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ktimephoenix last won the day on April 16 2009
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ktimephoenix started following Swinging is Not For Everyone, Why, why, why do they lie about weight?, Do you ever help newbie swingers? and and 3 others
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Top 10 Stupid Things to Do in Swinging
ktimephoenix replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
making unnatural or unnatennable rules (like one couple we were back and forthing with on the net had a rule that neither partner could kiss during foreplay, but could kiss during sex, but only if both partners kissed their swing partners at the same time). and one i'm guilty of. expecting 4 people to hit it off, be attracted enough to one another to have sex, all within 10 minutes of meeting. -
Why, why, why do they lie about weight?
ktimephoenix replied to NCfuncouple98's topic in Finding People to Swing With
mrs P and i are overweight... we don't bother lying about it... i mean if the weight puts them off on paper, i don't think we'd have clicked anyway... Mrs P has a rule, if there are no body shots, add 40 pounds to the listed weight. it hasn't been wrong yet!!!! in saying that, Mrs P actually prefers bigger women, both to play with, and so she doesn't feel intimidated by a "skinnier" girl. this is one thing that harms those that lie. -
how so? if the O.P's posts are truthful, the man in question has previously been controlling (both financially and emotionally). could it also be that she swung for 6 years for the same reason battered women don't leave straight away? the fear of being alone is more powerful than the pain their facing in the present? again, if the O.P. is telling the truth, the "swing or separate" mantra was in place from the beginning
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the rest just hurt my head to read, this comment however, is a big red flag to me. if actions are a bigger indicator than words, therefore if you stay with a partner, you must really love the relationship (or it has more good than bad in it)... What of victims of domestic (physical OR emotional) abuse? many find it hard to leave the relationship out of fear, or other "warped" emotions. no one would insist that a woman being beaten by her husband shouldn't walk out when she finally works up the courage to confront the problem, or leave him, because "she has stayed with him for years"... She may not be apposed to non-monogomous relationships with the right person/at the right time in her life etc... or perhaps she dabbled to satisfy a curiosity??? i mean would you tell me that there is no way in hell i hate the taste of avocado, because i've eaten it before?
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For all your Hyperbole, you agree they have relationship problems yes? (see your quote above). relationship problems and swinging DO NOT go together... no matter what "picture" she is painting, the root of the matter is that they have marital problems. he continues to want to swing. swinging SHOULD NOT be an option until the problems are sorted. no matter how much of a saint "his" side of the story could paint him as, one, or both these people are not at an emotionally stable level to swing.
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Do you ever help newbie swingers?
ktimephoenix replied to truckerbuddy's topic in Curious About Swinging?
we have talked to many newbies as well. entering the lifestyle we found most couples were happy to help/talk/ease our minds when we started. Although the phrase "take beneath our wing" does trouble me. there is at least one couple (that by my judgement) in our "Scene" here, actively seeks out newbs, and ends up exploiting them (first time, not sure what to expect, run the play to suit them etc), and turning them off of meeting alot of other good couples (by spreading rumours). we actually had them try it on us... they obviously weren't paying attention when we were saying that we weren't inexperienced. -
slight offtopic... but i have yet to find one that doesn't let their personal bias colour their therapy sessions. it's human nature. to Katie... the O.P. has expressed a pretty strong distaste for the "swinging" side of things. my (possibly naive) belief is that "swinging" is supposed to be an enhancement to a relationship, BUT the primary relationship and the emotional wellbeing of both members are more important than the swinging... obv
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you ARE thinking too much about it. dump him... OR at least drop the swinging. it's not working for you, and your husband won't respect your feelings on it all... so it's not swinging. it's "justified" cheating. there may be 100 reasons WHY your finding swinging unenjoyable, but without a TRUELY supportive husband, there is no reason to even start looking at them. your husband isn't practicing swinging. if he were, your feelings would be as important if not more important as his own
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Have a condom fit problem, hope for advice!
ktimephoenix replied to Chemistryamust's topic in Let's Talk About Sex
see if you can try one made of something other than latex... may be a latex sensitivity? -
I have seen one lady on the Aussie dating site that advertises she has herpies, and will only play with people who are diagnosed with herpies.
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We don't use that line, but we definately fit the description. Mrs P is usually thought to be late 20's, me early 30's when conversing... even though we're late teens/early 20's...
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A strange trend? Seeking 'financially secure' swingers
ktimephoenix replied to shy_couple's topic in Curious About Swinging?
see we'd read that as "we require discretion as we are professionals with a reputation that could be sullied by accusations of swinging, and we may not be able to play at the drop of the hat due to family commitments". -
The Top WRONG Reasons to Swing
ktimephoenix replied to BiloxiCouple's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
ever since Mrs XXXXX has found out i had herpe's, our sex life has dwindled? -
A strange trend? Seeking 'financially secure' swingers
ktimephoenix replied to shy_couple's topic in Curious About Swinging?
I think it's a "nice" way of ensuring you don't get mr and mrs welfare in the sack, so that A: you can actually relate with the person, and B: you are not stuck with the bill. I mean if one couple thinks that McD's value menu is high class dining, and the other feels $15 for a meal is reasonable, there are going to be issues when it comes time to choose the meeting/play place. Even before the "crisis" in Australia at least, plenty of people listed that they were "professionally employed", or stated that they were after "employed people". -
Common Newbie Swinger Mistakes
ktimephoenix replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Curious About Swinging?
hang on, just using your first name will let them track down your boss and tell them you swing? that's a bit far fetched... if your husband "knows everyone" then a good chance is that they'd recognise HIM with or without the "fake name". how is using "julie" instead of "maria" going to protect your child??? i understand not giving out addresses, employment history, or banking details, but this sounds a TAD paranoid.- 226 replies
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