway, I (i.e. my wife and I) are/am genuinely interested in pursuing this lifestyle, yet feeling excited and nervous at the same time. We are newbies and very leery of the lack of authenticity and forthrightness we might further encounter. Our problem might be further complicated by the fact that we are, at least initially, only seeking men (for my wife to enjoy), and, unlike couples, many single men seem to mindlessly crowd about when they hear the word "sex".
We are patient and looking for the right type of individuals. Any recommendations from more experienced couples or individuals on what to look for in ads to determine if someone is being genuine and truthful, better sites or places in which to participate, how to best communicate to maintain discretion, and how and where to actually go about meeting in person?
Thanks for listening :-)